Flirting, by definition, is a behavior or an act intended to arouse sexual interest and generate attraction with the person we desire.
In other words, flirting is intended to express interest in the person we are sexually attracted to in the hopes that they express interest back.
When we talk or behave in a certain way for the purpose of drawing the attention of the person we desire to the fact that we find them attractive and we want them, we’re doing what is known as flirting.
Flirting is one of the best ways you create sexual chemistry
For any romantic relationship between two people to be possible, there has to be chemistry between them…
…that spark of sexual interest and desire should exist before two people can fall in love.
And one of the best ways to create that spark is by flirting.
The ultimate purpose of flirting
Again as I mentioned, flirting is intended to express interest in someone in the hopes that they express interest back.
But that’s not all.
Flirting with another person helps us find out whether or not the other person desires us at least as much as we desire them.
If they flirt back, then it means we’ve successfully created attraction with them.
But if they are unreceptive or acts uninterested, then that’s a sign to either walk away or further create attraction.
How you flirt
Flirting, boiled to its core, is about the way you talk and how you behave simultaneously.
After establishing a friendship with the person you desire and making them feel an attraction for you, you flirt with them… to signal to them you would want to move things to the next level.
So here’s how you go about it:
- You turn a regular conversation into a sexual one… interpreting communication through sexual subtext and making sexual innuendos.
- Make the experience playful and fun… evoke laughter by teasing or busting balls.
- Make intimate physical contact any chance you get.
- And on top of it all, making seductive eye contact as you allude remarks to sex… then winking at them or moving an eyebrow when necessary.
All these combined will not only signal to the person you find them attractive and that you are interested in them beyond friendship… but it will also get them sexually attracted to you. [Read how to flirt]
Flirting is fun…
Most people flirt just for the fun of it… that’s ok.
In fact, flirting makes you a people person and it draws people to you… people enjoy your company and your conversation with them.
However, if you are going to flirt for fun or without sexual interest in the person, then don’t let on sexual intent.
We all instinctively flirt…
…as dating expert Joseph Matthews has written in his book The Art of Approaching,
“Many times, we flirt instinctively, without conscious knowledge of what we’re really doing. The only time we really realize we’re flirting is when it’s not working, or something goes wrong – be it by flirting with the wrong person, or doing so at an inappropriate time and place.”
So yes, we all instinctively flirt… some flirt with awareness, others flirt without conscious knowledge of they are doing.
But if you are looking to express your interest in someone or create an attraction with them you need to hone this skill.
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