Getting dumped by your boyfriend is heartbreaking. You feel wrecked, rejected, embarrassed, and hungry. But with all the hate, you still love him and you want him back. Here in this article, you will learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
I give you step-by-step guidance, tips and advice on how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
First, we look at how to get your ex-boyfriend back if you were the one who got dumped.
I start out by discussing the two important steps to getting back with your ex-boyfriend.
Moving on, we’ll look at the actual process on how to get your ex-boyfriend back. You will learn how to use your friends as a vehicle to get him running back to you, including a foolproof tactic to get him jealous and insecure.
You will also learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back by using social media.
I also teach you what to do to get your ex-boyfriend back when he has moved on or haven’t contacted you after a long time. Here, you will learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back by using text messages.
Finally, I teach you how to get your ex-boyfriend back if YOU were the one who dumped him.
Now, before you get started on getting back with an ex-boyfriend, you need a plan.
Your plan and goal…
Your boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) dumped you because he has lost interest in you.
So it makes sense to pester him with phones calls and texts, to beg him to take you back.
But the begging and the persistent phone calls or texts is NOT the best way to get your ex-boyfriend back. It will rather push him farther away from you.
Instead, the best thing to do to get your ex-boyfriend back is to remove this neediness and plant a seed in his mind that will generate attraction and make him want you again.
If he dumped you, don’t chase him.
Instead, work on attracting him, and let him REGRET breaking up with you and get him to chase you instead. (I show you how to make your ex-boyfriend chase you in this article).
So all in all, what I teach you in this article on how to get your ex-boyfriend back boils down to one thing and one thing only… getting him ATTRACTED to you again.
Otherwise, if YOU were the one who dumped him, you can skip to the end to learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
With that said, let’s begin…
How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back After He Dumped You: The Most Important First Step
Rid yourself of any bad or negative emotions and thoughts toward the breakup or your ex-boyfriend.
This is especially important if the breakup is recent.
Don’t let it get the better of you.
Indeed, you are wrecked and hurting, especially if you were the one who got dumped.
You want to call him and speak your mind (probably done that), or beg him to take you back (probably done that too).
But, you must be strong after a breakup.
If you want to get back together with your ex-boyfriend, you must act with self-control to avoid pushing him farther away from you.
Focusing too much on the breakup and the hurt can affect your chances of getting back together with an ex.
You are probably thinking he’s with a new girl and he’s moved on. And you need to get him back fast before you lose him forever.
So what do you do… you keep pestering him with phone calls and text messages hoping he will change his mind and come back to you.
You are expecting the worst, and it’s driving you nuts.
It’s completely normal, and any heartbroken girl will feel and act that way too.
But your emotions are so vital that it will determine whether you will win him back or drive him farther away from you.
You see… when you are wrecked and hurting, your emotions will be doing your thinking.
It’s these emotions that keep you from thinking about the right things to say to your ex to get him back.
You are likely to make mistakes or say displeasing words to your ex-boyfriend that you can’t take back.
And these mistakes will largely impact your chances of getting back together after a breakup.
So when you start thinking about your ex-boyfriend, and you experience negative emotions towards him, try to shift your focus to something else, anything that doesn’t remind you of him.
If you start feeling depressed out of the blue, listen to some motivational or inspirational messages.
Or watch a comedy movie that will put a smile on your face.
Instead of sitting in your room all day long feeling worse, hang out with your friends and have fun (the 5th step on how to get your ex-boyfriend back… you’ll learn more about that in a jiffy).
Sure, it will be difficult not to think of your ex-boyfriend after break up. But the smart way to AVOID making mistakes, and consequently, getting an ex-boyfriend back, is to NOT focus too much on him or the breakup.
Now, if something reminds you of him, including pictures and what he bought you for Christmas, and it makes you lose yourself in your emotions, put it away from sight.
This is the first step in getting your ex-boyfriend back – don’t let the breakup get the better of you.
And while you are at it, recognize the REAL reasons that could have led to the breakup, and take appropriate actions to change if YOU were at fault.
With that said, let’s look at the second most important step on how to get your ex-boyfriend back…
You will get your old boyfriend back the moment you get over the fear of losing him.
Step #2 – Cease all contact with your ex-boyfriend, starting now
Now, as you are ridding yourself of any negative emotions and thoughts towards your ex-boyfriend, try to cease contact with him for at least 30 days.
Don’t initiate any sort of contact or communication with him (not until he calls you or texts you wanting to get back together again).
In other words, DON’T allow your feelings to drive you to contact your ex-boyfriend, to beg or plead for him to take you back.
No phone calls, no texts, no emails, no stalking, nothing.
Instead, let him contact you.
And when he does (even if it’s a week after the breakup), play hard to get… let him work for your approval.
Remember, your plan is NOT to appear needy and desperate in trying to get back with your ex-boyfriend.
If you allow your feelings or emotions to get the better of you, like I said, you will say something or act in a way that will push him farther away from you.
Avoid calling your ex-boyfriend too much, or sending loads of texts and emails. They won’t help get him back.
So why is ceasing contact with your ex-boyfriend important… you may ask
How does it help bring back your ex-boyfriend?
Firstly, it gives you the avenue to overcome the hurt of the breakup.
Ceasing contact with your ex-boyfriend (and of course, improving yourself – which I show you how later in this article) is one of the best ways to control your emotions.
And secondly, it puts you in a position of control.
This will make your ex-boyfriend feel anxious and curious as to why you haven’t contacted him, and he will wonder what you’ve been up to, and consequently, regret breaking up with you.
Now, if you’ve already SMSed or called your ex-boyfriend, either to plead or speak your mind, fret not. You can still recover and take the right approach to get him back.
Here’s the good news…
You see, your ex-boyfriend will EXPECT you to be calling and texting him after the breakup.
But, you are not going to do that.
This will communicate to him that you’re not bothered about the breakup.
Plus, doing what I teach you next will make him hell-bent on wanting to take you back.
“Neediness is the opposite of attraction,” says relationship expert Michael Fiore, author of ‘Text Your Ex Back’.
Yes, he broke up with you, but you need to demonstrate to him that your world doesn’t revolve around him.
You are going to give the impression that you’ve moved on and you are not thinking about him anymore or getting back together.
You need to communicate to him that you don’t need him to be happy in life. You don’t need his attention or approval.
If he doesn’t want you anymore, then it’s his loss.
Heck, you can find someone better than him.
You see… here, you are removing neediness and creating attraction, and consequently making him desire you again.
Neediness is the opposite of attraction.
You might be reluctant to do this, but if you want to attract back your ex-boyfriend, you need to communicate to him that you don’t need him.
ACT AS IF you don’t really care about the breakup and you have already moved on.
Now, this is what your ex-boyfriend is going to live through:
- He will start missing you
- He will start fearing that he might lose you (he didn’t value you then… and he is going to wish he should have never let you go)
- He will get insecure (you’re going to learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back using some few jealousy tactics)
- He is also going to experience other disturbing feelings that will drive him completely nuts
All this emotional roller coaster will increase his desire to take you back.
No, scratch that… it will make him BEG you to take him back.
What about you…
Now, keep in mind avoiding your ex-boyfriend like this will be tough.
During this period:
- You will feel lonely, sad, depressed
- You will want to call or text him
- You will feel like spying on him to see what he’s up to
It will not be easy at first, but with time it will get easier.
Be careful here…
Your ex-boyfriend might contact you, or you might bump into him at some point, and this can bring back memories.
But you need to have self-control so as NOT to communicate to him you are still hanging on to the breakup.
Remember, you want to give the impression you’ve moved on, in order to plant a seed in his mind that will generate attraction and make him want you again.
Even if you see him with another girl, don’t react.
You can act as if you haven’t seen him. But when you do lock eyes with him, don’t appear needy, and DON’T BEG him to take you back.
Even if you see him every day, keep cool and demonstrate you’ve moved on.
Keep in mind that your actions can tell your ex you want him back (and we don’t want that).
Even the things you say to his friends and other people, your remarks, will communicate to him you are still hanging on to the breakup…
…word can get back to your ex-boyfriend.
So be careful here.
You have to get over your ex-boyfriend in order to get him back.
This is what you do instead…
Draw focus away from your ex-boyfriend and the breakup, and onto yourself, and try to get on with your life as if he doesn’t exist.
Trust me on this…
…the very act of moving on after a breakup is what will actually bring your ex-boyfriend back to you.
You never know… you might even meet someone who is better than him, who understands you and respects you for who you are.
Sure, you want to get your boyfriend back, but don’t let him have the last laugh.
Let go after a breakup… get on with your life, and your ex-boyfriend will desire you again.
I can’t stress this enough… you want him to get the impression that you are not bothered by the breakup and that you’ve moved on.
This is a very powerful attraction technique to get back an ex-boyfriend fast.
You are going to cease contact with him for at least 30 days and work on attracting him back into your life.
And fret not, because once you are done reading this article and abreast with the strategies and tips to get your ex-boyfriend back, and actually puts them into action, bumping into him will make him desire you again.
Should he call you on phone, that’s even a plus factor.
That being said, let’s look at what you will be doing for the next 30 days and how to get your ex-boyfriend back. (Later, you will learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back if you dumped him, but now you want him back)
When you start living your life, the hurt of the breakup will subside. And you will get to a point where your ex-boyfriend will not matter to you anymore.
How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back If You Were the One Who Got Dumped: The Process
Before going further, you should avoid the following:
- Don’t be keeping items around you that remind you of him
- Do not be stalking him on his social media accounts
- Don’t be checking your phone like 100 times a day expecting him to call or text you
- Don’t deliberately do anything just to get a reaction from him
- And most importantly, don’t stuff your emotions with alcohol or drugs
Now, instead of letting the breakup get the better of you, and consequently, pushing your ex-boyfriend farther away from you, you are going to focus on yourself and do things that will attract your ex-boyfriend back to you.
So, given below are what you should be doing as you cease contact or communication with him.
These steps will help you plant a seed in his mind that will generate attraction and make him want you again.
Be ready for your ex-boyfriend to start calling you up, chasing you and wanting to talk to you.
With that said, let’s continue… how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
Step #3 – Change if you were at fault
As I mentioned earlier, recognize the real reasons that led to the breakup, and take appropriate steps to change if you were at fault.
If it’s some bad habits your ex-boyfriend didn’t like, then change those bad habits.
Don’t change just to get him back or to please him, but change for yourself.
You don’t want to repeat such behaviors or habits after making up.
The fourth step on how to get your ex-boyfriend back is to…
…get yourself a makeover (Step #4)
Make yourself look as hot as you can.
Get a fetching new hairstyle.
Get a manicure and a pedicure.
Wax your legs like a pro.
Buy yourself new clothes and some new shoes.
You need to make yourself attractive, and let your ex-boyfriend REGRET breaking up with you, and consequently, make him want you back.
Now, how is he supposed to lose you to another guy when you’re looking all sexy!
This should be enough to make him regret leaving you and have him running back to you.
Another part of bettering yourself is to forgive him.
You want him back so it calls to forgive him for whatever he did.
After all, how can you get your ex-boyfriend back if you don’t forgive him?
Plus, forgive yourself too.
If you said some things out of emotions and you regret saying them, forgive yourself now and apologize to your ex-boyfriend when you make up.
Even if you cheated, forgive yourself and promise yourself it won’t happen in the future, especially now that you’re fighting to win an ex back. You made a mistake and it’s in the past.
Make yourself look as hot as you can to make your ex-boyfriend want you back.
The fifth step on how to get your ex-boyfriend back is to…
…hang out with friends (Step #5)
Friends are there to help you through the breakup, to comfort you and cheer you up.
So spend time with them to keep your mind off your ex-boyfriend.
Watch a movie together.
Talk about your favorite celebrities.
Talk about the latest trend in fashion.
Go out and have some fun.
And as you have fun with your friends, take some pictures together. (Later in this article, you will learn how to get your ex-boyfriend back with these pictures)
Try not to talk about the breakup.
It’s understandable to talk about it when asked, but don’t let it be the theme of the day.
Now, here’s the best part about hanging out with your friends:
Aside from having fun, your friends can be a vehicle to get back your boyfriend.
This is even more powerful when they are friends you and your ex-boyfriend have in common… and foolproof when they are very close friends of him.
Why is that…
…because whatever fun life you will be having now will definitely reach your ex-boyfriend via his friends.
After changing or improving your appearance, and looking attractive to your friends, word is going to get back to your ex-boyfriend.
Your friends and probably your ex-boyfriend’s friends will see how pretty and attractive you’ve become and will tell your ex-boyfriend all about it.
They will also notice the big changes in your personality, how you’ve changed and all that, and will definitely tell him all about it too.
And when he hears you are pretty and all that, he will regret leaving you and will want to get back together with you.
Use your friends to your advantage
Spend more time with your friends, not only to have fun but to also use them to your advantage.
Demonstrate to your friends that you’ve changed, and your ex-boyfriend will get to know about it.
Give yourself a total makeover, and your ex-boyfriend will get to know about it.
Now, your ex-boyfriend will regret breaking up with you… he will fear that maybe you’ve found another guy and forgotten all about him.
This is especially potent since you are not pestering him with phone calls.
This will make him insecure and he will be curious to know if you are still single and still interested in him.
Now, to actually sell it and make your ex-boyfriend insecure and jealous, and get him RUNNING back to you, you need to get back into the dating scene again…
…and this takes us to the sixth step on how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
After improving your appearance and looking attractive to your friends, word is going to get back to your ex-boyfriend.
Step #6 – Start dating again
I know this is not what you want to do right now…
…but one of the effective ways to make your ex-boyfriend want you back fast is for you to actually start dating again.
The reason why this is so effective is that it gets your ex-boyfriend jealous, and the chances he will come back increases.
Don’t rub it in his face.
And don’t date other guys to get back at him either.
The very fact of seeing you with another guy will drive him nuts.
He will fear to lose you completely. And this will get him running back to you.
As the saying goes, “People don’t value the things they have as long as they know they have her. But the moment they realize they are about to lose it all, that’s when they value it more than ever before.”
Now, if cheating (on your part) was the reason why he broke up with you, then tread carefully here.
I would even suggest you skip this step altogether and apply other methods instead.
You don’t want to give the impression that you haven’t changed.
Now, why date other people when you are trying to get an ex-boyfriend back
- Firstly, it’s a foolproof UNINTENTIONAL jealousy tactic that will get your ex-boyfriend running back to you.
- And secondly, you are an attractive person who has a life, and being dumped doesn’t mean life shouldn’t go on. And when you have this mentality, it forces you to get off your butt and out having fun.
And to remind you again, your plan is to make your ex-boyfriend REGRET breaking up with you, and get him to start chasing you.
Now, dating other people doesn’t mean you should sleep around to get back at an ex-boyfriend.
Just go out to movies and dinner with your date… and have some fun whiles you keep your mind off the breakup for a while.
If you don’t like the idea of dating other people because you fear you might lose your ex-boyfriend altogether, then make male friends instead.
You don’t really have to get into a serious relationship with someone or fall in love with them. (Unless you are really over your ex-boyfriend)
Nonetheless, dating again after a breakup is one of the effective ways to get your ex-boyfriend back.
Not only will it give him space (to recall how a great girlfriend you were) and make him regret breaking up with you, but you might meet someone you really have a real chemistry or connection with.
When that happens, you decide… do you want to move on with your life with this new person? Or you still want to get back with your ex-boyfriend?
One of the foolproof ways to get your ex back fast is for you to actually start dating other people. The very fact of seeing you with another guy will drive him nuts and he will fear to lose you completely.
Back to how your friends can be a vehicle to get back a boyfriend
As I previously mentioned, your friends can be a vehicle to get back with an ex-boyfriend.
Now, here is how to actually sell it, to make your ex-boyfriend insecure and jealous:
(Not on purpose, but to demonstrate that you’ve moved on and that you are not bothered about the breakup)
INDIRECTLY let your friends know you are dating another guy, and that you’ve moved on and happy and all that.
Indirectly in the sense that, don’t come across as if you’re trying to get a reaction from your ex-boyfriend…
…talk about your new guy when asked by your friends, but don’t bring him up just to send a message and make your ex-boyfriend jealous.
When your friends get to know about the new guy, word will get back to your ex-boyfriend, and like I said… it will drive him nuts.
Now, expect him to be keeping some sort of contact, showing emotions towards you or your actions, like calling you on the phone to find out what you’ve been up to.
Now, this is a good sign because it shows he still has feelings for you (and in a way, wants you back).
To the next step on how to get your ex-girlfriend back…
Step #7 – Showcase your new self on social media to get his attention
One method of learning how to get your ex-boyfriend to miss you is to showcase your new self on social media.
This includes Facebook, Instagram and other photo-sharing and video-sharing social networks.
This is another trick to get him insecure and have him regret breaking up with you.
Let’s start with your profile pictures
…because that’s the first thing people look at when they visit your page.
Should your ex-boyfriend start checking you out on social media, you want your profile to project to him that you are not bothered by the breakup.
Take a pic with a big smile that says…
“I’m happy and confident. I broke up with my boyfriend recently, but I’m not bothered about it… I’ve moved on”
…and set it as your profile picture.
If your previous profile picture was the two of you together, change it and set one with ONLY YOU with a big smile on your face.
Make your profile picture project to your ex you are not bothered by the breakup.
Next is what you post on your wall or timeline:
Don’t be posting too much.
Update your wall once in a while and only when you have something really interesting to share.
Something like the hike you took a couple of days ago. Or the party you went to last night.
Don’t be posting about boring stuff, like the weather, or how you miss ‘somebody’.
Don’t post about the breakup.
And again, don’t do anything just to get a reaction from your ex.
Now, let’s move on to what will give him the shivers, I mean the fear.
…the pictures and videos you will be uploading
Capture interesting moments in your life.
The trip you took with your friends and the parties you went to. (This’s why I stated earlier you should hang out with your friends).
You should actually go to social events with your friends and TAKE SELFIES.
You can also (or probably should) take pictures of you with other guys, guys your ex-boyfriend don’t know (of course, smiling and having fun).
And lastly, make lots of friends. Keep adding guys to your friends’ list.
Your ex-boyfriend will definitely notice all these changes and will be stalking you, wishing he should have never broken up with you.
Now, expect him to be posting stuff as well, waiting for you to comment or contact him.
Or if he is too desperate to talk to you, then he will start calling or texting you.
Capture interesting moments in your life then upload them to your page to get your ex’s attention.
You should actually move on after the breakup
This shouldn’t be a hoax.
Don’t try to deceive your ex-boyfriend that you are having a fun time after the breakup.
That’s why you should ACTUALLY follow everything I’ve mentioned in this article:
- Get a total makeover
- Hang out with your friends and ACTUALLY have fun. Take pictures of everything
- Go to interesting places.
- Do something new and share them on Facebook
- Date other people, make new friends and add them on Facebook to get your ex-boyfriend’s attention
You want to showcase your new self on social media to get his attention.
You want to prove to him that you’re not just sitting at home crying over them. Instead, you’ve moved on, and you’re having an exciting and interesting life which he could have been part of, but he isn’t.
So that’s how to get your boyfriend back using social media.
But as far as exes and social media go, there’re some mistakes to avoid…
Social media mistakes to avoid:
- Don’t cyber-stalk him, not even a peek. As curious as you will be, DON’T DO IT! Even if you stumble on his post on your feed by mistake, that seems to be directed at you or the breakup, don’t take it seriously. People will post hurtful things after a breakup.
- Don’t change your relationship status immediately after the breakup, Wait a while, then set it to ‘Only Me’ or hide it from public view. Don’t change it to ‘Single’
- Don’t unfriend or block him
- Don’t be changing your profile picture too much. A snapshot with a big smile is enough to get his attention and make him regret leaving you
Now to the last point on how to get your ex-boyfriend back…
Step #8 – Don’t act desperate and needy when you bump into him
Now, you might bump into your ex-boyfriend at some point, and this can bring back all the feelings or emotions you have towards him.
This is especially true when you see him with another girl.
But let me tell you this:
It could be his sister you never knew or even his cousin.
Nonetheless, when you see him with another girl, be very polite and don’t react in the negative.
Act as if you don’t care about who he’s with.
Act as if nothing bothers you.
Remember, you are looking as pretty as you could ever be now, and he will be kicking himself for breaking up with you.
So act cool and happy and confident knowing that you’re really arousing his interest. (You can tremble inside, but don’t let it show on the outside)
If he is alone, act as if you’ve moved on, and don’t show any neediness.
“SUBTLY showing that you’ve moved on is very powerful as an attraction technique,” says Michael Fiore, creator of ‘Text Your Ex Back’.
If you are with someone, just say your hellos. Introduce them and leave. Don’t try to explain yourself to him.
If you are going to chat, make it short and exit as early as possible. BE THE ONE WHO ENDS THE CONVERSATION.
Subtly showing that you’ve moved on is very powerful as an attraction technique.
With all said and done…
Let him know that you still care…
…but you don’t want to give the impression that you want him back so bad.
Yes, you share a history, and that didn’t just get erased when you guys broke up.
He dumped you, and you were wrecked. But that doesn’t mean you should be rude to him when he calls or you bump into him.
When he calls or texts you (and yes, he will) be nice to him, but don’t let him know you want him back so bad.
Play it cool, play hard to get and let him regret leaving you.
And while you let him know you still care, there are some common breakup mistakes you can’t afford to make, this can ruin your chances of getting back with your ex-boyfriend.
Below are the breakup mistakes to avoid
Now that you know what to do to get your man back, you also need to know what NOT to do.
- Don’t call or text him, begging him to take you back
- Don’t stalk or spy on him. This includes intentionally going to places where he might be.
- Do not dig into his life from friends. Trying to find out how he is doing will certainly get back to him, and he will know that you haven’t moved on (and we don’t want him to think that). This will ruin your chances of getting him to WANT you back. And don’t ask his or your friends to help you get him back either.
- Don’t get back at your ex-boyfriend (or seek revenge on him). This includes jumping into bed with every guy out there
- And lastly, if you really want to get your boyfriend to love you again, never agree to the idea of being ‘just friends’ with him when he suggests you remain friends for the time being. Don’t OPENLY confirm or deny.
More on the last point – being ‘just friends’
Get this… he will mostly force you into the friend zone because he’s not attracted to you anymore.
You see, when he suggests you remain friends, what this means is that he wants to keep you around as backup whiles he dates other girls.
And when he is not able to find the kind of girl he wants, then he will settle for you. (The reason why this is, is because, like I said, he’s not attracted to you anymore)
Plus, when he needs some action (you know…) you will be the one he calls.
So all in all, if you want to make your ex-boyfriend love you again and get back to the relationship you always wanted with him, DON’T agree to be ‘just friends’, hoping one day he will love you again.
Keep yourself out of the friend zone and work on attracting him, making him want you as a girlfriend.
This is what will land you in the friend zone
Pestering him with phone calls and texts, and showing desperation are the mistakes that will land you in the friend zone.
And when you get stuck in the friend zone it will be very difficult to recover, because as I mentioned above, he’s not attracted to you anymore.
So this is what you do instead:
You need to demonstrate to him that your world doesn’t revolve around him. And that you’ve already moved on and you are not thinking about him anymore.
Follow the tips on bettering yourself. You need to look as hot as you can to make him desire you.
Demonstrate you are a happy girl without him so that you don’t end up in the friend zone unless you want to.
The only time you should be friends with an ex-boyfriend is when you’ve met someone better than him…
…someone who understands you and respects you. And you’ve decided to actually move on.
Or you both made a mutual decision to end the relationship.
But if you still have feelings for him and you want him back, don’t be stuck in the friend zone.
If you still have feelings for your ex… keep yourself out of the friend zone.
Fret not, if you’ve made some of the above mistakes.
You can still get your ex-boyfriend to want you back.
When he contacts very soon after the breakup, here’s how to go about it
Now, following the tips and steps mentioned above, your ex-boyfriend will contact you, wanting to chat.
That’s when you will play hard to get.
The moment you see or sense any signs of interest on his part, don’t jump into his arms right away… become a challenge and let him work for your approval.
When he calls, don’t answer right away.
When he leaves a message, don’t be tempted to call him back anytime soon.
When you do answer his call after a long ring, don’t act excited as if you were waiting for the call.
Act busy… like you have some other important or exciting thing to do and you only have some few minutes to spare (remember, don’t be rude to him).
When he tries to find out what you’ve been up to lately (of course, he wants to know if you are dating someone else), don’t say much.
In fact, let him do all the talking.
Don’t initiate topics.
Act as if you are not interested in talking to him, meanwhile be nice.
When he asks questions, keep your answers short.
Keep the conversation short, and be the one to end the call.
When your ex-boyfriend contacts you wanting to get back, play hard to get.
When he texts
Instead of responding to him right away, wait longer (preferably 1 hour) then respond.
If he contacts you on Facebook or WhatsApp or other social platforms, wanting to chat, wait for about 10 minutes then respond.
Keep him waiting for a longer period for each message he sends.
Heck, you can even respond the next day. It’s not a crime.
You want to give the impression that you are busy chatting with someone else, and you are not that much interested in what he has to say.
If you bump into him, as I mentioned earlier, don’t act desperate and needy.
Just say your hellos and go about your business.
If he wants to talk, make it short and be the one to end it.
Here also, don’t say too much about what you’ve been up to.
Yes, I know… you want to quickly get back together with your ex-boyfriend, and this seems like a perfect time to do it.
But trust me on this…
You don’t want him to be calling the shots when HE broke up with you.
Be in a position of control, and play hard to get.
FINAL Strategy – When he hasn’t contacted you after 30 days or after a long time
Here, you can use text messages to get your man back, or seduce him back into your life.
Texting is an effective way to get an ex-boyfriend back, and one that is necessary for you to know how.
Now, I am going to teach you how to get your ex-boyfriend back through text…
…although it is by no way exhaustive.
There is a system I RECOMMEND you check out, called ‘Text Your Ex Back 2.0’ by relationship expert Michael Fiore.
It’s a step-by-step system that teaches how to get your ex-boyfriend back by using text messages.
You get detailed guidance on how to text to get your ex-boyfriend back…
…which texts to send, how many, how often, and all the details you need to win your ex back.
Let’s begin… how to get your ex-boyfriend back by texts
Not only is texting the most effective way to get your ex-boyfriend back, but it’s also the best way to get an ex in a long-distance relationship back.
Now, there is a wrong approach and a right approach to get a boyfriend back through text.
The wrong approach is making the negative aspect of your relationship (experiences that probably led to the breakup) the subject of your texts.
In other words, your texts should not come off as an apology.
“Your old relationship is dead and it is never coming back. Making it the subject of your texts is a big mistake. Your goal now is to create a NEW relationship from scratch, hopefully an even BETTER one than you had before”, says Michael Fiore in his award-winning program ‘Text Your Ex Back 2.0’.
Texting your ex-boyfriend, and reminding him of something that played a factor in the breakup just because you want a conversation starter can bring back bad memories, and that will not help make your boyfriend come back to you.
Let’s take a look at a wrong text to send:
Sending a text like…
- “Hi, I’m just burning with curiosity… how’s the new job going?”
Now, let’s assume his work situation was part of the reason he broke up with you… so this wouldn’t be a good conversation starter or one that will bring your man back.
Text your ex-boyfriend back with pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
This is the right approach to use…
Think of the future you will want to have with your ex-boyfriend when you guys make up, instead of the past.
As Michael Fiore as written, “Your goal now is to create a NEW relationship from scratch.”
This’s the right type of text to send.
This’s an excerpt from ‘Text Your Ex Back 2.0’:
- “Hey Paul, I’m just sitting here looking at the ocean and smiling thinking about the time you tried to teach me to surf. I’ll love to try that again someday. =-)”
You see, this kind of text brightens his day, instead of reminding him of the not-so-perfect past.
And with a text like this, you are not giving the impression you want to get back together…
…you just want them to teach you how to surf.
How bad is that!
If he responds in the positive, it probably means he still has feelings for you.
Here’s another example:
(Another excerpt from ‘Text Your Ex Back 2.0’)
- “Jenny invited me to the new Resident Evil movie and I remember how I jumped and dumped my drink on you when we saw the first one… you were so funny and nice about it. We never did see the rest of it!”
This is another perfect text to send to seduce your ex-boyfriend back into your life.
What I like about this second text is that it communicates to him that you have a social life and you are not sitting around moping.
Plus, you’re having positive thoughts about him.
What to text to get your ex-boyfriend back
As I said earlier, texting is an effective way to get your boyfriend back.
To text your ex-boyfriend back into your life, you need pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
What made your relationship great, and what brought you together as a couple…
…the outdoors, movies, trips, the hobbies you shared.
“If these things bring a little smile to your face and cause you to daydream a little bit, that’s totally great,“ says Michael Fiore.
Here, you want to plant positive thoughts and emotions about you and the relationship in his mind so he starts thinking about you in a positive way.
And consequently, make him want you back.
Now, as you use texts to get your ex-boyfriend back, here’re a few things to take note:
- Don’t bring up the past negative experiences that caused your relationship to end.
- Don’t ask your ex-boyfriend to get back together. Don’t create the impression you desperately want him back.
- Don’t be sending multiple texts a day. If you guys end up visiting memory lane and get kind of chatty, that’s cool
- Wait for some few days before sending another text.
- Try to be the one who ends the conversation.
- If you don’t get a response, don’t worry about it.
If you play your cards right, it will move from texting to actually meeting, dating again, and finally getting ex back permanently.
Now, that’s how to get your ex-boyfriend back after he broke up with you.
Next, we look at how to get your ex-boyfriend back if YOU dumped them.
Plant positive thoughts and emotions about you and the relationship in his mind so he starts thinking about you in a positive way.
How to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back If You Were the One Who Dumped Them
You dumped him, but now you regret and you want him back.
Well, if this is the case, then it should be easy to get back with your boyfriend.
All you have to do is to apologize.
This is the only way to get back your ex-boyfriend.
Here is a good example of what to say to your ex to get him back.
Tell him you have realized how wrong you were, and that you were thoughtless and insensitive. And you understand how much hurt and pain he must have gone through because of you.
Tell him you want him to know that you were wrong and you want to apologize for whatever pain you caused. And that you are sorry.
And you love him.
So that’s a good example of what to tell your ex to get him back.
And do it in person… not on the phone, or with the help of your friends.
Here’s a possibility…
You truly want him back, but he might not necessarily want you.
He is wrecked and hurting.
You might not even realize this, but in his world, you might be the most annoying person at the moment.
So now, you may have to work hard to bring him back.
Before you ask him to forgive you and take you back, you must look at things from his perspective.
The wounds might be fresh so give him some space to recover from the hurt.
And wait till the time he’s in the right emotional state. And trust me; it might not be within the next few days.
Once enough time as pass, seduce him with text messages, using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories. (Read “how to get your ex-boyfriend back by texts” section above.)
Apologizing should be enough to make an ex-boyfriend come back. But if he shows signs he won’t come back or he is not responding as you expect, then he has read this article too, and he is playing hard to get.
So that’s how to get your ex-boyfriend back if YOU were the one who dumped him.
Again, here’s the step-by-step guidance and tips on how to get your ex-boyfriend back after he broke up with you:
- Don’t let the breakup get the better of you… you must act with self-control to avoid pushing him farther away from you.
- Cease all contact with him for at least 30 days.
- During the 30-day period, give yourself a total makeover in order to make him desire you again.
- Hang out with your friends during this 30-day period to keep your mind off your ex-boyfriend.
- Date other people to get him insecure and jealous, and have him running back to you.
- Be in a position of control. Don’t chase or beg him to take you back.
- Showcase your new self on social media to get his attention
- Let him know you still care but don’t show any neediness
- If he hasn’t contacted after a long time, use text messages to seduce him back
- If he suggests you remain friends for the time being, don’t go along with it.
So that’s the recap of how to get your ex-boyfriend back after he broke up with you.
Now, here’s how to get your ex-boyfriend back if YOU dumped him:
If you were the one who broke up with him, see him in person and apologize.
But if he doesn’t respond, give him some space to recover from the hurt, and wait till the time he is in the right emotional state, then seduce him back with text messages, using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
So there you have it – how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
So now that you know how to get your ex-boyfriend back, all the things to avoid and the steps to take, it is important that you take action right now.
It is one thing learning how to get your ex-boyfriend back, and it is another, successfully getting a boyfriend back.
Following everything I’ve taught you so far, you should be able to get your ex-boyfriend’s attention and make him want you back.
If you do this, and if your ex-boyfriend has any interest in rekindling the relationship, you should be able to make up and have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
To your success!
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