Premature ejaculation – blowing your load shortly after penetrating your girl or woman or blowing your load seconds into intercourse – can be really embarrassing.
You’ve got your girl all hot and wet and ready for some good humping… then all of a sudden you blow your load… and the sex is over before you even get started.
No one wants that.
Sex is fun… and it’s my belief you don’t want yours to end in a couple of seconds.
…how do you avoid embarrassing yourself during sex?
How do you avoid premature ejaculation?
…and in this article, I teach you a proven step-by-step method on how to avoid premature ejaculation to last longer during sex.
Let’s get started… how to avoid premature ejaculation.
How to Avoid Premature Ejaculation
Step #1: Get your girl dripping wet before you start having sex
This is key to lasting longer during sex… and is often overlooked.
You see, when a girl or a woman IS dry or NOT sufficiently wet down there, penetration or thrusting movements cause extreme friction to the penis, and the sensations in the penis are at their most intense. And if you are a guy or a man who tends to ejaculate early, this extreme friction intensifies the sensation in your penis and can push you closer and closer to ejaculation and make you lose control.
However, a lubricated vagina causes less friction and hence lessens stimulation to the penis. And thus, it becomes much easier to control your excitement and arousal. And you can thrust in and out of your girl (or woman) at any speed without experiencing the extreme friction that will cause you to lose control and ejaculate prematurely.
So, if you’re looking to last longer during sex, it’s vital to get your girl or woman dripping wet before you start having sex to avoid too much stimulation.
Spend about 30 minutes on foreplay – kiss, fondle, and lavish her body from head to toe – to get her dripping wet.
This is even good for your girl because she will be much more turned on and penetration will become much more pleasurable for her.
Extreme friction intensifies sensation in the penis and can make you lose control.
Step #2: Adopt less demanding sex positions
Sex positions and sexual postures play an important role in lasting longer during sex.
You see, to be able to avoid premature ejaculation or last longer during sex, one needs to keep his ejaculatory muscle relaxed.
The ejaculatory muscle is the muscle that you feel involuntary contracting when you’re ejaculating and having an orgasm… this is the muscle that controls the release of urine and semen.
Relaxation of the ejaculatory muscle is key to lasting as long as you want during sex – the more the ejaculatory muscle contracts during intercourse, the more it pushes you to ejaculation. But when it is relaxed, it keeps ejaculation at bay and helps you stay longer in bed.
…there are some sex positions and sexual postures that make it difficult to keep the ejaculatory muscle relaxed. An example is the variation of the missionary position where you have to prop yourself up with your hands.
Looking at this missionary posture, you will notice that you rely on your hands and thighs for support. This puts undue stress or excessive pressure on your arms, thighs, and muscle groups…
…which makes it difficult to keep the ejaculatory muscle relaxed. And that consequently results in quick ejaculation.
After thrusting for a few minutes, the amount of stress and tension in the muscles on your arms and thighs will make you lose control or ejaculate before you would want to.
To avoid premature ejaculation and last longer in bed…
…adopt less-demanding positions or sexual postures like the woman-on-top sex positions (specifically the cowgirl) or the spoon. Standing can also help you prolong intercourse.
In these positions, you will feel completely relaxed and you will have greater control of your ejaculatory muscle… no stress and tension will be exerted on your arms and thighs.
Take note of the sex positions that cause you to blow your load sooner and the ones you happen to last longest in or that give you better control of your ejaculatory muscle.
Plus, when you’re having sex in a particular sex position and you feel you’re about to ejaculate sooner than you would want to, stop and withdraw your penis from her until the sensation subsides… then switch to a less demanding position.
Sex positions and sexual postures play an important role in lasting longer during sex.
Now, speaking of the ejaculatory muscle, this takes us to the next step.
Step #3: Make a conscious effort to keep your ejaculatory muscle relaxed throughout sex
As I mentioned earlier, the relaxation of the ejaculatory muscle is key to lasting as long as you want during sex.
The more the ejaculatory muscle contracts, the more it pushes you to ejaculation… but when the ejaculatory muscle is relaxed, it keeps ejaculation at bay and helps you stay longer in bed.
So, to avoid premature ejaculation and last as long as you want during sex, make an effort to keep the ejaculatory relaxed.
Here’s how you do it…
…notice how you relax the muscle in your penis when peeing to allow urine to flow naturally… no stopping the flow of urine and no forcing it out?
…yes, do the same thing during sex.
In other words, make a conscious effort to not voluntarily contract or flex the ejaculatory muscle during sex and you will last a lot longer… until you decide you want to ejaculate and orgasm.
So in short, when the ejaculatory muscle is neither pushing nor pulling, it means it is relaxed.
As simple as that!
Relaxation of the ejaculatory muscle is key to lasting as long as you want during sex.
Step #4: Keep your mind off the sensations in your penis… but eyes fixated on your woman
To avoid losing control quickly during sex, you will want to keep your mind off the sensations and the feelings in your penis… and rather focus on your woman.
Don’t be preoccupied with how you feel in your penis… tune out of the sensations that you are feeling or experiencing… give no attention to how warm and wet your girl’s pussy is…
…but instead, fix your eyes and attention on her.
You see, when you’re preoccupied with the feelings in your penis and you’re too excited to be inside a woman, it gets you overly excited and intensifies your arousal.
…fix your attention on your woman (or girl) and strive to make her come.
Here’s a trick:
Lean over to kiss her… or simply fix your gaze on her – check her facial expressions, focus on the sound or noise she makes.
This will greatly help to divert attention away from or help prevent you from paying too much attention to the stimulation of your penis and the sensations in your penis…
…and keep you from feeling so turned on and keep your arousal under control and early ejaculation at bay.
This works just like a mind-distraction trick. But here, you’re not solving a complicated mathematical problem and whatnot… you’re rather focusing on your woman.
When you’re preoccupied with the feelings in your penis, it gets you overly excited and intensifies your arousal.
Step #5: Maintain slow, deep, and steady breaths
Proper breathing while having sex also holds the key to avoiding premature ejaculation and lasting as long as you desire.
Breathing properly – maintaining slow, deep, steady breaths – helps you manage your arousal and eventually prolong sex.
Generally, when having sex, as your arousal levels increase, your breathing rate increases as well – you start breathing faster… and then increase further as you get closer to orgasm – taking quick, short breaths.
…it’s very important to make a conscious effort to maintain slow, deep, steady breaths during sex.
Feel yourself breathing more slowly and deeply into your STOMACH and out through the MOUTH. Push your belly out as you breathe in (inhale), and exhale out your mouth.
Keep your breathing patterns natural – slow, deep, steady breaths… don’t force yourself, or else you will only tense your body and push yourself to ejaculate even faster.
Here’s something interesting…
Consciously maintaining slow, deep breaths not only helps you control your arousal… but it also keeps your mind off the sex – particularly the sensations and feelings you experience in your penis – so you’re just distracted enough to not come and consequently last longer.
Deep breathing is one of the most powerful techniques for lasting longer during sex.
So, there you have it…
…how to avoid premature ejaculation or how not to ejaculate soon.
Kiss and fondle for 30 minutes to get your girl dripping wet before you start having sex… to lessen stimulation to your penis.
Then adopt a less demanding sex position like having your girl (or woman) get on top or doing her in the missionary but immediately switching to a less demanding position when you feel you’re about to ejaculate or orgasm sooner than you would want to.
And then make a conscious effort to relax your ejaculatory muscle… keeping your mind off the sensations in your penis… and maintaining slow, deep, steady breaths throughout sex.
So again, that’s how to avoid ejaculating fast.
Before I conclude this interesting article… here’s a takeaway:
You must feel relaxed during sex if you want to avoid blowing your load too soon or if you want to last longer.
In other words, don’t tense up your body and muscle groups.
This means you should adopt less demanding sex positions, make a conscious effort to keep your ejaculatory muscle relaxed, and then maintain slow deep steady breaths until you can’t hold your ejaculation any longer.
You see, during sex, there are a lot of things that go on in our body… including and ESPECIALLY the tightening of our body muscle groups – both voluntary and involuntary… this contributes to ejaculation and orgasm.
So again, you must feel relaxed during sex if you want to avoid blowing your load too soon or if you want to last longer.
So again, there you have it…
…how to avoid PE or ways to avoid early ejaculation.
Follow these steps and you’re guaranteed to last a lot longer than you did last time.
And when all is said and done, eat healthily and drink lots of water daily.
I hope this article has given you an insight into how to avoid premature ejaculation to last longer in bed.
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