If you ask a girl the type of guy that she is willing to date or get into a relationship with, she’ll say something like:
“I want a NICE GUY… who is sensitive, caring, romantic… a guy who will be my best friend.”
But when you’re out and about and you look around, you will notice that the majority of girls seem to be found with truly ‘bad boys’ or guys who are exactly the opposite of what they say they want.
Why is that?
Truth is, it’s not what girls say they want, but it’s what they are attracted to.
Girls choose the guys that they feel attracted to, but not necessarily the guys that are good for them.
As dating expert David DeAngelo has written:
“When we are attracted to someone else, it takes control of us and there’s almost NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT.”
Acting OVERLY nice doesn’t necessarily make a girl feel attraction for you
Most guys try to prove themselves to girls that they are good for them by buying them stuff, spending expensively on them, and whatnot.
They take a girl out and spend tons of money on her to prove that they can provide for her and all that.
They smother a girl with attention, call a girl 24/7, be at a girl’s beck and call, act apologetic at the slightest mistake in order not to offend a girl.
…all in the hopes that the girl feels attracted to them.
Yes, these acts may seem like the way to go about getting a girl or a woman to like you.
But truth is, not only do girls find such behaviors and actions unattractive or lacking the force to stir up her passion and lust for you, they see them as a manipulative tactic we guys use to try and have sex with them, and nothing more.
Sure, girls like nice things and attention and pampering, but trying to impress a girl – most especially a clever one and one who is savvy and knows her way through the singles jungle – with money and nice things WON’T make her feel attracted to you.
If you have the belief that a girl should feel attracted to you because you do nice things for her, then you’re dead wrong.
Truth is, no amount of gifts and favors will make a girl feel attraction for you.
Unless of course, an average girl with low self-esteem.
Buy gifts and do favors for a girl you’re already in a long-term relationship with… and not a girl you’re trying to attract.
You may be the right guy for a girl – the guy who can provide for her and all that, but if you DON’T do things or act in a way that stirs up passion and lust inside her, you don’t stand a chance of getting her to WANT you.
So, what type of guy does a girl feel attracted to or go for?
A guy who is totally confident with himself and with girls.
A guy who doesn’t try to please a girl or win her affection with gifts. But demonstrate to her he’s the prize.
A guy who takes the lead role with girls and takes charge of situations.
A guy with a sense of humor who can make her laugh without trying too hard.
A guy who can communicate with her on an emotional level… who listens to her, understands her and can tap into the way she feels about a topic.
A guy who is adventurous and fun to be around.
A guy who is not afraid to express his opinion or disagree with girls when they’re in the wrong.
A guy who can give her that feeling of sexual tension, through touching, flirting, etc.
Girls also feel attracted to a guy they CANNOT CONTROL… a guy who can deal with their tests and drama. A guy who seems to be a challenge to her… or who doesn’t give her what she wants, so to speak.
To summarize… the kind of guy girls find attractive and go for is a guy who is the OPPOSITE of the needy ‘nice’ guys she meets most of the time.
If you can be this type of attractive guy or embody the above qualities, you will make a girl feel attraction for you. But if you follow what movies and society teach you on how to ‘nicely’ treat a girl, then you’re going to spend a lot of money and invest a lot of time and energy on a girl who may never feel attracted to you.
Final words… and how to make a girl choose you from the lot
As you’ve learned, it’s not acting OVERLY nice that causes or makes a girl find you attractive…
…it is NOT calling a girl 24/7, doing her favors, or spending money on her that makes her feel attraction for you.
It’s about exhibiting MANLY personality.
If you want to make a girl choose you from the crowd, you have to stand out in an attractive way.
First and foremost, you have to avoid the ‘nice guy’ behavior, and then demonstrate attractive personality traits.
Because, as I’ve explained, girls are far more attracted to attractive personality traits you exhibit than being nice and acting wimpish.
Now, here’s the good news…
…if a girl feels a strong attraction for you, it doesn’t matter whether you are ugly-fat, lives on the street, or have a zero balance in your bank account. if she feels attraction for you, there’s almost nothing she can do about it but WANT you.
So there you have it.
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