How do you know if a girl is playing hard to get?
And how do you know she’s playing hard to get and she’s just not blowing you off?
A girl is going to play hard to get the moment she realizes that a guy is interested in her.
This is especially common with girls who are very savvy and know their way around guys and dating.
When you show interest in the girl or the woman you are with, she is going to go into ‘hard to get’ mode and make you chase her…
…and then get into ‘harder to get’ mode when she does get the chase.
To avoid getting trapped and unknowingly forced to do things you don’t want to do (like foolishly and stupidly running unwarranted errands), you need to recognize these ‘playing hard to get signs’ and respond appropriately. [Read: ‘What to Do When the Girl You Desire Plays Hard to Get’]
In this article, I share with you how girls play hard to get, or more precisely, the signs girls exhibit that should tell you they’re playing hard to get.
I begin by discussing what makes a girl play hard to get. Because girls don’t JUST play hard to get… there’s a reason and it’s not only about trying to get into her pants.
Next, I get to the meat of this article – the signs a girl is playing hard to get or how to know if a girl is playing hard to get. Here, I first share with you the DEFINITE signs she likes you but is playing hard to get.
After that, I share with you the ‘maybe’ signs she is playing hard to get. ‘Maybe’ signs that she is playing hard to get, in the sense that it could be possible that she’s NOT playing hard to get with you.
Let’s get started… the signs of a girl playing hard to get or how to tell if a girl is playing hard to get.
A girl is going to play hard to get the moment she realizes you are interested in her.
Is she playing hard to get or just not interested in you?
Is she playing hard to get or not interested in you?
To really tell if a girl is playing hard to get, you need to first ask yourself if she is into you. [Read: ‘How to Tell If a Girl Likes You’ and ‘How to Tell If a Girl Is Interested in You’]
When a girl plays hard to get with you, that’s a SURE sign she DOES feels an attraction for you… and she is playing hard to get not only to seem valuable but to also see if you will go to the trouble to have her… indicating how bad you want her. [Read: Why Girls Play Hard to Get]
Now understand…
If a girl is NOT interested in you, she’s NOT going to play hard to get…
…she will totally blow you off.
As simple as that. [Read: ‘Obvious Signs a Girl Is Not Interested in You’ and ‘9 Of The Top Reasons Why Women Reject Men’]
With that said, let’s take a look at the signs a woman is playing hard to get, or more precisely, the signs she wants you to pursue her.
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When a girl plays hard to get, not only does she want to seem valuable but she also wants to see if you will go to the trouble to have her… indicating how bad you want her.
The signs a girl is playing hard to get
Given below are the first 5 signs a girl likes you but is playing hard to get, or more precisely, signs she wants you to chase her.
Let’s get to it… how do girls play hard to get or how do you know when a girl is playing hard to get?
Sign #1 – She will NEVER be the one to call or text first…
…because she wouldn’t want to seem desperate or needy.
Any girl who wants to come across as valuable will want a guy to call and text first.
The only time she will call is when she really misses you. Even here, she will pretend she called or texted you because she needed to ask you something. Afterward, you’re going to notice that she will withdraw when she gets your attention and interest again.
Understand:
Should a girl be the one to be initiating the calls and chats, that means she feels a strong attraction for you and she’s obsessing over you.
A Girl wouldn’t want to be the first to call or text you… because she doesn’t want to seem desperate.
To the next sign a girl is playing hard to get.
Sign #2 – She doesn’t answer your phone calls or respond to your texts and chats right away
She takes longer to reply to your texts or chats. And with the phone calls, she can choose to even answer on the second ring.
If a girl always takes longer to answer your phone calls as well as doesn’t respond to your texts or chats right away, she might be playing hard to get…
…she ‘might’ not she ‘is’.
She IS definitely in ‘hard to get’ mode when you notice other signs in addition to this.
Most girls know that when they reply to your texts right away it will be a sign of desperation on their part… so they will reply whenever they feel like it.
Now, don’t conclude just yet…
…she could be busy.
When a girl doesn’t respond to your texts or chats right away, this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s playing hard to get. Probably, she’s busy, and knowing you guys are going to chat for hours, she will decide to respond later.
Now understand… if a girl doesn’t respond to your texts or chats or she’s taking days to reply, she’s most definitely not interested in you. [Read: ‘Obvious Signs a Girl Is Not Interested in You’]
girls know that when they respond to a call or text right away it will be a sign of desperation on their part.
Another big sign to look out for is…
…when a girl is flirtatious and seductive towards you but acts uninterested when you make a move on her (sign #3)
That’s a sure sign she is playing hard to get.
Here, she will be touchy-feely with you…
…but when you try to make a move on her or flirt back, she backs away or she softly rejects your advances.
It can also mean she wants you to make a move.
You see, girls look to or want us guys to make the first move… so they give noticeable signals – like flirt with us – to have us make a move on them.
Nevertheless, expect a girl to act unresponsive and go into ‘hard to get’ mode.
Girls play hard to get because they want us to chase them.
Similar to acting unresponsive is when…
…she gives an indefinite response to your proposal (sign #4)
Okay, you worked up the courage and expressed your interest in her…
…but she never returned the interest or never gave you a clear response.
Clearly, that’s a sign she’s playing hard to get.
Here, she knows she’s got your interest. So she’s going to make you work hard to get her approval. Not only to seem valuable but to also find out if indeed you really love her.
Now get this…
…if a girl doesn’t have feelings for you, she will reject you outright. But if she acts uninterested or gives an indefinite response, that’s a sign she likes you but she’s playing hard to get.
So that’s it…
…on the signs that a girl is playing hard to get or signs that she likes you but is playing hard to get.
When a girl plays hard to get, that’s a good sign she DOES feels an attraction for you.
Moving on.
The ‘maybe’ signs a girl is playing hard to get
Given below are the ‘maybe’ signs a girl is playing hard to get…
…maybe she is playing hard to get, maybe she is NOT playing hard to get.
Let’s get to it.
Sign #5 – She will give excuses when you ask her out or to hang out with you
Excuses like she is busy or she has plans.
Sure, a girl or a woman wouldn’t want to say “yes” right away when you ask her out… because of course, she doesn’t want to seem desperate and show her eagerness to spend time with you.
Now, this excuse will be from a girl or woman you’ve just met.
But when you’ve known a girl for a while and she feels an attraction for you, she would WANT to hang out with him. She will only play hard to get when you try to move things forward or when you try to make a move.
The next sign is…
…when she faces away or avoids direct eye contact when you’re talking to her (sign #6)
You will mostly notice this with girls or women you’ve just met.
They act this way because not only are they used to getting approached all the time, but they also want to weed out the spineless guys.
Somehow this is their way of testing for inferiority…
…that is if you’re not confident in yourself, her action will easily intimidate you.
When she totally avoids direct eye contact with you, then that means she’s not interested in you AT ALL.
But again, a girl who has romantic feelings for you, will face you and stare in your eyes. She will only play hard to get when you try to make a move.
Unless maybe she’s the shy type… then she will be looking away.
So again this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s playing hard to get…
…a girl or a woman you’ve just met will act this way, but not the girl who is comfortable with you.
So there you have it… the ‘maybe’ signs of a girl playing hard to get or how to tell she’s playing hard to get ‘ish.
Keep Reading: When the Girl You Desire Plays Hard to Get: Should You Pursue Her or Give Up?
Hard-to-get implies value… so if a girl or a woman is hard to get then she’s thus valuable.
Finally, how to tell if she is playing hard to get…
She gives the impression she’s hard to get (sign #7)
If a girl talks more about guys who approach her on a daily basis, guys who have tried to hit on her, and whatnot…
…this is her way of dropping hints she’s not easy to get so raise your game if you want to sweep her off her feet.
Again, girls play hard to get because they want us to chase them.
So there you have it…
…how to know a girl is playing hard to get – the DEFINITE signs a girl is playing hard to get and the ‘MAYBE’ signs that she’s playing hard to get.
Now, once you recognize these signs girl is playing hard to get, what is a guy to do? [Read: ‘What to Do When the Girl You Desire Plays Hard to Get’ and ‘An Absurd But Proven Tactic That Makes Any Girl Want You So Bad’]
So again, there you have it… the signs a girl is playing hard to get but likes you and the ‘maybe’ signs a girl is playing hard to get.
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