When it comes to women and dating, one of the most common questions that many guys ask is, “Why do girls play hard to get?”
To many guys, the reasons why girls or women play hard to get is a mystery, a constant headache, a frustrating experience that not only causes them to feel discouraged but does in an annoying way.
So in this short article, I’m going to share with you why girls play hard to get and what to do when a girl or a woman you desire is playing hard to get with you.
Why do girls or women play hard to get?
You probably have the personality and qualities that are naturally attractive to women.
You’re fun to be around…
…you have a great sense of humor…
…you’re a great conversationalist and whatnot.
So why does a girl play hard to get with you?
Even when you’re with a girl you desire, she seems to like your company and wants to hang out with you more often. So why is she playing hard to get? Why does she play hard to get despite the fact that you’re already in a serious relationship with her?
Why girls play hard to get
Girls or women play hard to get because:
- they don’t want to be perceived as easy… therefore, if she’s difficult to get, then she is valuable.
- they want to know if a guy is really interested in them. If a guy goes to the trouble to have her, then he really loves her.
- they are used to guys desperately pursuing them… so they play hard to get not only because they love it when guys pursue them, but they want to control the guys to their own advantage.
Well, these are the main reasons why girls play hard to get.
Now, what is a guy to do?
What to do when a girl or a woman plays hard to get
When the girl you desire plays hard to get with you, you have three options:
- Pursue her harder
- Give up and find another girl
- Use her own game back at her
Let go into detail.
Pursue her harder
From the above reasons why girls play hard to get, the first two tells us that girls or women want to be perceived as valuable. And thus, if you really want to have her or you don’t want to lose her, you would have to pursue her harder and do everything she wants.
You would have to cave to her demands and give her whatever she asks for.
You would have to buy her things and spend money on her.
You would want to express your feelings wholeheartedly to her.
On the whole, you would want to do things to show her that you value her and are really interested in her.
Now, here… you have to realize that you’re giving away your power. And thus, giving the girl ultimate control over you.
You also have to realize that her game of playing hard to get with you is not going to stop anytime soon. Because once she realizes you’re interested in her, she starts to play even HARDER to get.
That being said, you also have another option.
And that is to…
…give up and find another girl
When a girl plays hard to get and it’s too much for you, you have an option to give up and move on.
You can find another girl who will want you. And wouldn’t bother playing hard to get with you.
Now, this is a good option to follow. After all, why bother and invest a lot of time, energy, and money pursuing a girl or a woman who may not or may never have affection for you.
Okay, so now, the third option is to…
Use her own game back at her
Now, what this option means is to play hard to get yourself.
Instead of pursuing her or giving up and moving on… you SUBTLY play hard to get yourself and make her chase you.
Because for whatever reason a girl might have as to why she plays hard to get with you, you would want to nonverbally communicate to her you’re NOT going to give her what she wants.
Because if you don’t have her already and you have to work hard for her approval, then it means you have to do some wussy things, including caving to her demands, giving her whatever she asks for, buying her things, and spending money on her to get her approval.
But to hell with it, you’re not going to do that.
Indeed, this is a better way to deal with a girl or a woman playing hard to get. [Read ‘How to Play Hard to Get with A Girl‘]
Now, why option #3?
Why use her own game back at her?
Why play hard to get with a girl?
…because you don’t want to be like the guys she meets who desperately pursue her.
You’d want to be different in an attractive way.
If she expects you to pursue her, you’re not going to do that. Heck, if she rejects you, you’re going to find another awesome girl to replace her.
When a girl plays hard to get with you, she WANTS you to work hard for her approval. Or more precisely, she wants you to CHASE her.
But to borrow a phrase from dating expert David DeAngelo, “It’s far better to ATTRACT a woman than to CHASE one”.
Now, if you never give a woman or a girl exactly what she wants, but you play hard to get yourself, you separate yourself from the other guys she meets and you stand out in an attractive way, and she will become even more attracted to you.
So there you have it… why girls play hard to get and what to do when a girl you desire plays hard to get.
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