“Just find something real about her to take notice of. Be creative in recognizing it, and you’ll have no problems thinking of how to start a conversation with a girl.” – Carlos Xuma, dating expert.
How do you start a conversation with the guy at the gas station?… scratch that. How do you start a conversation with a girl you DON’T feel any attraction for?
With a simple “hi” or “hey” right? Yes.
You approach them and then start talking to them. As simple as that.
But I believe that’s not why you’re reading this article.
You’re not here to learn how to start a conversation with a girl you DON’T feel attraction for.
If you’re like most shy guys, you’re here to learn how to approach that gorgeous girl that makes your heart skip a beat. And start a conversation with her without the fear of rejection.
If that’s what you’re looking for, you’ve come to the right place. In this article, I teach you how to start a conversation with a girl you FEEL attraction for, and make her receptive to talking to you.
Yes… it’s the same as saying “hi”, “hello”, or “hey”. But what’s stopping you comes from the fear that she’s going to reject you.
Therefore, what I share with you here will make approaching women and starting conversations with women much easier.
Before approaching girls or start conversation with a girl, know this…
Most girls know that guys are only interested in one thing (if you know what I mean).
Even if you have good intentions, she’s still under that impression.
So when you walk up to a girl and use a cheesy pick-up line, her defense will go up.
It is for this reason that you need to be subtle in your approach and your first conversation with a girl.
In other words, try not to telegraph your intention. This is a good way to start a conversation with a girl for the first time. And it helps you get past her guards and she’ll be receptive to talking to you.
With that said, let’s get started… how to start talking to a girl you like.
How to Start a Conversation with a Girl You Feel Attraction For
There’s more than one best way to start a conversation with a girl.
First you can…
Find something unique or interesting about her that you can comment on
No, it’s not complimenting her on her looks…
Find something that kinda sets her apart from the other girls around.
Start at her feet, and work your way up.
If she’s wearing an interesting shoe, or necklace, or has a distinct handbag or purse. Or even the inscription on her shirt can serve as some good conversation starters with a girl.
This is something to say to start a conversation:
- “Excuse me, those are interesting shoes/bag/jewellery. Where did you get them?”
Now, after she tells you where she got them, then respond with something like:
- “My mum’s/sister’s/GIRL FRIEND’S birthday is coming up, and I think she’d really love similar shoes.”
Here’s also another similar example of what to say when starting a conversation with a girl:
- “Excuse me, I’m looking for a birthday gift for my sister/mum/aunt/GIRL FRIEND, and that necklace/bag/shoe/purse looks like her style. Where did you get it?”
Using the excuse that your mum/sister has a birthday coming up, and you need ideas for what to buy her is a great way to start a conversation with a girl.
Plus, it’s very effective when you use ‘my girlfriend’. Because here, it communicates to her you probably have a girlfriend and you’re not hitting on her.
When she responds, you talk about it for a while.
Now, once you’ve passed the initiation stage, you can engage her in a conversation. [Read how to talk to a woman you just met]
Need another simple approach? Then here’s what to say to start a conversation with a girl:
- “That’s an interesting necklace/watch/shirt. What’s the story behind that?”
It’s neutral. It doesn’t telegraph your intention. And can lead to great conversations to have with a girl.
Here’s also how to start a conversation with a girl you feel attraction for:
Tip #2 – Make a statement, give her a valuable advice, or ask her opinion on something
This is the best and simplest way of starting a conversation with a woman for the first time.
Not only is it engaging. But it also doesn’t telegraph your intention.
This is a grocery store or supermarket example:
For instance, you see a woman looking at an item, pondering her choices.
You can say something like:
- “Hey, you know you should [offering advice that can give her a logical benefit]”
If it doesn’t look like she is in a situation where she needs advice, then ask for one instead:
- “Excuse me, do you know the difference between organic beef and grass fed beef”
If you spot something interesting in her cart:
- “Hey, I’ve been meaning to try the [what’s in her cart]; do you like it?” or
- “Hey, I’m trying to figure out which wines are good here. How do you like yours?” (when she’s shopping for wine)
- “That looks like an interesting drink/cereal. What’s in that?”
You can use these similar approaches or questions to start a conversation with a girl in almost any situation – the bar, library or even the coffee shop.
Just observe your targets situation and find something to comment on.
Next on how to start a conversation with a girl you feel attraction for:
Tip #3 – Be direct
As explicitly stated, this is a direct approach. And may be hard to do at first, especially if you’re the shy type.
Not only could it telegraph your intention, but it is also the easiest for a girl to reject.
However, when used at the right time or the right place, like a party, a bar or a night club, it can be very effective.
So, here’s how to start talking to a girl using the direct approach:
Walk up to her, smile, and say something like:
- “Hi, you seem like a fun/cool/interesting/awesome person, and I wanted to meet you! My name is…”
Now, keep this mind… don’t compliment her about her looks. Describe a quality about her personality instead.
True, this direct approach telegraph your intention. But you don’t want to make it seem like you’re hitting on her.
Here’s another direct approach in a different situation.
Make it look like you’re busy, but there’s something about her that caught your attention. And you had to stop what you were doing or where you were going and talk to her.
What to say to a girl to start a conversation:
- “Hi, I can’t talk long. I’m on my way to the bank/the grocery store/the mall, but you seem really cool and I wanted to meet you. My name is…”
Here’re some of the funny ways to start a conversation with a girl…
Especially in parties, bars or night clubs.
It’s evident that people go to these places to mingle and have fun. And the girls there expect to be approached and talked to. Therefore, it should be easy to approach girls and start a conversation.
So, here’s a funny way to start a conversation with a girl.
Lock eyes with your target girl. When she notices, make a funny face, like sticking your tongue out or giving her a pouty look. Then, when she reacts by smiling or making similar facial expression, approach her and initiate a conversation.
Things to say to start a conversation with a girl at drinking or party places:
- “Hi, what’s your name?”
- “How YOU doin’?”
- “Wanna dance?”
This simple tactic is enough to break the ice.
(Don’t be surprised if she looks away from you initially. Odds are that she will look at you again.)
Other indirect ways to start conversations with girls:
- Simple smile at her and go from there
- Nod your head at her
- Throw a wink her way
These are interesting ways to start a conversation with a girl you like without resorting to pick up lines or conversation starters with girls.
Conclusion: How to start talking to a girl
Now you know how to start talking to a girl.
It’s way easier starting a conversation with a girl you like if your aim is to get to know her.
Don’t try to pick up a girl. Because this is when the innate fear of rejection rears its head.
When you start having a conversation with a girl with the “I want to know you” mentality, and talk to a girl in a way that shows that you’re INTERESTED in getting to know her, she will definitely know that you’re not like the other guys who approach her.
And not only will it be easier talking to a girl this way, but she’ll be receptive to talking to you back.
And when all is said and done, approach with a smile.
Smiling demonstrates your friendliness. And it will make the girl receptive to talking to you.
So that’s how to start a conversation with a girl you feel attraction for.
Now, you know how to start a conversation with a girl you feel attraction for. Read how to keep a conversation going with a girl.