“I’m sorry, but I’m not ready for a relationship right now. I have far too many things to do before I settle down.”
Love is a drug… it’s powerful, it’s potent, it’s euphoric, it is psychologically addictive.
Once you fall deeply in love you can’t keep yourself away from it… and thus you wouldn’t want to fall in love in the first place.
Just like most people, you would want to focus on your goals and dreams first…
…you would want to accomplish something in life before you get into a long-term romantic relationship with someone.
So you made a promise not to fall in love… until you met this person.
…and that seems to be a problem, as I call it, an obstruction.
You’re falling for this person but you feel you are not ready for a romantic relationship right now.
You see yourself gradually falling for this person and having them somehow falling for you too… you see yourself unconsciously acting all romantic and having them be receptive to it.
Anyways, you’re falling in love…
…so how do you deal with this?
How do you prevent yourself from falling in love with someone, more precisely, someone you’re gradually falling in love with?
That’s what this article is about – how to not fall in love.
So without further ado, let’s get started.
How to Not Fall in Love with Someone
Now, what makes people fall in love in the first place?
…it’s the other person’s attractive personality traits, mannerism and how they make us feel.
Of course, both men and women fall in love differently… men mostly fall in love with what they see – the physical attractiveness. And women fall in love with or are attracted to personality.
But when all is said and done, it is the attractive personality traits and mannerism of the other person that catches our attention and interest more… and consequently, makes us fall in love with them.
So even though looks matters at some point, it is less important than the person’s attractive personality traits, attractive mannerism and how they make us feel.
Now, these features of the other person are what you are going to strive to overlook in order to not fall in love with them… because you don’t want to be entrapped by them.
So all in all, you’re going to have to avoid that person in order to not fall in love with their attractive personality traits and mannerism.
Now, it’s probable that you’re already entrapped. If you are, fret not… you can still live the single lifestyle you’ve wanted.
So when you’re striving to overlook these attractive features or prevent yourself from falling in love with someone, follow these three steps:
- Try to shift your focus away from them
- Go out to distract yourself
When you’re able to successfully overlook the other person’s attractive traits and attributes using these three steps, you’ll notice the attraction you have for them will gradually fade out and disappear.
Let’s go into detail.
It’s a person’s attractive traits and mannerism that lead us to fall in love with them.
Step #1 – Withdraw
If you’re going to hold back from getting attracted to someone, it starts with withdrawing… keeping away from the person, refuse to hang out, refuse to make the call.
Again, it’s a person’s attractive personality traits and mannerism that lead us to feel attracted to them.
Hanging out and spending time together could lead you to fall in love with a person. Because the more you hang out the more attraction you’re going to feel for them.
Sure, you don’t have to totally ignore them… but don’t be spending too much time with them.
When you see them every day, it makes it easy to fall for them.
So by spending less time together, cutting down on the phone calls and whatnot will help you prevent yourself from falling in love with them.
Now, as you withdraw…
…try to shift your focus away from them (Step #2)
Thinking about a person all day, obsessing over them, stalking them on social media will make you want to see them often.
To avoid falling in love with someone, try not to obsess over them.
Instead, focus on other things.
Preoccupy your mind with something else when you start obsessing over the person.
For best result, go out and have fun.
…and this takes us to the next step.
Step #3 – Go out to distract yourself
Go to the mall, go window shopping, go to social gatherings, go to events, enjoy your hobbies, spend time with your buddies or people you don’t have any romantic designs for.
Do things to get yourself occupied so you don’t fantasize about the other person.
Not only will this help you put your mind somewhere else, but gradually you totally forget about the other person.
So there you have it… how to not fall in love with someone you find attractive or someone you’re gradually falling for.
There is a grand overflow of tips and strategies out there on how to not fall in love that probably I haven’t mention in this post.
Nevertheless, put what you’ve learned here into practice.
It will not be easy… but be determined and see how things work out.
Understand this… there might come a time you will meet that special someone, and you’re going to fall deeply in love with them beyond your control.
When that time comes (if not already), don’t fight it. Because not only are some relationships meant to be… but this person could probably be the best thing that could ever happen to you.
But if you still feel you are not ready for a romantic relationship with that person, then follow what I’ve shared in this article and gradually prevent yourself from falling in love.
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So that’s how to not fall in love.