How to Play Hard to Get with a Girl (and Make Her Want You)

how to play hard to get with a girl

Girls are used to playing hard to get with guys. Because they have guys desperately pursuing them romantically and smothering them with attention. This gives the girls power over the guys and hence control the guys to their advantage.

Now, you too can play this game of “hard to get” with girls or women, and make them want you. And that’s exactly what I teach you in this article – how to play hard to get with a girl and make her want you.

Playing hard to get with a girl you desire is the most effective way to generate attraction with her. It communicates to her you value yourself. And since people in general are attracted to things that frustrate them a little bit, playing hard to get with a girl or a woman makes her want you even more.

Without further ado… let’s get started.

How to Play Hard to Get with A Girl

What this mean is to DELIBERATELY make a woman or a girl want you. And when you can tell she’s receptive to your advances, you pull back a little and make her come after you.

Now, to successfully play hard to get with a girl and make her want you, you need to start off right.

There are two crucial steps to follow:

  1. Make her feel attracted to you by exhibiting attractive personality and mannerism
  2. Subtly express your interest in her and give her a reason to chase you

Making a girl feel attracted to you by exhibiting attractive personality and mannerism, and giving her a reason to chase you by subtly expressing interest in her is key to successfully playing hard to get her and making her want you.

Now, let’s go into detail – how to play hard to get with a girl.

Make her feel attracted to you by exhibiting attractive personality and mannerism

Before you can successfully play hard to get with a girl and make her want you, you’d have to first make her feel attracted to you.

Because, if you don’t have her interest in the first place, you’re going to have trouble playing hard to get with her.

So first make her feel attracted to you by exhibiting attractive personality and mannerism, before playing hard to get with her. [Read how to attract a girl]

The next step is to…

…subtly express your interest in her

Now, after making her feel attracted to you with your personality and mannerism, AND you can tell she feels attracted to you, you SUBTLY express your interest in her. [Read the signs a girl gives off that signal she’s interested in you]

You SUBTLY express interest in her in the sense that you don’t want to give away control and get her into “hard to get” mode. Plus, when you subtly express your interest in a girl, you give her a REASON to chase you. Because without interest from you there wouldn’t be any chase on her part.

So this is what you do:

You subtly express your desire for her by:

  1. Playfully flirting with her (read how to flirt with a girl)
  2. Seductively gazing into her eyes when talking to her
  3. Touching her in an intimate manner when talking to her
  4. Using double entendre and se*ual innuendos in your conversation with her
  5. Etc.

Now, understand this… women can intuitively tell when a guy is interested in them or se*ually attracted to them. And as soon as she realizes that you’re se*ually attracted to her, she will likely start playing hard to get.

Now, should you go overboard to express your interest in her, like kissing her at an opportune moment, fret not… you can still gain control, play hard to get and make her work for your approval. [Read what to do when the girl you desire plays hard to get with you]

Now when you can tell she’s really into you or showing signs of interest, you move to the final step…

Subtly play hard to get

Now, once you successfully make a girl feel attracted to you by virtue of your personality and mannerism, and you give her a reason to chase you by subtlety expressing interest in her… you SUBTLY play hard to get.

Subtly in the sense that you don’t want to give away your intention. Because you’d want to keep her interested and make her chase you.

If she gets the impression that you’re DELIBERATELY playing hard to get with her, it kills the fun of it. Because not only do you want to give her the impression that you value yourself, but you also want her to perceive you as a prize. And therefore, if she wants to be with you then she’s gonna have to work for it.

Moving on…

When a girl feels attraction for you, she would want to spend more time with you, she will be calling more often, she would want you to kiss her… in fact, she would want you to do things that shows you’re feel attraction for her too.

You would want to reciprocate, but choose not to… don’t give her what she wants yet.

When she calls, don’t hastily answer the phone. Let it ring for a while, or call her back later.

Leave her wanting more. Be the one to end conversations… be the first to leave… etc.

What you want to accomplish here is to make her come after you HARD.

“We humans are attracted to things that frustrate us a little bit. And when we come across another person that seems interested, but doesn’t give us exactly what we want, we start thinking about it all the time. It almost becomes a challenge to see if we can get the other person who’s resisting us to give in to us. You have reversed the roles, taken the power and now she is the one wanting something you have.”

~ David DeAngelo.

So when she starts showing signs of interest, you pull back and act distant.

Another effective way to playing hard to get with a girl is to…

…make her miss you, and want you very much

Here, you make yourself scarce or unavailable from time to time so that she can feel the ache of your absence.

Make her miss you, wonder what you’re doing, and think about you.

If a girl can’t miss you, she can’t want you very much.

So instead of hanging out together every day (giving her the impression that she’s you have no life), make yourself unavailable from time to time by engaging in other activities – like hanging out with your buddies, enjoying your hobbies, etc. [Read a powerful way to build attraction with a girl you have a crush on]

Don’t go overboard with this, though. Just make yourself unavailable from time to time and make her ache for your absence.

People aren’t attracted to things that they either have or know they can have at any time

An important stuff to know

In a boy-meets-girl situation, there are two possible scenarios. Either the girl plays hard to get and make the guy work for her approval, or she finds something attractive about the guy and pursue him.

Now, to make a girl or woman feel an attraction for you and want you, there are some unattractive behaviours to avoid:

  1. Wimpishly doing favors for her
  2. Spending money on her to win her affection
  3. Giving her gifts too early in the relationship
  4. Texting and calling her every night
  5. Asking her out too often
  6. Acting insecure and nervous when you’re with her
  7. Openly expressing your desire for her too early in the relationship
  8. Being agreeable to whatever she says or suggests
  9. Being too available and hastily answering the phone every time she called
  10. Other wussy behaviours that make you come across as desperate and needy

When you do the above, she’s likely to play hard to get with you. Because she knows she has something you want. [Read why girls play hard to get]

So when you’re with a girl you desire, avoid the above behaviours. Instead, make her feel attracted to you by demonstrating attractive personality traits and mannerism. And SUBTLY express your interest in her to give her a reason to chase you.

Conclusion

Beautiful women or attractive girls are used to men pursuing them and smothering them with attention. As a result, they play hard to get with these men and control them to their advantage.

Now, when you play hard to get yourself – acting aloof and acting contrary to her expectations and never giving her what she wants – you send a powerful message about how valuable you are.

Having an attractive personality and being “hard to get” makes women want you. Because not only are you not giving her what she wants, but you have something that she needs – YOU.

To conclude…

When you can tell she really wants you, go ahead and make her have you. Don’t push her away and make her lose interest in you by going too far and seeming too hard to get.

So there you have it – how to play hard to get with a girl (or how to be hard to get, same thing) and make her want you.

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