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A Misconception That Unfortunately Makes Guys Lose Girls

It’s been said and written by most dating websites that in order to make a girl or woman chase you, you should appear or act totally uninterested in her.

Sure, it makes sense to act uninterested in a girl in order to somewhat make her find you attractive.

But truth is, when you act totally uninterested in a girl or a woman, you risk losing her.

Why is that?

Because, hiding the fact that you’re sexually attracted to a girl or interested in her will give her the impression that you’re not interested in her AT ALL, or worst, she will think you’re gay.

If you don’t show your interest in the girl you desire, how would she notice you?

Keep in mind… girls generally don’t verbalize their interest in a guy to the guy. They expect us (more like, WANT us) to pursue them and make the first move.

And understand…

…there are other guys competing for the girl’s attention. So if you act uninterested in a girl without giving her a REASON to chase you, she will lose interest in you and move on.

The reason this misconception is believed to be effective

Most guys are led to believe that in order to attract a girl, they have to convey to the girl that they’re NOT interested in her.

This is because a girl’s impression of a guy is that when a guy is talking to her, the guy is only interested in one thing – SEX. And thus, if the guy shows no interest in her, he will come across as different from other guys, and the girl will consequently find him attractive.

It continues…

…the girl will find the guy attractive not only because he’s not trying to hit on her or “score”, but she can’t use the guy’s need for sex from her as a tool to control and manipulate him. Therefore, this presents the guy as a total challenge to her, and therefore the girl will have to work hard for his attention.

Again, it makes sense that this technique will somewhat make girls find you attractive.

But the truth is…

…yes, a girl might find you attractive, but if you don’t show interest in her, she will be thinking:

  • “This guy probably doesn’t find me attractive” (which is a good thing, because then she has to seek your approval)
  • “This guy probably has a serious girlfriend” (here, she loses interest in you and move on)
  • “I don’t want to risk putting myself out there. He has to make the first move” (with this, she has to find a real man who isn’t afraid to take the lead with women and make a move)
  • “Is he gay?” (Oops, she drops you in the friend zone and moves on. And no amount of dinners, gift and favors will make her feel attraction for you)

So again, as I mentioned, when you act TOTALLY uninterested in a girl or a woman, without giving her a REASON to chase you, you risk losing her.

There is a better way…

A better way to go about attracting a girl you desire and making her want you is to express your desire for her but DON’T do things to seek her approval.

In other words, nonverbally communicate to the girl that even though you find her attractive, you’re not going to act like a wuss and desperately chase her… like most guys do.

As dating expert Bobby Rio has written, “It’s NOT about completely hiding your desire and pretending to be indifferent to her. It’s about expressing your desire for her, but really being indifferent towards the outcome.”

To put it simply… don’t act totally uninterested in a girl you desire. Instead, show interest in her. But if she tries to play “hard to get” because she thinks you’re head-over-heels in love with her, nonverbally communicate to her you’re not going to act like a wuss and desperately chase her. [Read: ‘What to Do When The Girl You Desire Plays Hard to Get with You’]

How to make a girl feel attracted to you and chase you… the proper way

Acting uninterested is ONLY effective when you’re approaching a girl for the first time.

Because here, when you approach a girl in a neutral way or without telegraphing your interest in her, she will drop her defenses and she will be receptive to talking to you.

But as things progress, once you’ve built a rapport with her and you’ve successfully created attraction with her with your attractive personality traits, you have to express your desire for her. [Read: ‘How to Attract Girls’]

You express your desire for a girl by:

  • flirting with her [Read: ‘How to Flirt with a Girl’]
  • using sexual innuendos in your conversation with her
  • seductively gazing into her eyes when talking to her
  • boldly moving in for a kiss at the opportune moment
  • etc.

At this point, she might play hard-to-get…

…because, of course, she can clearly tell she’s got your interest already. But most importantly, she doesn’t want to come across as ‘easy’.

Nevertheless, nonverbally communicate to her you’re not going to act like a wuss and desperately chase her.

Nonverbally communicate to her you’re not going to put her on a pedestal or seek her approval with money, gifts, or fancy dinners.

In short, nonverbally communicate to her you’re not like the guys she’s used to dealing with by being a challenge for her and playing hard-to-get yourself. [Read: ‘How to Play Hard to Get with a Girl’]

This gives her a reason to chase you…

…because she will be crazily mad over you.

The fact that you find a girl attractive and are interested in her but will not WIMPISHLY act like most guys means you’re a good catch and this will boost your chances of getting her.

This makes you attractive in her eyes and she will want you more strongly.

Keep Reading: This Absurd But Proven Tactic Makes Any Girl Want You So Bad

So, to conclude…

…it is not acting UNINTERESTED in a girl that makes her want you. It is rather your interest in her, and most importantly, how you react to her RESPONSE that makes her not only want you… but want you STRONGLY.

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