12 Flirting Tips and Guidelines for an Effective and Successful Flirting

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Flirting, as you already know by now, is intended to express interest in the girl or woman you are se*ually attracted to… in the hopes that she expresses interest back.

If you are looking to get a girl se*ually aroused and get her madly attracted to you, you need to flirt with her.

Thus, you will need some proven flirting tips and guidelines to be successful in your flirting endeavor.

So in this article, I share with you some flirting tips and guidelines to help you in your journey to hone your flirting skills and get the girl you desire.

Without further ado, let’s get started.

Read More: How to Flirt with a Girl

Flirting Tips and Guidelines

Here are some flirting tips and guidelines to abide by when flirting with a girl or a woman you desire.

#1 – Flirting is not about showing off

You don’t flirt by showing off or bragging about how much money you have and whatnot.

Flirting is a simple and playful act intended to arouse se*ual interest and attraction. And the goal is to express your interest in the girl or the woman you desire in the hopes that she reciprocates.

And it is done through suggestive remarks, innuendo, teasing, seductive facial expression, and intimate physical contacts.

#2 – Have confidence

Confidence is an important element you need to have when it comes to flirting with girls.

You see, not only do girls or women find this trait incredibly attractive… but it communicates to them you are a real man, and it will make them respond to you positively.

When you successfully demonstrate confidence it somehow signals to the girl or woman that flirting is a natural part of you… and natural is good.

Confidence is an important element you need to have when it comes to flirting with girls.

#3 – Build attraction first

Truth is, you can’t go all flirtatious on a girl when especially she doesn’t find you attractive… and I’m not talking about your looks. [Read how good looks don’t matter when it comes to attracting girls]

Before you can successfully flirt with a girl or a woman, you have to first make her feel an attraction for you… before gradually easing into the flirting phase.

In other words, you have to create the environment for the flirt. [Read ‘The Personality Traits Women Find Most Attractive in a Guy’ and ‘How to Be Attractive to Girls’]

You can’t just flirt with a girl and hope she flirts back or responds positively… you need to first get her to feel an attraction for you. [Read ‘How to Attract a Girl’ and ‘A Simple But Overlooked Tip that Builds Attraction with a Girl Quickly’]

Before you can successfully flirt with a girl or a woman, you have to first make her feel an attraction for you.

#4 – Ease into the flirtation phase

Once you make a girl feel an attraction for you, you gradually ease into the flirtation phase.

Start out gently and carefully in order not to spook her.

You don’t want to go full-flirtatious on a girl and ruin your chances of succeeding or achieving your goal.

Plus, when you start out gently you can test the waters to determine if the girl will be receptive.

This is the best way to find out how a girl is going to react to heavily flirting with her.

Heck, you made a comment about s*x and she is already freaking out… how then is she going to react when you resort to se*ual innuendos and intimate touching!

Now, how do you go about this…

…start out by taking normal conversations you will be having with the girl and redirect it by suggesting having an affair, getting married, getting divorced, and even breaking up.

Here’s an example:

  • Her: “I was thinking of going into acting.”
  • You: “That’s excellent… there’s a lot of money in that, and I need a girl who can make enough to support me.”
  • Her: “Support you? Come on!”
  • You: “Definitely. We could get married, and I would be the ‘house husband’. And you could bring home the bacon.”
  • Her: “Are you kidding me? I wouldn’t support you! It’s the man’s responsibility to support the woman.”
  • You: “Fine. Then it’s over. I’m going to have no choice now but to ask for a divorce.” [Smile and wink at her].

You see, here you are gradually easing into the flirting phase by suggesting divorce over her not supporting you.

#5 – Watch the girl’s reaction

You need to watch a girl’s reaction when flirting with her… to find out whether or not she is receptive. [Read ‘How to Tell If a Girl Likes You’ and ‘How to Tell If a Girl Is Interested in You’]

If you flirt with a girl and she flirts back or responds positively, then that is a good sign.

But if she not receptive and she acts disinterested, then that is a sign you should back off and further make her feel an attraction for you before you flirt again.

You don’t want to go full-flirtatious on a girl and ruin your chances of succeeding or achieving your goal.

#6 – Be suggestive with your words

When we say ‘you are flirting’, it is how you talk and the words you use… and at the same time, your actions or behavior that follows (we look at this next).

Here, you turn your conversation with the girl se*ual and slip in se*ual innuendos… alluding remarks to s*x and joking about s*x.

So once you can tell the girl or the woman is receptive to your advance (#4), you go full flirtatious on her… that is, you smoothly transition into se*ual innuendos or double entendre.

This will get the woman se*ual excited and also get her attraction mechanism started.

Not only are you bold enough to go down that road, but this new territory somehow makes a woman find you attractive.

#7 – Your action and behavior communicates everything

In other words, it’s not only about how you talk to the girl or woman… it more of your behavior.

Chatting up a girl is not enough to arouse interest and create attraction… but it’s the action that goes with it.

The facial expression you make… winking at her, the eyebrow you move when you allude a remark to s*x. Plus the seductive eye contact… that also goes a long way.

All these actions will communicate all you need without you actually having to say much.

Flirting lies in the way you talk and how you behave simultaneously.

#8 – Make the flirting experience playful and fun

In short, evoke laughter.

Flirting is not flirting without giggling and laughter. Plus, it wouldn’t be flirting when you engage in it in a completely serious manner… not fun at all.

So you have to get the woman to laugh when flirting with her.

Find opportunities to playfully tease or bust her balls for a laugh.

You can even get her laughing with a little tickling… especially when she says something naughty or she makes a sarcastic comment.

And speaking tickling, this will lead to getting physically frisky with her… which takes us to the next tip.

#9 – Make things physical

As you make the flirting experience playful and fun, move in on making intimate physical contact with the girl or woman…

…including moving her around, touching her chin and lips in a seductive and intimate way.

In other words, flirt your way into contact with the woman.

Hint: move from tickling to intimate touching. You see, tickling is neutral, most especially when you have a rapport with the girl. So the good news is you can use tickling as an opportunity to touch her.

If she is one of those girls who isn’t ticklish, you can use this as an advantage to make physical contact with her… that is, testing her out.

Flirting is not flirting without giggling and laughter.

#10 – Don’t give up when the going gets tough

You see, when you start flirting with girls, it’s either they will freak out, be unreceptive or they will flirt back.

Some girls will even fake being upset. But keep in mind, they do that because they don’t want to come across as slutty…

…and thus, play hard to get. [Read why girls play hard to get]

Here, most guys would give up at this point… don’t be like most guys.

Push on a little bit until she rejects you outright.

If you push on and you don’t give up when she acts disinterested (provided you are an attractive guy), she will just be more attracted to you… because you’re displaying authority and dominance and acting like a real man. [Read the #1 trait that attracts women and how to demonstrate it]

So when you want to flirt with a girl and she is not receptive initially, just sit back and continue with your neutral interaction until the next opportunity presents itself… then go for it again.

Displaying authority and dominance makes you attractive to women.

#11 – Flirt with every girl or woman you meet to build your confidence

…of course, without letting on se*ual intent.

This not only helps hone your flirting skills and build your confidence around women… it keeps you conditioned.

Conditioned, in the sense that, flirting will become a natural part of you and it will draw girls to you.

As dating expert David DeAngelo has written in his book Attraction Isn’t a Choice, “One of the keys to effective flirting is to ‘get it’… in other words, you have to actually get out there and practice so you get a ‘feel’ for how it works.”

So make it a habit to flirt with every girl you befriend… even girls you aren’t attracted to.

Flirt for the fun of it… don’t let on se*ual intent.

“Fun flirting is pretty much a harmless endeavor because you flirt with everyone – even people you aren’t attracted to! You just do it because you enjoy it,” says dating expert Joseph Matthews.

#12 – Don’t flirt all the time, leave her wanting more…

Quit flirting while it’s still fun.

Make flirting a natural part of you.

Final Words

So there you have it… the flirting tips and guidelines to help you in your journey to hone your flirting skills and get the girl or woman you desire.

All these flirting tips and guidelines combined will not only signal to the girl you find her attractive and that you are interested in her beyond friendship… but it will also get her se*ual attracted to you.

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