As a girl, you want to spark guys’ interest, you want to be attractive and attract guys, you want a guy to WANT you and treat you like you’re the only girl in the world for him…
…but there are certain things you do or certain behaviors you exhibit that lower your attractiveness and cause a guy to lose interest in you.
It’s either you’re showing these behaviors on purpose and you see nothing wrong with them or you’re unknowingly exhibiting (showing) them.
The ones you do on purpose may NOT seem like a big deal to you, but these behaviors can cause a guy to lose interest in you, and consequently, withdraw.
You can lose a catch of a lifetime.
You will have a guy who will WANT you at first but once he notices these unattractive behaviors, he is likely to withdraw and find someone else.
Now, what unattractive behaviors am I talking about here?
Let’s get to it.
Most guys pick up on a girl’s general behavior to determine whether they have to be with her or leave.
Some Unattractive Behaviors that Lower a Girl’s Attractiveness
#1 – Playing extremely hard to get
The keyword here is extremely.
Yes, it’s within your rights to play hard to get.
Here, you will be perceived as a good catch. Because if you’re an easy catch, you will come across as, precisely, easy. [Read: ‘Does Playing Hard to Get Work?’]
Now the truth is… when you play hard to get to the extreme, and thus, makes you unattractive in the end.
What you probably don’t know is that, when you are extremely hard to get for a guy, you are somehow telling him (non-verbally) that you are not interested in him.
Here, with all his advances and efforts, he is going to feel he is wasting his time with you, and he won’t bother to pursue you any longer.
This is even more unattractive when you try to use the guy to your advantage at the same time.
This is what you do instead:
Show a little interest in the guy, and mix it up with a little uninterestedness.
This way, the guy will have to pursue you a little, to finally have you.
“The amount of interest you show in a guy has to be just right, which will give him the indication that you’re interested and at the same time, gives him the indication that he might have to pursue you a little, to finally attain you”, says dating expert Alex Carter.
“The keyword is ‘a little’ and not ‘a lot’. Because if you pull back too much and play really hard to get, then he will feel overwhelmed and not bother to pursue you at all. So in a nutshell, you need to maintain a good level of balance between pushing him and pulling him towards you”.
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Playing really hard to get reduces its effectiveness, and thus, makes you unattractive in the end.
#2 – Trying to use a guy to your advantage from a financial point of view
Not all men are the same.
Sure, it’s every guy’s responsibility to take care of his woman…
…but trying to take advantage of a guy from a financial point of view is unattractive.
It makes us loathe you, and consequently, lose interest quickly.
This is different from having your guy do romantic things for you once in a while.
But when you are money-oriented and you make a guy work for your approval with money, he is going to perceive you as a gold digger and thus will find you unattractive.
Sure, you’re attractive, the guy likes you, and he gives you a lot of attention…
…but when it becomes like you are trying to use him from a financial point of view, he’s likely to get fed up and withdraw.
The ‘approval-seeking’ guy will spend tons of money on you, but most guys will get fed up and leave.
You want a guy to willingly spend money on you… don’t make your relationship solely about money and material possessions.
Most guys, especially the jerks know the games girls play, and they don’t let a girl who is money-oriented get away with it… they will take advantage of such a girl any way they can.
Jerks know the games girls play, and they don’t let a girl who is money-oriented get away with it… they will take advantage of such a girl any way they can.
The next unattractive behavior that makes a guy lose interest quickly is…
#3 – Not showing interest in what the guy has an interest in
If your guy has a passion for something and you don’t show any interest whatsoever, he is going to feel emotionally distraught.
Or if he wants the two of you to do something together and you don’t show any interest, that also hurts.
Here, you are demonstrating you care less about his life.
You give him the impression that you are self-absorbed – you are only concerned with your own desire and interests.
Now, should another girl show interest in what he loves, your guy is going to fall for her.
You know why?
Because this new girl complements him… he will become emotionally happy and loved.
Keep your man
Show interest in his life…
…don’t fake it.
Appreciate what he loves or has a passion for, and show interest in it.
Genuinely like what he likes, enjoy what he enjoys, do stuff together… get involved in your guys’ life, and have a happy relationship. [Read: ‘What Makes for An Enjoyable and Fulfilling Relationship’]
This is important because when you love what your man loves, you are not only giving to him what he truly craves from you, but you are also suggesting a commonality between you and him, and thus, gets him interested over the long haul.
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Show interest in your guy’s life.
The next unattractive behavior you’re likely to exhibit is…
…not telling your friends about your guy after being together for a long time (#4)
In short… it tells him (non-verbally) you don’t love him.
How would you feel when your guy doesn’t introduce you to his friends that you’re his babe?
Emotionally hurt, right?
…that’s how we feel when you don’t tell your friends about us.
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The next unattractive behavior is…
…trying to elicit jealousy or a reaction from a guy (#5)
As much as you would want to make a guy jealous, don’t do it…
…why not play hard to get instead?
If you think making your guy jealous will make him chase you, then think again.
Of course, you would want to play a little game to see if a guy is serious and willing to commit… that’s within your rights.
But if you are trying to deliberately make a guy jealous or elicit a reaction from him, then you are making a grave mistake.
Sure, the jealousy game will work on the average guy… but most guys will lose interest quickly and move on.
So play the game right, and get the attention you want.
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So there you have it…
…some unattractive behaviors you’re deliberately and unknowingly exhibiting that can lower your attractiveness to a guy.
It’s within your right to do whatever you want or behave in whatever way you deem fit toward a guy…
…but keep in mind that if you exhibit some behaviors to the extreme, it can cause a guy to lose interest in you and move on.
I hope this article has given you an insight into how to behave toward a guy to spark his interest and attraction.
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