“If you want to attract a girl, you have to find some way of intriguing her. You cannot simply walk up to a girl, introduce yourself, and expect her to fall head-over-heels for you.” ~ Steve Scott.
Girls are attracted to certain types of guys (and for certain reasons).
There are certain traits and qualities a guy exhibits that girls find attractive and are therefore drawn to.
And when you exhibit or display these attractive qualities, any girl you meet will find you attractive.
In this article, I teach you how to attract girls by displaying these attractive qualities around them.
I first share with you how to attract a girl without talking to her… here, you’ll learn how to attract girls the moment they lay eyes on you.
After that, I teach you how to attract the girl you want (or how to attract a girl when you’re getting to know each other)… here, you’ll learn how to make a girl attracted to you by exhibiting the traits and qualities they find attractive in men.
Then finally, I give you an important ingredient in dating that is essential in getting any girl attracted to you.
Now, what I share in this article boils down to one principle and one principle only…
…to attract girls, you need to be different in an attractive way. You need to be unique and superior. That is, whenever a girl sees you or is in your presence, she has to have the impression that you’re more important than the guys she meets.
That is how to attract a girl to you. And that is what I teach you in this article.
To attract a girl, you need to be different in an attractive way.
First, let’s debunk the common misconception
Just like most guys, you probably have the misconception that you have to be good-looking to attract girls. Or you have to have a lot of money to get a girl interested in you.
Sure, some girls prefer guys with lots of money – the gold-diggers.
But what makes a girl attracted to a guy or what attracts a girl to a man or a guy is the guy’s attractive personality traits. [Read the personality traits girls find attractive in a guy]
So, when you display the personality traits and mannerisms I share in this article around girls, you’re sure to get any girl attracted to you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re bald, poor, or obese. Girls will find you attractive when you display these traits and mannerisms.
Even if she goes for the good-looking guys, she will choose you over good looks when you follow what I teach in this article.
With that said, let’s begin…
How to Attract Girls Without Saying a Word or Talking to Them
When a girl sees you for the first time, here’s how to attract her – how to attract a girl at first sight:
Improve your outward appearance
Dress neatly or properly whenever you’re out in public. (Either to meet girls or just going out.)
Get a nice haircut if you need one.
Shave or trim any excess body hair.
Keep your teeth clean, floss, and use mouthwash.
Keep your nails short, trimmed, and clean.
Shower regularly and ALWAYS put on deodorant.
As the saying goes, “first impression counts”. And the same is true when it comes to dating girls.
Girls pay close attention to the way we (guys) dress and our physical appearance.
They notice if our belts and shoes match, etc.
So, make sure you’re well-groomed when out in public.
The first step to attracting girls is to look your best at all times.
When this aspect is covered, any girl who sees you will be checking you out… and will want to know you more.
Now, after you’ve worked on your appearance and whatnot, the next tip is to be cognizant of the way you behave and act around girls.
So next, we look at how to attract girls with the way you behave and act around them.
Girls pay close attention to the way we dress and our physical appearance.
The behavior and mannerisms to demonstrate when out
What attracts a girl the most or what girls are attracted to is your behavior and mannerism. (Not necessarily good looks.)
To get girls attracted to you, you need to stand out from the other guys she meets.
You have to attract a girl’s attention and let her see you unique.
You need the girl to see you as a fun and interesting person when she is in your presence.
And to accomplish this, you have to exhibit the personality traits girls find most attractive in a guy.
And most especially, now that you’re looking to attract any girl, here’re the three (3) essential personality traits to exhibit:
- A confident body language, specifically your posture
- A sense of humor
Other traits to exhibit when you’re getting to know each other (to get her attracted to you) will be mentioned as you read on.
Now, when you specifically exhibit the above three (3) traits, you’ll notice girls will be drawn to you.
Let’s get into detail.
…how to attract a girl with your posture
Posture is an essential body language to attract a girl.
It communicates to her you are an alpha male. And interestingly, it also communicates you’re confident in yourself.
So, when you’re standing, have a broad posture with shoulders back (not hunched over). With your head held high and back, with feet slightly apart. And with your hands on your hips or with your thumbs hooked in your pockets. [Read ‘25 Ways to Appear Confident‘ and ‘5 Body Language of an Alpha Male that Instantly Gets Girls Attention‘]
…the next trait to demonstrate is humor
Be funny or have a sense of humor.
Now supposedly your potential girlfriend is with a group of friends…
…make witty comments when talking to the group and nonverbally communicate to your potential girlfriend you’re a fun person to be around with.
Because here, when you get her laughing, she will feel attracted to you… before you even start getting to know each other. [Read: ‘How to Make a Girl Laugh’]
…the next trait to exhibit is dominance
In other words, show leadership characteristics.
What do I mean by this?
…don’t let people belittle you.
Be in control, and don’t be afraid to voice your opinion. [Read the #1 trait that attracts girls]
These 3 traits outweigh any flaws…
…they overcome looks and riches. And it gets girls purportedly out of your league attracted to you. [Watch a video on how to make her want you more]
From the way you carry yourself to how you make people feel around you, will naturally get any girl attracted to you.
So that’s how to attract girls the moment they lay eyes on you or in the first few minutes of noticing you.
Read More: How to Become an Alpha Male
Girls are not attracted to looks. But to your attitude and mannerism.
Now, let’s move on to how to get any girl attracted to you or how to attract the girl you like. That is when you’ve met a girl and you’re getting to know each other.
Read More: How to Get a Girl to Like You
How to Be Attractive to Girls You’ve Just Met
From here onward, I teach you how to make girls attracted to you or how to attract a girl you like when you’re getting to know each other.
Let’s get to it…
The average guy puts a girl on a pedestal because he is afraid the girl won’t like him.
He is too nice and agrees with everything a girl says… because he wants to please her and he wants the girl to like him.
But acting this way will make a girl manipulate you.
To attract a girl, you need to be different.
Don’t put girls on a pedestal.
Don’t do things to please or impress a girl.
Sure, respect girls and don’t be arrogant. But don’t let them walk over you.
“If a girl can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then why the hell do guys think that they’re going to be interesting by doing the same thing that every other guy has done?” says dating expert, David DeAngelo in his book, ‘Double Your Dating‘.
So, be different from the average guys a girl meets.
Demonstrate that you have standards, and you’re a high-status guy. And you’re not going to allow her to treat you like the wimpy ass kissers. [Read the best ways to attract girls and have them pursue you]
Next on how to attract a girl is to…
Show no interest in her at first
The best way to attract girls or the best way to attract a girl you like is to pretend you’re not interested in her… meanwhile demonstrating attractive personality traits that will get her attracted to you.
A proven tactic that really attracts girls to guys, most especially now that you’re getting to know each other, is to show no interest in her at the beginning of meeting her.
Movies have led us to believe that to get a girl interested in you, you need to be the one to chase or pursue her…
…but that SHOULD NOT be the case.
In fact, excessively showing interest can hurt your chances of winning a girl over.
If she knows you’re already attracted or interested in her, it gives her the upper hand.
As dating expert David DeAngelo has written in his book, “It’s far better to ATTRACT a girl than to CHASE one”.
So instead of being the pursuer, be the one being chased or pursued. [Read the absurd but proven tactic that makes any girl want you so bad]
Gone are the days when you childishly do things to get girls’ attention. Or foolishly (misguidedly) try to score with a girl… and telegraph your intentions or ulterior motive.
This time around, show maturity and make girls chase you instead.
Of course, don’t be a standoffish
Strive NOT to show signs of interest at the beginning of meeting her.
Don’t be smiling excessively.
In fact, give the impression you don’t care if she is the prettiest girl around.
What attracts girls to boys or what girls find attractive in a guy is the “I don’t care” personality.
Remember, girls are used to guys always hitting on them on a regular basis…
…so this not only communicates to a girl you’re not looking to score but interestingly, it drives her nut. And thus, intensifying her attraction toward you.
Plus, it communicates to her you have standards.
When you demonstrate this attitude around girls, you will stand out. And they will find you attractive.
Read More: How to Approach a Girl You Like
It’s far better to attract a girl than to chase one.
Hone your communication skills
As you learn how to attract a girl towards you, it also behooves you to know how to talk to girls. [Read how to talk to a girl]
Engage the girl you desire in an emotional and fun conversation.
Emotional and fun conversation in the sense that it has to be about her and what interests her.
So, talk about things or topics she finds interest in.
The best way to do this is to ask her questions about herself, then follow up on her responses.
What attracts girls the most is the “I want to know you” personality you demonstrate when you’re with her.
So, gear the conversation towards getting to know her, instead of talking about boring topics.
…engage her in inspiring and exciting conversations and make her have fun with you
Talk and share a commonality… describe the hobbies you both enjoy. This is how to get a girl emotionally attracted to you.
Ask superficial questions about who she is, then move into deeper emotional questions about her goals and her future plans. [Read things to talk about with a girl]
Talk about your favorite celebrities too.
Always talk about engaging topics and avoid negative and controversial ones.
If you’ve got interesting, amusing, to passionate stories in connection with what you’re discussing, tell them.
“Being able to tell a good story is IMPERATIVE in not only keeping the conversation going but also in helping you to attract your target and create a sense of comfort and connection with them”, says dating expert and pick-up artist, Joseph Matthews, in his book ‘The Art of Approaching’.
If you can connect with the girl you like on a deeper emotional level, you will increase your chances of attracting her dramatically. [Read the simple 3 step-approach to talking to girls]
And while at it…
…show your humorous side and get her laughing uncontrollably
Make humorous statements when conversing with the girl you desire.
Teasing a girl is also a great way to show your humorous side.
Tease her in a playful manner any chance you get.
Do you have some funny jokes you can tell? Then tell them.
Let her see you as a guy who can make her laugh and have a great time with. And you will stand out in an attractive way.
Don’t try too hard to be funny. Just make witty comments. And no mean jokes either.
Read More: How to Impress Girls
The way you speak is also an effective way to get a girl attracted to you
Speak in a deep voice and with energy. And use gestures, facial expressions, and even different voices to emphasize your points.
This will make you interesting in the eyes of a girl.
And as I mentioned earlier, you need girls to see you differently in an attractive way.
In addition to speaking in a deep voice is to speak slow and clear.
In other words, don’t be talking too fast… take your time to convey your message.
Next on how to be attractive to a girl is to also…
Show her you’re a fun person to be with
How do you attract a girl by this?
Mini-date with her.
Again, if you want to attract a girl, you have to come across as an exciting and interesting guy.
And in order to do this, you have to mini-date with her when the opportunity presents itself.
This means maximizing the time you spend together.
Go for a walk in the park, go to fairs.
Spend quality time together getting to know each other while having fun.
This makes you stand out… because she probably hasn’t experienced this with any other guy before.
So in addition to your sense of humor and engaging her in an exciting conversation, mini-date with a girl to show her you’re a fun person to be with. [Read the simple but overlooked tip that builds attraction with a girl quickly]
To the next tip on how to attract a girl…
Pass her tests
The next tip on how to attract a girl is to pass her tests.
Disagree with a girl when she’s in the wrong.
Voice your opinion… and do not give in to her drama.
In short, stand your ground.
This will communicate to her you’re different from the other guys she meets.
A girl will always test you to see if you’re weak, inferior, and whatnot.
She will try to manipulate you.
If you give in, not only will she walk all over you, but she will see you as the type of guy she doesn’t want to get into a romantic relationship with.
Similar to being different, you have to be able to pass her tests.
Let her know you have standards and you will not allow her to treat you anyhow.
Yes, you’ve probably shown some interest, but you have to nonverbally communicate to her you’re ready to walk away. [Read why taking the risk to anger a girl is the best way to make her feel a strong attraction for you]
Be mysterious and UNPREDICTABLE
Here’s also how to attract girls.
“Don’t be predictable. Do the unexpected when they LEAST expect it,” says dating expert David DeAngelo.
In other words, do things or act contrary to a girl’s expectations.
If she calls you to hang out, say you’re busy and reschedule.
If she asks you to do something for her, tell her “No”. But do it later when she least expects it. [Read the powerful way to build attraction with a girl you have a crush on]
Be mysterious as well.
Don’t tell a girl everything about yourself.
Even when she asks, hold back some of the details or try to change the subject. And let her discover them on her own.
Now, to the last tip on how to attract a girl…
Try to flirt with her as your friendship progresses
The guys a girl normally hangs out with don’t flirt with her.
Hence, when you flirt with her, you separate yourself from these guys… and she will find you unique.
And consequently, she will find you attractive.
How do you flirt with a girl? [Read how to flirt with a girl]
All that flirting basically mean is to playfully express your interest in a girl and get her to express interest back.
Here, you flirt with the girl by talking to her using se.xual overtones, gazing seductively into her eyes, and making physical contact to spark off desire and interest on her part.
Not only will flirting with a girl intensify her attraction towards you… but it will tell if she’s into you, too… most especially when she displays her flirtatious side as well.
Other tips to attract a girl towards you (what to do and what to avoid)
- Don’t be preoccupied with any physical flaws you may have. Instead, be attracted to yourself and have confidence in your ability to attract girls. In the words of dating expert Steve Scott, “fix what you can, then learn to accept the things beyond your control.”
- Be knowledgeable or demonstrate intelligence. That is, if you’re going to say something, make sure you know what you’re talking about.
- Don’t compliment her too much on just about anything. Just notice the little things the ordinary guy wouldn’t notice, then compliment her on it. Here, when other guys are complimenting her on her looks and physique, you’re doing something different… you’re complimenting her on the little details the other guys failed to notice – like the new hairdo or the new shoe she’s wearing.
- Demonstrate positivity. Talk about problems and bad situations in a positive light. This also includes showing friendliness towards other people.
- Be romantic. Sure, don’t show interest at the beginning. But there’re some instances when you have to let her know you find her attractive too. Speaking of being romantic… read: ‘Forget Expensive Dinners: Do Just This One Thing and Make a Girl Feel Attraction for You‘.
As you know what to do to attract girls, it is equally important you know what NOT to do:
- Don’t buy gifts for a girl in the hopes that she will like you. Because it telegraphs to her what your intentions are. And she will rather find you unattractive.
- Don’t INTENTIONALLY do things to get a girl’s attention. It communicates to her you’re needy (and it’s unattractive).
- Never brag or show off.
So that’s how to attract a girl you like (or how to attract girls).
Important stuff to know
Always demonstrate confidence.
Develop a positive mindset and believe in your abilities to succeed with girls.
Believe you have what it takes to get girls to like you. And that every girl will be lucky to be with you.
Even if you’re short or poor… have the belief that you can attract or get any girl you want with your personality.
When you’re thinking like this, your confidence will grow.
And this will manifest in everything you do. And girls will pick up on it and will find you attractive.
Keep Reading: How to Get a Girlfriend
You now know how to attract a stranger girl (or how to attract females you’re not acquainted with).
And you also know how to get the girl you want to be attracted to you.
Any man can learn how to attract girls if he is willing to learn how and put it into action.
There are other things to do to attract a girl (or things that attract girls) that I probably haven’t mentioned in this article.
You may already know some of them from other dating sites.
Now, you’ve learned a few more from this article. Combine them, and let them be a natural part of you… and you’re guaranteed to attract any girl you want.
So there you have it – how to attract a girl you like (or how to attract girls)
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