How to Talk to Women: Simple 3 Step-Approach to Talking to Women

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Having the communication skill to EMOTIONALLY hook any woman into a conversation is the most attractive quality any man can possess. It is the quickest way to build rapport and create attraction with the woman you desire. As dating expert Carlos Xuma has written: “Talking and conversations are the currency of dating and relationships.”

Unfortunately, women and men have different communication styles. Men’s style of conversation is aggressive, a clash of egos, name calling, bragging contest, put-downs, and all the conversational style women find boring. But women on the other hand, talk to share their emotion and feelings.

Now, the best way to talk to a woman in an emotionally relevant way is to talk to her using this 3-step approach:

  1. Talk about topics that interests her
  2. Listen attentively to her
  3. Show empathy and share similar experiences

When you talk to a woman using this three step-approach, you’ll notice that she will be excited talking to you and she’ll want to hang out with you more often.

With that said, let’s go into detail.

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How to Talk to Women

1. Talk about things that interests her

When talking to a woman you desire, your goal is to connect with her on an emotional level and ignite her feelings of attraction for you. And a better way to do this is to talk about things or topics that interests her.

Now, how do you know the topics that interests a particular woman?

Simple…

Get her talking about herself and her life. In other words, GET TO KNOW HER by asking her intriguing open-ended questions about herself:

  • “What was your major in school? What made you choose that?”
  • “What’s the nicest place you’ve ever visited?”
  • “What kind of hobbies really gets you excited?”

…etc.

This way, you’ll pick up on the things that interests her. Then you can talk about it.

Aside from asking her open-ended questions about herself, talk about other topics that excites women in general. Such as:

  • Fashion
  • Celebrity gossip
  • Relationship
  • Differences between men and women
  • Your passions in life, your dreams and goals
  • The interesting places you’ve been to
  • The fun and interesting things that has happened in your life
  • Talk about your positive experiences and get her to share hers
  • Talk about other interesting topics like food, shoes, music, TV shows, movies, etc.

All these topics excites women and you can talk for hours about them.

Remember… women crave dramatic and emotional conversations. So when you’re talking to a woman you desire, make your conversation with her more dramatic, alluring and entertaining. [Read things to talk about with a girl]

Now, as you talk about the things that are emotionally relevant to the woman, have interest in what she is saying… and this takes us to the second step.

2. Listen attentively to her

When talking to women, or more precisely, when a woman is telling you something, listen attentively to what she says and get her to share more.

Look for the deeper meaning or the reason in what a woman is saying and then explore them.

If she says something that fascinates you, tell her you’d like to hear more about it:

  • “really! tell me more”

You see, women want nothing more than to feel heard. So be a good listener and make her feel she’s been heard.

  • “Wow, that’s interesting. So, what happened?”

Don’t be preoccupied with the topics you want to talk about. Instead, relax and LISTEN to her talk – focus on what the woman is saying. Look her in the eye and make her feel she’s of importance to you.

Now, as you listen to her share her emotions and feelings, strive to tap into the way she’s feeling about the topic. Which takes us to the final step…

3. Show empathy and share similar experience

NEVER advice a woman.

Women want to be heard and understood. They somewhat don’t need guidance or advice, ESPECIALLY from men. So be interested in what she says and the reason she’s saying them, and SHOW EMPATHY.

  • “I see what you mean. You must have felt very angry.”

When you communicate to her you understand her, she’ll feel more and more rapport with you.

“In a woman’s conversation, the worst sin is not to have heard her out and understood her feelings.”

~ Carlos Xuma, SECRETS OF THE ALPHA MAN.

As you communicate to her you understand her feelings, share similar experience or tell her a story relating to what you’re discussing.

Don’t just sit there asking her questions or letting her do all the talking. Try to engage in the conversation and share similar experiences.

As dating expert Joseph Matthews has written in his book, ‘The Art of Approaching – How to Meet Amazing Women Without Fear of Rejection’: “Being able to tell a good story is IMPERATIVE in not only keeping the conversation going, but also in helping you to attract your target and create a sense of comfort and connection with them.”

Read more: How to keep a conversation going

Bonus Tip: keep the conversation cracking with fun and wit

Women love to laugh. So strive to make your conversation with them funny and make them laugh.

Make humor part of the natural flow of your conversation with women. But don’t overdo it.

Don’t force yourself to be funny or act like a clown or a non-stop comedian. Plus, avoid mean or dirty jokes. Just make witty comments from time to time and make your conversation fun.

Others ways to make a woman laugh is to tease her playfully and bust her chops once in a while.

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Conclusion: Talking to women

To sum up everything…

Women are emotional creatures. And they crave sensational, dramatic and emotional conversation… with a dose of humor.

So when talking to a woman, it’s important to appeal to her emotions. Plus, make your conversation with her more entertaining and alluring.

The way to go, is to talk about the things that INTERESTS her. LISTEN attentively to what she says and get her to share more. Be interested in what she says and the reason she’s saying them, and SHOW EMPATHY. And when all is said and done, share similar experience or tell her a story relating to what you’re discussing.

Talk like you you’ve know each other for a long time. And keep the conversation cracking with fun and wit.

So there you have it – how to talk with woman.

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