Getting dumped by someone you love and hold dear is heartbreaking. You feel devastated, embarrassed, and angry. But with all the hate, you still love them and you want them back. Here in this article, I share with you how to get your ex back after a breakup.
I give you step-by-step guidance, tips, and advice on getting back with an ex.
First, we look at how to get your ex back, or more precisely how to get your ex to want you again if you were the one who got dumped.
I start out by discussing the two important steps to getting back with your ex.
Moving on, we get to the meat of this article, the actual process of how to get your ex back. Here, you will learn how to use your friends as a tool to make your ex regret dumping you, and consequently, make your ex want you back … including foolproof tactics to get your ex jealous and insecure, and make an ex regret leaving you or breaking up with you.
You will also learn how to get your ex back by using social media.
I also share with you what to do to get your ex back when they haven’t contacted you for a long time. Here you will learn how to get your ex back using text messages.
Finally, I teach you how to get your ex back or how to ask your ex to take you back if YOU were the one who dumped them.
Now, before you get started on getting your ex back, you need a plan.
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Your plan and goal…
Your lover (now ex-lover) dumped you because they probably lost interest in you or because of something you did.
So it makes sense to pester them with phone calls and texts… to beg them to take you back.
But the begging and the persistent phone calls and texts are not the best way to get your ex back after a breakup…
…it will rather push them farther away.
Instead, the best thing or things to do to get your ex back is to remove neediness and plant a seed in their mind that will build attraction and make them desire you again.
In other words, you need to be in a position of control.
If they dumped you, don’t go chasing after them.
Instead, work on attracting them… and let them regret breaking up with you and get them to chase you instead. (I show you how to make your ex chase you in this article).
So all in all, what I teach you in this article boils down to one thing and one thing only… getting your ex attracted to you again.
Otherwise, if YOU were the one who dumped them, you can skip to the end to learn how to get your ex back.
With that said, let’s begin… with how to get your ex back after a breakup.
The best way to make your ex want you back is to remove neediness and plant a seed in their mind that will build attraction and make them desire you again.
How to Get Your Ex Back After Being Dumped: The Most Important First Step
Rid yourself of any bad or negative emotions.
This is especially important if the breakup is recent.
Don’t let the breakup get the better of you.
Indeed, you are hurting, especially if you were the one who got dumped.
You want to call your ex and speak your mind (probably done that), or beg them to take you back (probably done that too).
But, if you want to get your ex-lover back, you must act with self-control to avoid pushing them farther away from you.
Focusing too much on the breakup can affect your chances of getting back together with an ex.
You are probably thinking they have found someone else and you are going to be lonely for the rest of your life…
You are thinking they are never coming back and you can’t leave without them…
You are expecting the worst, and it’s driving you nuts.
It’s completely normal, and any heartbroken person will feel that way too.
But your emotions are so vital that they will determine whether you will get your lover back or drive them farther away from you.
How?
You see… when you are heartbroken and hurting, your emotions will be doing your thinking.
You are likely to make mistakes or say dreadful things to your ex that you can’t take back.
These mistakes will largely impact your chances of getting your ex to want you back.
If you want to get your ex back, you must act with self-control to avoid pushing them farther away from you.
Moving on
When you start thinking about your ex or the breakup, and you experience bad or negative emotions, try to shift your focus to something else… anything that doesn’t remind you of your ex.
If you start feeling depressed out of the blue, listen to some motivational or inspirational messages…
…or watch a comedy movie that will put a little smile on your face.
Instead of sitting in your room all day long feeling worse, go out with friends and have fun (the 5th step on how to get your ex back… you’ll learn more about that in a jiffy).
Sure, it will be difficult not to think of your ex. But the smart way to AVOID making mistakes, and consequently, getting an ex back, is to NOT focus on your ex or the breakup.
Now, if a picture of your ex on your mobile phone makes you lose yourself in your emotions, store it somewhere else. If a mug they bought you reminds you of them, box it and put it away from sight.
This is the first step in getting back together after a breakup – avoid thinking about your ex or the breakup.
And while you are at it, recognize the REAL reason or reasons that could have led to the breakup, and take appropriate actions to change if YOU were at fault.
With that said, let’s look at the second most important step on how to get your ex back…
You will get your ex back the moment you get over the fear of losing them.
Step #2 – Cease all contact with your ex, starting now
As you take steps to rid yourself of any bad or negative emotions, try to cease contact with your ex for at least 30 days.
You MUST NOT initiate any sort of contact or communication with them (not until they beg you to come back).
DO NOT contact them, let them contact you.
In other words, DO NOT beg or plead for your ex to take you back – no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no stalking, nothing.
Even when they contact you a week after the breakup, play hard to get.
Remember, your plan is NOT to appear needy and desperate in trying to get back with your ex.
If you allow your emotions to get the better of you, as I mentioned earlier, you will say something or act in a way that will push your ex farther away from you.
Avoid calling your ex too much, or sending loads of texts and emails. They won’t help get them back.
So why is this important… you may ask
How does avoiding contact with your ex help bring your ex back to you?
First of all, it allows you to get into a stable emotional state and helps you overcome the hurt of the breakup.
Ceasing all contact with your ex is the best way to get your emotions in order.
Because once you text or call your ex on the phone, you are more likely to text or say dreadful things to them that you can’t take back.
If you’ve already SMSed or called your ex and spoken your mind or begged them to take you back, fret not. You can still recover and take the right approach to get them back.
Secondly, you are going to better yourself to make yourself more attractive to your ex AGAIN.
And thirdly, it puts you in a position of control. This will make your ex regret leaving you.
Ceasing all contact with your ex is the best way to get your emotions in order.
Here’s the good news…
You see, your ex will EXPECT you to initiate some form of contact with them.
But, not doing exactly that will communicate to them you’re not bothered by the breakup.
Plus, doing what I teach you next will make them hell-bent on wanting to take you back.
“Neediness is the opposite of attraction,” says relationship expert Michael Fiore, author of ‘Text Your Ex Back’.
True, they broke it off with you, but you need to send them a clear signal that your world doesn’t revolve around them. You’ve already moved on and not thinking about them anymore.
You need to nonverbally communicate to them that you don’t need them to be happy in life. You don’t need their attention or approval.
If they don’t want you anymore, then it’s their loss.
Heck, you can find someone better than them.
Neediness is the opposite of attraction.
It works…
You might be reluctant to do this, but if you want your ex back, you need to nonverbally communicate to them that you don’t need them.
ACT AS IF you don’t really care about the breakup and you have already moved on.
Now, here is what’s going to happen to your ex:
- They will start missing you
- They will start fearing that they might lose you (they didn’t value you then… and they are going to wish they should have never let you go)
- They will get insecure (you’re going to learn how to get your ex back using some few jealousy tactics)
- And many other disturbing feelings that will drive them completely nuts
This will increase their desire to have you back.
No, scratch that… it will make them BEG you to take them back.
What about you…
Now, keep in mind, that avoiding your ex like this will be tough.
During this period:
- You will feel lonely
- You will feel sad
- You will feel depressed
- You will want to call or text them
- You will feel like spying on them to see what they are up to
It will not be easy at first, but with time it will get easier.
You need to nonverbally communicate to your ex that you’ve moved on if you want to get them back.
Be careful here…
Your ex might contact you or you might bump into them at some point, and this can reopen the wound.
But you need to have self-control so as NOT to communicate to them you are desperate in getting back with them.
Even if you see them with someone else don’t react.
Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean you should ignore them.
You can act as if you haven’t seen them. But when you do lock eyes with them, don’t act needy, and DON’T BEG them to take you back.
Even if you see them every day, keep cool and demonstrate you’ve moved on.
Keep in mind that your actions can show that you miss them and you want them back, and your ex might sense it (you don’t want that).
Even the things you say to their friends and other people, your remarks will communicate to your ex you want them back…
…word can get back to your ex.
So be careful here.
You have to get over your ex in order to get them back.
What to do instead…
Forget about your ex and the breakup.
Try to get on with your life as if your ex doesn’t exist.
Trust me on this…
…the very act of moving on after a breakup is what will actually bring your ex back.
You never know… you might even meet someone who is better than your ex, who understands you and respects you for who you are.
Sure, you want to get your ex back, but don’t let them have the last laugh.
GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE… and your ex will desire you again.
You will no longer have to chase them for them to take you back. Instead, they will be the ones desperately chasing and begging you to get back with them.
Your ultimate plan is to give them their space while taking steps to get them attracted to you again.
That being said, let’s look at what you will be doing for the next 30 days and how to get your ex back. (Later, you will learn how to get your back if you dumped them but now you want them back)
When you start living your life, the hurt of the breakup will subside. And you will get to a point where your ex will not matter to you anymore.
How to Get Your Ex Back If You Were The One Who Got Dumped: The Process
Aside from ceasing contact with your ex, there are other things you SHOULDN’T do if you want your ex back, such as:
- Thinking about them or the breakup
- Keeping things around you that remind you of them
- Stalking them on their social media accounts
- Checking your phone like 100 times a day expecting them to call or text you
- Stuffing your emotions with alcohol or drugs
And most importantly, don’t deliberately do anything just to get a reaction from them.
Moving on…
So instead of focusing on the breakup and getting all emotional and everything, you are going to focus on yourself and do things that will attract your ex back to you.
So, given below are what you should be doing as you cease contact or communication with your ex for the next 30 days.
This will turn the tables and put you in a position of control.
Your ex will now be the one in an unstable emotional state.
They will desire you more and will feel a desperate urge to take you back.
Be ready for your ex to start calling you up, chasing you, and wanting to talk to you.
With that said, let’s continue… how to get your ex back.
Getting an ex back boils down to one thing and one thing only… and that is, getting them attracted to you again.
To the third step on how to get your ex back.
Step #3 – Change if you were at fault
As I mentioned earlier, recognize the real reasons that led to the breakup, and take appropriate steps to change if you were at fault.
If it’s some bad habits your ex didn’t like, then change those bad habits.
Don’t change just to get them back or to please them, but change for yourself.
You don’t want to repeat such behaviors or habits after making up.
Recognize the real reasons that led to the breakup, and take appropriate steps to change if you were at fault.
The fourth step on how to get your ex back is to…
…better yourself (Step #4)
Make yourself happy all day by getting involved in social activities.
For instance, you can do something you enjoy or engage in something new.
Go out for a walk.
Get involved in some exercises to make yourself feel better.
You can even join a gym.
Remember, you are doing all these things to keep your mind off your ex and the breakup, and onto yourself.
And give yourself a total makeover… go shopping for new clothes and shoes.
You need to make yourself attractive, and let your ex REGRET breaking up with you and get them to want you back.
Another part of bettering yourself is to forgive your ex. You want them back so it calls to forgive them for whatever they did.
After all, how can you get your ex back if you don’t forgive them?
Plus, forgive yourself too.
If you said some things out of emotions and you regret saying them, forgive yourself now and apologize to your ex when you make up.
Even if you cheated, forgive yourself and promise yourself it won’t happen in the future, especially now that you’re fighting to get your ex back.
You made a mistake and it’s in the past.
If you really want to get your ex back, strive to keep your mind off them and the breakup… and focus on bettering yourself.
The fifth step on how to get your ex back is to…
…hang out with friends (Step #5)
Friends are there to help you through the breakup, to comfort you, and cheer you up.
So spend time with them to keep your mind off your ex.
Play some video games.
Watch a comedy movie together and have some laughs.
Or go out with them and have some fun.
And while you’re having fun, take some interesting pictures together. (Later in this article, you will learn how to get your ex back with these pictures… ‘using social media to get your ex back’)
Hang out with them more, but don’t talk about the breakup.
It’s understandable to talk about it when asked, but don’t let it be the theme of the day. And don’t obsess about it either.
Now the best part about hanging out with your friends, aside from having fun, is that they can be a tool to get your ex back. (That’s one of the tricks to get your ex back)
This is even more powerful when they are friends with your ex as well… and foolproof when they are very close to your ex.
Why is that?
…because whatever fun life you are having now will definitely get to your ex via their friends.
After bettering yourself and looking good and attractive to your friends, word is going to get to your ex.
Your friends and probably your ex’s friends will notice the big changes in your personality… and will definitely tell your ex all about it.
Your ex is going to know all about you…
…and when they get to know you are all better, looking great and all that, they will regret ever leaving you and will want to take you back.
The best part about hanging out with your friends, aside from having fun, is that they can be a tool to get your ex back.
Use your friends to your advantage
Spend more time with your friends, not only to have fun but to also use it to your advantage.
Demonstrate to your friends that you’ve changed… and your ex will get to know about it.
Give yourself a total makeover… and your ex will get to know about it.
Now, your ex will regret breaking up with you… they will fear that maybe you’ve found someone else and forgotten all about them.
This is especially potent since you are not pestering them with phone calls and texts anymore.
This will make them insecure and they will be curious to know if you are still interested in them.
Now, to actually sell it and make your ex insecure and jealous, and get them RUNNING back to you, you need to get back into the dating scene again…
…which takes us to the next step on how to get your ex back.
After bettering yourself and looking good and attractive to your friends, word is going to get to your ex.
Step #6 – Start dating again
I know this is not what you want to do now…
…but in addition to focusing on how to get your ex back, focus on yourself and your happiness too.
One of the effective ways to make your ex want you back is for you to actually start dating other people.
The reason why this is so effective is that it gets your ex jealous (not intentionally… and don’t rub it in their face either. But that’s a side benefit of dating again after a breakup), and the chances of getting back with them increase.
The very fact of seeing you with someone else will drive them nuts.
They will fear losing you completely.
As the saying goes, “People don’t value the things they have as long as they know they have them. But the moment they realize they are about to lose it all, that’s when they value it more than ever before.”
Now, if cheating (on your part) was the reason why they dumped you, then tread carefully here.
I would even suggest you skip this step altogether and apply other methods instead.
You don’t want to give the impression that you HAVEN’T changed.
One of the effective ways to make your ex want you back is for you to actually start dating other people.
Now, why date other people when you are trying to get your ex back
Simple…
- First, it’s a foolproof UNINTENTIONAL jealousy tactic that gets ex running back to you.
- And second, you are an attractive person who has a life, and being dumped doesn’t mean life shouldn’t go on. And when you have this mentality, it forces you to get off your butt and out having fun.
And as I keep saying, your plan is to make your ex REGRET breaking up with you, and get them to start chasing you.
Now, dating other people doesn’t mean you should sleep around to get back at your ex (or to get even with your ex).
Just go out to the movies and dinner with your date… you know, just to have some fun and keep your mind off the breakup for a while.
If you don’t like the idea of dating other people because you fear you might lose your ex altogether, then make friends instead.
You don’t really have to get into a serious relationship with someone or fall in love with them. (Unless you are really over your ex)
Nonetheless, dating again after a breakup is one of the guaranteed ways to get your ex back.
Not only will it give your ex some space (to recall how awesome you were) and make them regret breaking up with you, but you might meet someone you really have real chemistry or connection with.
When that happens, you decide… do you want to move on with your life with this new person? Or do you still want to get back with your ex?
A foolproof way to get your ex back is to start dating again. The very fact of your ex seeing you with someone else will drive them nuts and they will fear losing you completely.
Back to how friends can be a tool to get your ex running back to you
As I previously mentioned, your friends can be a tool to get an ex-lover back.
Now, here is how to actually sell it to make your ex insecure and jealous:
(Not on purpose, but to demonstrate that you’ve moved on and that the breakup didn’t break you)
INDIRECTLY let your friends know you are dating someone new, and that you’ve moved on and are happy and all that.
Indirectly, in the sense that, don’t come across as if you’re trying to get a reaction from your ex…
…talk about your date when asked by your friends, but don’t bring them up just to send a message and make your ex jealous.
When your friends get to know about your date, word will get to your ex, and as I mentioned earlier… it will drive them nuts.
Now, expect your ex to be keeping some sort of contact, showing emotions towards you or your actions, like calling and texting you and asking you what you’ve been up to.
Now, this is a good sign because it shows your Ex still has feelings for you (and definitely wants you back).
Use your friends as a tool to get your ex back… by indirectly letting them know you are dating someone new, and that you’ve moved on and are happy.
To the next step on how to get your ex back…
Step #7 – Showcase your new self on social media to get their attention
Another method of learning how to make your ex miss you is to showcase your new self on social media.
This includes Facebook, Instagram, and other photo-sharing and video-sharing social networks.
This is another trick to get your ex insecure and have them regret breaking up with you.
Let’s start with your profile picture…
…because that’s the first thing people look at.
Should your ex start checking you out on social media, you want your profile to project to them that you are not bothered by the breakup.
Take a pic with a big smile that says…
“I’m happy and confident. I broke up with my partner recently, but I’m not bothered about it… I’ve moved on.”
…and set it as your profile picture.
If your previous profile picture was the two of you together, change it and set one with ONLY YOU with a big smile on your face.
Make your profile picture project to your ex you are not bothered by the breakup.
Next is what you post on your wall or timeline…
Don’t be posting too much.
Update your wall once in a while, and update only when you have something really interesting to share.
Something like the hike you took a couple of days ago… or the party you went to last night.
Don’t be posting about boring stuff, like the weather, or how you miss ‘somebody’.
Don’t post about the breakup.
And again, don’t do anything just to get a reaction from your ex.
Now, let’s move on to what will give them the shivers… I mean the fear.
Attract ex back by showcasing your new self on social media.
…the pictures and videos you will be uploading
Here’s how to get your ex’s attention…
…capture interesting moments in your life.
The trip you took with your friends and the parties you went to. (This’s why I stated earlier you should hang out with your friends).
You should actually go to social events with your friends and TAKE SELFIES.
You can also (or probably should) take pictures of yourself with other people of the opposite gender, people your ex doesn’t know (of course, smiling and having fun).
And lastly, make lots of friends. Keep adding the opposite gender to your ‘Friends List’.
Your ex will definitely notice all these changes and will be stalking you, wishing they should have never broken up with you.
Now, expect your ex to be posting stuff as well, waiting for you to comment or contact them.
Or if they are too desperate to talk to you, then they will start calling or texting you.
Capture interesting moments in your life then upload them to your page to get an ex’s attention.
You should actually move on after the breakup
This shouldn’t be a hoax.
Don’t try to deceive your ex that you are having a fun time after the breakup.
That’s why you should ACTUALLY follow everything I’ve mentioned in this article:
- Better yourself, get a total makeover.
- Hang out with friends and ACTUALLY have fun. Take pictures of everything.
- Go to interesting places.
- Do something new and share them on Facebook and Instagram.
- Date other people, make new friends, and add them on Facebook to get your ex’s attention.
You have to showcase your new self on social media to get your ex’s attention.
You have to demonstrate to them that you’re not just sitting at home crying over them… but instead, you’ve moved on, and you’re having an exciting and interesting life which they could have been part of, but they aren’t.
So that’s how you get your ex back using social media.
Now, as far as exes and social media go, there are some mistakes to avoid…
Social media mistakes to avoid:
- Don’t cyber-stalk your ex, not even a peek. As curious as you will be, DON’T DO IT! Even if you stumble on their post on your feed by mistake, that seems to be directed at you or the breakup, don’t take it seriously. People will post hurtful things after a breakup.
- Don’t change your relationship status immediately after the breakup… wait a while, then set it to ‘Only Me’ or hide it from public view. Don’t change it to ‘Single’
- Don’t unfriend or block your ex
- Don’t be changing your profile picture too much. A snapshot with a big smile is enough to get their attention and make them regret leaving you
Social media is a great place to get your ex’s attention, and consequently, get them to want you back.
Now to the last point on how to get your ex back…
Step #8 – Don’t act desperate and needy when you bump into your ex
Truth is, you are going to bump into your ex at some point, and this can bring back all the emotions, especially when you see them with someone else.
Newsflash… it’s their cousin.
If they are with someone (probably their cousin), be very polite and don’t react in the negative.
Act as if you don’t care about who they are with. And don’t be rude.
Act as if nothing bothers you.
Act cool and happy and confident. (You can tremble inside, but don’t let it show on the outside)
If they’re alone, act as if you’ve moved on, and don’t show any neediness.
“SUBTLY showing that you’ve moved on is very powerful as an attraction technique,” says Michael Fiore, creator of ‘Text Your Ex Back’.
If you are with someone, just say your hellos… introduce them and leave.
Don’t try to explain yourself.
If you are going to chat, make it short and exit as early as possible… be the one who ends the conversation.
Subtly showing that you’ve moved on is very powerful as an attraction technique.
With all said and done…
Let them know that you still care…
…but you don’t want to give the impression that you want them back so bad.
Yes, you share a history, and that didn’t just get erased when you guys broke up.
They dumped you, and it was awful. But that doesn’t mean you should be rude to them.
When they call or text you (and yes, they will) be nice to them, but don’t let them know you want them back so bad.
Play it cool, play hard to get, and let them regret leaving you.
And while you let them know you still care, there are some common breakup mistakes you can’t afford to make, this can ruin your chances of getting your ex to want you back.
Below are the break-up mistakes to avoid
Now that you know what to do to make your ex want you back, you also need to know what NOT to do to get your ex back.
- Avoid calling or texting them to beg them to take you back.
- Don’t stalk or spy on them. This includes intentionally going to places where they might be.
- Don’t dig into their life from friends or families. And don’t ask their friends to help you get them back either. Trying to find out how your ex is doing will certainly get back to your ex, and they will know that you haven’t moved on (and we don’t want them to think that… because this might ruin your chances of getting them to WANT you back.)
- Don’t seek revenge on them. This includes jumping into bed with every person out there.
- And lastly, if you really want to attract your ex back, never agree to be ‘just friends’ with them when they suggest you remain friends for the time being. Don’t OPENLY confirm or deny.
When you bump into your ex, let them know that you still care. But don’t give the impression that you want them back so bad.
More on the last point – being ‘just friends’
Get this… your ex will mostly force you into the friend zone because they aren’t attracted to you anymore.
You see, when they ask you to be friends for the time being it probably means that they want to keep you around as a backup while they date other people.
And when they are not able to find someone ‘better’ then they will settle for you.
If you still have feelings for your ex and you want to get back into a relationship with your ex, don’t agree to remain friends, hoping one day they will love you again.
Keep yourself out of the friend zone.
Chasing them around and showing desperation are the mistakes that will land you in the friend zone.
And when you get stuck in the friend zone it will be very difficult to recover from it… because as I mentioned, they are not attracted to you anymore.
If you want to get back into a relationship with your ex, don’t agree to remain friends.
So this is what you do instead:
Demonstrate to them that your world doesn’t revolve around them. You’ve already moved on and not thinking about them anymore.
Follow the tips on bettering yourself to get them to desire you again.
Demonstrate you’re a happy person without them so that you don’t end up in the friend zone unless you want to.
The only time you should be friends with an ex is when you’ve met someone better than them…
…someone who understands you and respects you. And you’ve decided to actually move on, NOT wanting to get back with your ex.
Or you both made a mutual decision to end the relationship.
But if you still have feelings for your ex and you want them back, don’t be stuck in the friend zone.
If you still have feelings for your ex… keep yourself out of the friend zone.
Moving forward
If you have already made some of the above mistakes, don’t fret too much over it.
You can still get your ex to want you back.
When they contact very soon after the breakup, here’s how to go about it
Now, when your ex contacts you, wanting to talk or hang out, that is when you will play hard to get.
The moment you see signs that indicates your ex wants you back, don’t jump into their arms right away…
…become a challenge and let them work for your approval.
Hint: Playing hard to get with an ex makes them want you so bad.
When they call, don’t answer right away.
When they leave a message, don’t be tempted to call them back anytime soon.
When you do answer their call after a long ring, don’t act excited as if you were waiting for their call.
Act busy… like you have some other important or exciting thing to do and you only have a few minutes to spare (remember, don’t be rude here).
Don’t tell them what that important or exciting thing is. Let them do the talking and you do the listening.
Don’t initiate topics.
Act as if you are not interested in talking to them, meanwhile be nice.
Keep your answers and the conversation short. And be the person to end the call.
Now, when they text you, instead of responding to them right away, wait more than an hour, then respond.
If they send you a message when online… on Facebook, WhatsApp, or any other social media platform, wanting to chat, wait for about 10 minutes then respond.
Keep them waiting for each message they send.
Heck, you can even respond the following day.
You have to give the impression that you are busy chatting with someone else, and you are not that much interested in what they have to say.
Playing hard to get with an ex makes them want you so bad.
If you bump into them…
…as I mentioned earlier, don’t act desperate and needy.
Just say your hellos and go about your business.
If they engage you in a conversation, make it short and be the one to end it. Plus, don’t give too much detail about what’s going on in your life.
Yes, I know… you want to get back together with your ex really quickly, and this seems like a perfect time to do it.
But trust me on this…
You don’t want your ex to be calling the shots.
Be in a position of control, and play hard to get. (Do the same even if they contact you after months or after a year.)
When your ex contacts you wanting to get back, play hard to get… again, playing hard to get with an ex makes them want you back so bad.
FINAL Strategy – When they haven’t contacted you after 30 days or a very long time…
…you can use simple text messages to pull your ex back or seduce them back into your life.
Texting is an effective way to get an ex back, and one that is necessary for you to know how.
Now, I am going to teach you how to get your ex back through texts…
…although it is by no way exhaustive.
There is a system I RECOMMEND you check out, called ‘Text Your Ex Back’ by relationship expert Michael Fiore.
It’s a step-by-step system that teaches how to get your ex back by using text messages.
You get detailed guidance on how to text to get your ex back…
…which texts to send, how many, how often, and all the details you need to win your ex back.
Texting is an effective way to get an ex back.
Let’s begin… how to get your ex back by texts
Not only is texting an effective way to get an ex back, but it’s also the best way to get your ex back in a long-distance relationship.
However, there is a wrong approach and a right approach to get your ex back by text.
The wrong approach is making the negative aspect of your relationship (experiences that probably led to the breakup) the subject of your texts.
In other words, your texts shouldn’t come off as an apology.
“Your old relationship is dead and it is never coming back. Making it the subject of your texts is a big mistake. Your goal now is to create a NEW relationship from scratch, hopefully, an even BETTER one than you had before”, says Michael Fiore in his award-winning program ‘Text Your Ex Back’.
Texting your ex, reminding them of something that contributed to the breakup just because you want a conversation starter can bring back bad memories, and that will not help make your ex come back.
Sending a text message like…
- “Hi, I’m just burning with curiosity… how’s the new job going?”
This wouldn’t be a great starter assuming their work situation was part of the reason you guys broke up.
Win back your ex’s heart by seducing them with texts that brighten their day.
This is the right approach to use…
Think of the future you will want to have with your ex when you guys make up, instead of the past.
As Michael Fiore has written, “Your goal now is to create a NEW relationship from scratch.”
Given below is an example of an excellent text to send. This’s an excerpt from ‘Text Your Ex Back’:
- “Hey Lorelle, I’m just sitting here looking at the ocean and smiling thinking about the time you tried to teach me to surf. I’ll love to try that again someday. =-)”
You see, this kind of text brightens their day, instead of reminding them of the not-so-perfect past.
And with a text like this, you are not giving the impression you want to get back together. You just want them to teach you how to surf.
How bad is that!
If they respond in a positive, it probably means they still love you.
Here’s another example:
- “Jenny invited me to the new Resident Evil movie and I remember how I jumped and dumped my drink on you when we saw the first one… you were so funny and nice about it. We never did see the rest of it!”
This is another perfect text to send to seduce your ex back into your life.
What I like about this second text is that it communicates to your ex that you have a social life and you are not sitting around moping.
Plus, you’re having positive thoughts about them.
How touching!
If you’re trying to get your ex back by text, look at it as trying to create a new relationship from scratch.
What to text to get your ex back
As I said, texting is an effective way to get back with your ex.
To text your ex back into your life, you need pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
What made your relationship great, and what brought you together as a couple… the outdoors, movies, trips, and whatnot.
“If these things bring a little smile to your face and cause you to daydream a little bit, that’s totally great,” says Michael Fiore.
Here, you want to plant positive thoughts and emotions about you and the relationship in your ex’s mind so they start thinking about you in a positive way.
And consequently, make them desire you again.
Now, as you use texts to get your ex back, here’re a few things to take note of:
- Don’t bring up the past negative experiences that caused your relationship to end.
- Don’t ask your ex to get back together. Don’t create the impression you desperately want them back.
- Don’t be sending multiple texts a day. If you guys end up visiting memory lane and get kind of chatty, that’s cool.
- Wait for a few days before sending another text.
- Try to be the one who ends the conversation.
- If you don’t get a response, don’t worry about it.
If you play your cards right, it will move from texting to dating again, and finally getting back with your ex.
Now, that’s how to get your ex back after they’ve dumped you and how to get your ex back by texting them.
Next, we look at how to get your ex back if YOU were the one who dumped them.
To text your ex back into your life, you need pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
How to Get Your Ex Back If You Were the One Who Dumped Them
You dumped your lover, but now you want them back.
Well, if this is the case, then it should be easy to really get your ex to come back.
All you have to do is to apologize. That is the only way to get back your ex.
Tell them you have realized how wrong you were, and that you were thoughtless and insensitive. And you understand how much hurt and pain they might have gone through because of you.
Tell them you want them to know that you were wrong and you want to apologize for being a jerk. And that you are sorry.
And you love them.
Do it in person… not on the phone, or with the help of your friends.
Apologizing is the only way to get back to your ex after dumping them… and do it in person.
Here’s a possibility…
You truly want them back, but they might not necessarily want you.
They are heartbroken and hurting. You might not even realize this, but in their world, you might be the most annoying person at the moment.
So now, you may have to work hard to get them back.
Before you ask them to forgive you and take you back, you must look at things from their perspective.
The wounds might still be fresh.
Give them the space to recover from the hurt.
And wait until the time they are in the right emotional state. And trust me; it might not be within the next few days.
Once enough time has passed, text them back into your life using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories. (Read the ‘how to text your ex to get them back’ section above.)
Apologizing should be enough to get your ex to like you again.
But if they won’t respond to something like this, then they’re probably playing hard to get.
So that’s how to get your ex back if YOU were the one who dumped them.
Give your ex time to recover from the heartbreak, then text them back into your life using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
So there you have it… how to get your ex back after you’ve dumped them and how to get your ex back if you were the one who dumped them.
Let’s recap
Again, here’s the step-by-step guidance and tips on how to get your ex back after they’ve dumped you:
- Don’t let the breakup get the better of you… you must act with self-control to avoid pushing them farther away from you.
- Cease all contact with them for at least 30 days.
- Within those 30 days, better yourself and give yourself a total makeover in order to attract your ex back.
- Hang out with your friends during those 30 days to keep your mind off your ex.
- Date other people to get your ex insecure and jealous, and have them running back to you.
- Be in a position of control. Don’t chase or beg your ex to take you back.
- Showcase your new self on social media to get your ex’s attention
- Let them know you still care, but don’t show any neediness
- If they haven’t contacted you in a very long time, use text messages to seduce them back into your life
- If they suggest you remain friends for the time being, don’t go along with it.
That’s the recap of how to get your ex back after they’ve dumped you.
Here’s how to get your ex back if YOU dumped them:
If you were the one who dumped them, see them in person and apologize.
But if they don’t respond, give them some space to recover from the hurt, and wait till the time they are in the right emotional state, then seduce them back with text messages, using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
Don’t let a breakup get the better of you… with the right strategy, you can’t get back with an ex.
So there you have it…
…how to get your ex back after you’ve dumped them and how to get your ex back if you were the one who dumped them.
So now that you know how to get your ex back – all the things to avoid and the steps to take – it is important that you take action right now.
It is one thing to learn how to get your ex back, and it is another, successfully get back with an ex.
Following everything I’ve taught you so far, you should be able to get your ex’s attention and get them to desire you again.
If you do this, and if your ex has any interest in rekindling the relationship, you should be able to make up and have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
To your success!
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