Getting dumped by your girlfriend is heartbreaking. You feel devastated, embarrassed, and probably hungry. But with all the hate, you still love her and you want her back. Here, you will learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back.
In this article, I give you step-by-step guidance, advice and tips on how to get your ex-girlfriend back.
First, we look at how to get your ex-girlfriend back if you were the one who GOT DUMPED.
We start out by discussing the two major steps to getting back with your ex-girlfriend.
Moving on, we’ll look at the actual process on how to get your ex-girlfriend back. You will learn how to use your friends as a vehicle to make your ex-girlfriend want you back, including a foolproof tactic to get her jealous and insecure.
You will also learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back by using social media, including Facebook, Instagram and other social networks.
I also teach you what to do to get your ex-girlfriend back when she hasn’t contacted you for a long time. Here you will learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back by using simple text messages.
Finally, I teach you how to get your ex-girlfriend back if YOU were the one who DUMPED her and for some reason you want her back.
Now, before you get started on getting your ex-girlfriend to want you back, you need a plan.
Your plan and goal…
Your girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) dumped you because she has lost interest in you.
So it makes sense to pester her with phones calls and texts, to beg her to take you back.
But the begging and the persistent phone calls and texts are NOT going to help bring back your ex-girlfriend. It will rather push her farther away from you.
Instead, the best thing to do to get your girlfriend back is to remove this neediness, and plant a seed in her mind that will build attraction and make her desire you again.
Keep in mind that, girls or women don’t respond well (or are not attracted) to men who appear needy.
If she dumped you, don’t go chasing her… begging her to come back.
Instead, work on attracting her, and let her REGRET breaking up with you and get her to chase you instead. (I show you how to make your ex-girlfriend chase you in this article).
So all in all, what I teach you in this article boils down to getting your ex-girlfriend ATTRACTED to you again.
Otherwise, if YOU dumped her, you can skip to the end to learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back.
With that said, let’s begin…
How to get your ex-girlfriend back after being dumped: The most important first step
Rid yourself from any bad or negative emotions.
This is especially important if the breakup is recent.
Don’t let the breakup get the better of you.
You freaked out after she dumped you. And you are hurting.
You want to call her and speak your mind (probably done that), or beg her to take you back (probably done that too).
But, if you want to get your woman back, you must control your emotions to avoid pushing her farther away from you.
Focusing too much on the breakup and letting it get the better of you can affect your chances of getting your ex-girlfriend back.
You are probably thinking she’s with a new boyfriend and she’s moved on. And you need to get her back fast before you lose her forever.
So what do you do… you keep pestering her with phone calls and text messages hoping she will change her mind and come back to you.
You are expecting the worst, and it’s driving you nuts.
It’s completely normal, and any heartbroken person will feel and act that way too.
But your emotions are so vital that it will determine whether you will win back your girlfriend’s heart or drive her farther away from you.
You see… when you are heartbroken and hurting, your emotions will be doing your thinking.
It’s these emotions that keep you from thinking of the right things to say to your ex to get her back.
You are likely to make mistakes or say dreadful things to your ex-girlfriend that you can’t take back. And these mistakes will make it difficult to win her heart back.
So when you start thinking about her, and you experience bad or negative emotions, try to shift your focus to something else, anything that doesn’t remind you of her.
If you start feeling depressed out of the blue, listen to some inspiration or motivational messages. Or watch a comedy movie that will put a smile on your face.
Instead of sitting home all day long feeling worse, hang out with your buddies and have fun.
Sure, it will be difficult not to think of your ex-girlfriend. But the smart way to AVOID making mistakes, and consequently, getting an ex-girlfriend back, is to NOT focus on her or the breakup.
Now, if something reminds you of your ex-girlfriend, including pictures and what she bought you for Christmas, and it makes you lose yourself in your emotions, put it away from sight.
So this is the first step to get back your ex-girlfriend after break up – don’t let the breakup get the better of you.
And while you are at it, recognise the REAL reasons that could have led to the breakup, and take appropriate actions to change if YOU were at fault.
With that said, let’s look at the second most important step on how to get your ex-girlfriend back…
You will get your girl back the moment you get over the fear of losing her.
Cease all contact with your ex-girlfriend, starting now
As you take steps to rid yourself from any bad or negative emotions, try to cease contact with your ex-girlfriend for at least 30 days.
You MUST NOT initiate any sort of contact or communication with her (not until she calls or texts you wanting to get back again).
DO NOT contact her, let her contact you.
In other words, DO NOT beg or plead for your ex-girlfriend to take you back – no phone calls, no texts, no emails, no stalking, nothing.
Even when she contacts you a week after the breakup, play hard to get.
Remember, your plan is NOT to appear needy and desperate in trying to make your ex-girlfriend get back.
As I mentioned earlier, girls or women don’t respond well (or are not attracted) to men who appear needy.
She was attracted to you before, but probably not anymore.
So stalking her… texting and calling her like 100 times a day… thinking it will get your old girlfriend back will actually make situation worst.
If you allow your emotions to get the better of you, like I said, you will say something or act in a way that will push your ex-girlfriend farther away from you.
So why is ceasing contact with your ex-girlfriend important
How does it help bring your ex-girlfriend back to you?
First of all, it allows you to get into a stable emotional state, and helps you overcome the hurt of the breakup.
Ceasing all contact with your ex-girlfriend is the best way to get your emotions in order. Because once you text or call her on phone, you are likely to text or say dreadful things to her that you can’t take back.
If you’ve already SMSed or called her and spoken your mind or begged her to take you back, fret not. You can still recover and learn the right way to get her back.
Secondly, you are going to better yourself to become more attractive to your ex-girlfriend AGAIN. (How? Read on)
And thirdly, it puts you in a position of control. This will make your ex-girlfriend regret breaking up with you.
Here’s the good news…
You see, your ex-girlfriend will EXPECT you to be calling and texting her after the breakup.
But, not doing exactly that will show your ex-girlfriend you’re not bothered by the breakup.
Plus, doing what I teach you next will make her recklessly determined to take you back.
“Neediness is the opposite of attraction” says Michael Fiore, author of ‘Text Your Ex Back’.
Yes, she dumped you, but you need to demonstrate to her that your world doesn’t revolve around her.
You are going to give the impression that you’ve moved on and you are not bothered about the breakup, or thinking about her anymore.
You need to communicate to her that you don’t need her to be happy in life. You don’t need her attention or approval.
If she doesn’t want you anymore, then it’s her loss.
Heck, you can find someone better than her.
You see… here, you are removing neediness and building attraction, and consequently making her desire you again.
Neediness is the opposite of attraction
You might be reluctant to doing this, but if you want to win your girl back, you need to communicate to her that you don’t NEED her.
ACT AS IF you don’t really care about the breakup and you have already moved on.
Now, here is what’s going to happen:
- She will start missing you
- She will start fearing that she might lose you (she didn’t value you then… and she is going to wish she never should have let you go)
- She will get insecure (you’re going to learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back using some few jealousy tactics)
- Plus other disturbing feelings that will drive her completely nuts
This will increase her desire to have you back.
No scratch that… it will make her BEG you to take her back.
What about you…
Now, keep in mind, avoiding your ex-girlfriend like this will be tough.
During this period:
- You will feel lonely, sad, depressed
- You will want to call or text her
- You will feel like spying on her to see what she is up to
It will not be easy at first, but with time it will get easier.
Be careful here…
Your ex-girlfriend might contact you or you might bump into her at some point, and this can reopen the wound or bring back memories.
But you need to have self-control so as NOT to give yourself away.
Even if you see her with someone else, don’t react.
You can avoid her. But when you do lock eyes with her, don’t act needy, and DON’T BEG her to take you back.
Even if you see her every day, keep cool and demonstrate you’ve moved on.
Keep in mind that your actions can show that you are still hanged on to the breakup (and we don’t want your ex-girlfriend to know that).
Even the things you say to her friends and other people, your remarks will communicate to her you are still not over her (word can get back to your ex-girlfriend).
Remember this… you have to get over her to get her back.
So this’s what you do…
Try to get on with your life as if she doesn’t exit.
Trust me on this… the very act of moving on after a breakup is what will actually bring your ex-girlfriend back.
You never know… you might even meet another girl who is better that your ex-girlfriend.
Sure, you want to win your ex-girlfriend back, but don’t let her have the last laugh.
I can’t stress this enough… you want your ex-girlfriend to get the impression that you are not bothered by the breakup and that you’ve moved on.
This is a very powerful attraction technique to get back an ex-girlfriend.
You are going to cease contact with her for at least 30 days, and work on attracting her back into your life.
And fret not, because once you are done reading this article and abreast with the strategies and tips to get your ex-girlfriend back, and actually put them into action, bumping into your ex-girlfriend will make her desire you again.
Should she call you, that’s even a plus factor.
That being said, let’s look at what you will be doing for the next 30 days and how to get your ex-girlfriend back. (Later, you will learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back if you dumped her but now want her back)
When you start living your life, the hurt of the breakup will subside. And you will get to a point where your ex-girlfriend will not matter to you anymore.
How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back After She Broke Up With You: The Process
Aside from ceasing contact with your ex-girlfriend, there are other things you shouldn’t do if you want her back, including:
- Thinking about her all day
- Deliberately keeping things around you that remind you of her
- Stalking her on her social media accounts
- Checking your phone like 100 times a day expecting her to call or text you
- Stuffing your emotions with alcohol or drugs
And most importantly, don’t deliberately do anything just to get a reaction from her.
So instead of focusing on the breakup and getting all emotional and everything, you are going to focus on yourself and do things that will attract your ex-girlfriend to you.
So given below are what you should be doing as you cease contact or communication with her.
This will turn the tables, and put you in a position of control.
Your ex-girlfriend will now be the one in an unstable emotional state. She will desire you more and will feel a desperate urge to take you back.
Be ready for your ex-girlfriend to start calling you up, chasing you and wanting to talk to you.
With that said, let’s begin… how to get your ex-girlfriend back.
Change if you were at fault
As I mentioned earlier, recognize the real reasons that led to the breakup, and take appropriate steps to change if you were at fault.
If it’s some bad habits your ex-girlfriend didn’t like, then change those bad habits.
Don’t change just to get her back or to please her, but change for yourself. You don’t want to repeat such behaviors or habits after making up with your ex-girlfriend.
Make yourself happy all day by getting involved in social activities.
For instance, you can do something you enjoy or do something new.
Go out for a walk.
Get involve in some exercises to make yourself feel better.
You can even join a gym.
Just get busy to keep your mind off your ex-girlfriend.
And as you draw focus away from your ex-girlfriend, focus on your self-improvement.
Give yourself a total makeover.
Get a new haircut. Go shopping for new clothes and shoes.
You need to make yourself attractive, and have your ex-girlfriend desire you again.
Another part of bettering yourself is to forgive your ex-girlfriend. You want her back so it calls to forgive her for whatever she did.
After all, how can you get your ex-girlfriend back if you don’t forgive her?
Plus forgive yourself too.
If you said some things you regret out of emotions, forgive yourself now and apologize to your ex-girlfriend when you makeup.
Even if you cheated, forgive yourself and promise yourself it won’t happen in the future, especially now that you’re fighting to win her back.
You made a mistake and it’s in the past.
Get busy to keep your mind off your ex-girlfriend
Hang out with friends to keep your mind off your ex-girlfriend
Friends are there to help you through the breakup, to comfort you and cheer you up.
Spend time with your friends to keep your mind off your ex.
Play some video games, watch a comedy movie together and have some laughs.
Or go out with them and have some fun.
And while you’re having fun, take some interesting pictures together. (Later in this article, you will learn how to get your ex-girlfriend back with those)
Now, the best part about hanging out with your friends, aside from having fun, is that they can be a vehicle to get your ex-girlfriend back.
This is even powerful when they are friends you and your ex-girlfriend have in common… and foolproof when they are very close friends of your ex.
Why is that…
…because whatever fun life you are having now will definitely get to your ex-girlfriend via her friends.
Your ex-girlfriend is going to know what you’ve been up to, and how you’ve changed.
And when she gets to know you are all better, looking great and all that, she will regret ever leaving you and will want to get back together.
Your friends can be a vehicle to get your ex-girlfriend back.
Why is this effective and how can you use your friends to your advantage?
You see, after bettering yourself and looking good to your friends, word is going to get to your ex-girlfriend.
Your friends, and probably your ex’s friends, will notice the big changes in your personality, and will definitely tell your ex-girlfriend all about it.
So spend more time with your friends, not only to have fun, but to also use it to your advantage.
Demonstrate to your friends that you’ve changed, and your ex-girlfriend will get to know about it.
Give yourself a total makeover, and your ex-girlfriend will get to know about it.
Now, your ex-girlfriend will regret breaking up with you.
She will fear that maybe you’ve found someone else and forgotten all about her.
This is especially potent since you are not pestering her with phone calls anymore.
This will make her insecure and she will be curious to know if you are still interested in her.
Now, to actually sell it and make your ex-girlfriend insecure and jealous, and get her RUNNING back to you, you need to get back into the dating scene again (which takes us to the next step).
Date other people
I know this is not what you want to do right now, but rather than focusing on how to get your ex-girlfriend back, focus on yourself and your happiness too.
One of the effective ways to make your ex-girlfriend want you back is for you to actually start dating other people.
The reason why this is so effective is that it gets her jealous and the chances of getting back with her increases.
Don’t rub it in her face. And don’t date other people just to get back at her either.
The very fact of seeing you with another girl will drive her nuts.
She will fear losing you completely. And this will get her running back to you.
As the saying goes, “People don’t value the things they have as long as they know they have her. But the moment they realize they are about to lose it all that’s when they value it more than ever before.”
Now, if cheating (on your part) was the reason why she dumped you, then tread carefully here.
I would even suggest you skip this step altogether and apply other methods instead.
You don’t want to give the impression that you haven’t change.
Now, why date other people when you are trying to get your ex-girlfriend back
- First, it’s a foolproof unintentional jealousy tactic that will get your ex-girlfriend running back to you.
- And second, you are an attractive guy who has a life, and being dumped doesn’t mean life shouldn’t go on. And when you have this mentality, if forces you to get busy and out having fun.
And as I keep saying, your plan is to make your ex-girlfriend desire you again and regret breaking up with you.
Now, dating other people after the breakup doesn’t mean you should sleep around to get back at your ex-girlfriend.
Just go out to movies and dinners with your date… and have some fun whiles you keep your mind off the breakup for a while.
If you don’t want to date other people because you fear you might lose your ex-girlfriend altogether, then make female friends instead.
You don’t really have to get into a serious relationship with someone or fall in love with her. (Unless you are really over your ex-girlfriend)
Nonetheless, dating again after a breakup is one of the guaranteed ways to get your ex-girlfriend back.
Not only will it give your ex-girlfriend some space (to recall how awesome you were) and make her want you back, but you might meet someone you really have a real chemistry or connection with.
When that happens, you decide.
Do you want to move on with your life with this new person? Or you still want to get back with your ex-girlfriend?
Back to how friends can be a vehicle to get your ex-girlfriend running back to you
As I previously mentioned, your friends and especially your ex-girlfriend friends can be a vehicle to get an ex-girlfriend back.
Now, here is how to actually sell it, to make your ex-girlfriend insecure and jealous:
(Not on purpose, but to show her that you’ve moved on, and that you are not bothered about the breakup)
Let your friends know you are dating someone new, and that you’ve moved on and happy with this new person.
They are going to tell your ex-girlfriend, and like I said… it will drive her nuts.
Now, expect her to be keeping some sort of contact, showing emotions towards you or your actions. For instance, she will call or text you asking you what you’ve been up to.
Now, this is a good sign because it shows your ex-girlfriend still has feelings for you (and definitely wants you back).
Don’t act desperate and needy when you bump your ex-girlfriend
It’s a fact… you are going bump into her at some point, and this can bring back all the emotions, especially when you see her with another guy.
Newsflash, it’s her cousin.
If she is with another guy, be very polite and don’t react in the negative.
Act as if you don’t care about who she is with.
Act as if nothing bothers you.
Act cool and happy and confident. (You can tremble inside, but don’t let it show on the outside)
If she is alone, act as if you’ve moved on, and don’t show any neediness.
“SUBTLY showing that you’ve moved on is very powerful as an attraction technique.” says Michael Fiore, author of Text Your Ex Back.
If you are with someone, just say your hellos. Introduce her and leave. Don’t try to explain yourself to your ex.
If you are going to chat, make it short and exit as early as possible. BE THE ONE WHO ENDS THE CONVERSATION.
With all said and done…
Showcase the ‘new you’ on social media to get her attention
One method of learning how to make an ex-girlfriend want you back is to showcase your new self on social media.
This includes, Facebook, Instagram and other photo-sharing and video-sharing social networks.
This is another trick to get your ex-girlfriend insecure and have her want you back.
Let’s start with your profile picture
…because that’s the first thing people look at.
Should your ex-girlfriend start checking you out on social media, you want your profile to project to her that you are not bothered by the break up.
Take a pic with a big smile that says…
“I’m happy and confident. I broke up with my girlfriend recently, but I’m not bothered about it… I’ve moved on”
…and set it as your profile picture.
If your previous profile picture was the two of you together, change it and set a different one with a big smile on your face.
Next is what you post on your wall or timeline:
Don’t be posting too much.
Update your wall once in a while, and when you have something really interesting to share.
Something like, the hike you took a couple of days ago. Or the party you went to last night.
Don’t be posting about boring stuff, like the weather, or how you miss ‘somebody’.
Also, start commenting on your friends posts.
But don’t post about the breakup.
And again, don’t do anything just to get a reaction from your ex-girlfriend.
Now, let’s move on to what will give her the shivers, I mean the fear.
…the pictures and videos you will be uploading
Capture interesting moments in your life.
The trip you took with your friends and the parties you went to. (This’s why I stated earlier you should hang out with your friends).
You should actually go to social events with your friends and TAKE SELFIES.
You can also (or probably should) take pictures of you with other girls, girls your ex-girlfriend don’t know (of course, smiling and having fun).
And lastly, make lots of female friends. Keep adding them to your friends list.
Your ex-girlfriend will definitely notice all these changes, and will be stalking you, wishing she should have never broken up with you.
Now, expect your ex-girlfriend to be posting stuff as well, waiting for you to comment or contact her.
Or if she is too desperate to talk to you, then she will start calling or texting you.
You should actually move on after the breakup
This shouldn’t be a hoax. Don’t try to deceive your ex-girlfriend that you are having a fun time after the breakup.
That’s why you should ACTUALLY follow everything I’ve mentioned in this article:
- Better yourself, get a total makeover
- Hang out with friends and ACTUALLY have fun. Take pictures of everything
- Go to interesting places. Do something new and share them on Facebook
- Date other people, make new friends, and add them on Facebook to get your ex-girlfriend’s attention
You want to showcase your new self on social media to get your ex-girlfriend’s attention.
You want to prove to her that you’re not just sitting at home crying over her. Instead, you’ve moved on, and you’re having an exciting and interesting life which she could have been part off, but she isn’t.
So that’s how you get your ex-girlfriend back using social media. But as far as exes and social media go, there’re some common mistakes to avoid…
Social media mistakes to avoid:
- Don’t cyber-stalk your ex-girlfriend, not even a peek. As curious as you will be, DON’T DO IT! Even if you stumble on her post on your feed by mistake, that seems to be directed at you or the breakup, don’t take it seriously. People will post hurtful things after a break up.
- Don’t change your relationship status immediately after the breakup, Wait a while, then set it to ‘Only Me’ or hide it from public view. Don’t change it to ‘Single’
- Don’t unfriend or block your ex-girlfriend
- Don’t be changing your profile picture too much. A snapshot with a big smile is enough to get her attention and make her want you back
Now to the last point on how to get your ex-girlfriend back…
Let her know that you still care…
But you don’t want to give the impression that you want her back so bad.
Yes, you share a history, and that didn’t just get erased when you guys broke up.
She dumped you, and it was awful. But that doesn’t mean you should be rude to her.
When she call or texts you (and yes, she will) be nice to her, but don’t let her know you want her back so bad.
Play it cool, play hard to get and let her regret leaving you.
And while you let her know you still care, there are some common breakup mistakes you can’t afford to make. This can ruin your chances of getting your ex-girlfriend to want you back.
Below are the breakup mistakes to avoid
Now that you know what to do to get your ex-girlfriend back, you also need to know what NOT to do.
- Avoid calling or texting her to beg her to take you back.
- Don’t stalk or spy on her. This includes intentionally going to places where she might be.
- Don’t dig into her life from friends or families. And don’t ask her friends to help you get her back either. Trying to find out how your ex-girlfriend is doing will certainly get back to her, and she will know that you haven’t moved on (and we don’t want her to think that). This will ruin your chances of getting her to WANT you back.
- Don’t seek revenge on her. This includes jumping into bed with every girl out there
- And lastly, if you really want to attract her back, never agree to be ‘just friends’ with her when she suggests you remain friends for the time being. Don’t OPENLY confirm or deny.
More on the last point – being ‘just friends’
Get this… your ex-girlfriend will mostly force you into the friend zone because she isn’t attracted to you anymore.
You see, when she ask you to be friends for the time being it means that she want to keep you around as backup while she dates other people.
And when she is not able to find someone ‘better’ then she will settle for you.
If you still have feelings for her and you want to get back in a relationship with her, don’t agree to remain friends, hoping one day she will love you again.
Keep yourself out of the friend zone.
Chasing her around and showing desperation are the mistakes that will land you in the friend zone.
And when you get stuck in the friend zone it will be very difficult to recover from it, because as mentioned, she is not attracted to you anymore.
So this is what you do instead:
Demonstrate to her that your world doesn’t revolve around her. You’ve already moved on and not thinking about her anymore.
Follow the tips on bettering yourself to get her to desire you again.
Demonstrate you’re a happy person without her, so that you don’t end up in the friend zone unless you want to.
The only time you should be friends with an ex-girlfriend is when you’ve met someone better than her, someone who understands you and respects you. And you’ve decided to actually move on.
Or you both made a mutual decision to end the relationship.
But if you still have feelings for your ex-girlfriend and you want her back, don’t be stuck in the friend zone.
If you have already made some of the above mistakes, don’t fret too much over it.
You can still get your ex-girlfriend to want you back.
When she contacts very soon after the breakup, here’s how to go about it
Now, when your ex-girlfriend contacts you, wanting to talk or hang out, that’s when you will play hard to get.
The moment you see any signs of interest, don’t jump into her arms right away… become a challenge and let her work for your approval.
When she calls, don’t answer right away. When she leaves a message, don’t be tempted to call her back any time soon.
When you do answer her call after a long ring, don’t act excited as if you were waiting for her call.
Act busy… like you have some other important or exciting thing to do and you only have some few minutes to spare (remember, don’t be rude here).
Don’t tell her what that important or exciting thing is. Let her do the talking and you do the listening.
Don’t initiate topics.
Act as if you are not interested in talking to her, yet being nice.
Keep your answers and the conversation short. And be the one to end the call.
Now, when she text you, instead of responding to her right away, wait more than an hour, then respond.
If she sends you a message when on Facebook, WhatsApp, or any other social media platform, wanting to chat, wait for about 10 minutes then respond. Keep her waiting for each message she sends.
Heck, you can even respond the following day.
You want to give the impression that you are busy chatting with someone else, and you are not that much interested in what she has to say.
If you bump into her, as I mentioned earlier, don’t act desperate and needy. Be subtle about your interaction.
Just say your hellos and go about your business.
If she engages you in a conversation, make it short and be the one to end it. Plus don’t give too much detail about what’s going on in your life.
Yes, I know… you want to get back together with your ex-girlfriend, and this seems like a perfect time to do it.
But trust me on this…
You don’t want her to be calling the shots.
Be in a position of control, and play hard to get. (Do same even if she contacts you after a year.)
If she has not contacted you after 30 days or a very long time
You can use simple text messages to seduce her back into your life.
Texting is an effective way to get an ex-girlfriend back, and one that is necessary for you to know how.
Now, I am going to teach you how to get your ex-girlfriend back through texts, although it is by no way exhaustive (there is a system I RECOMMEND you check out, called ‘Text Your Ex Back 2.0’ by Michael Fiore. It’s a step-by-step system that teaches how to get your ex-girlfriend back over text. You get detailed guidance on how to text your ex-girlfriend back: which texts to send, how many, how often, and all the details you need to win your ex-girlfriend back.)
Let’s begin… how to get your ex-girlfriend back by texts
Not only is texting an effective way to get a girlfriend back, but it’s also the best way to get your ex-girlfriend back in a long distance relationship.
However, there is a wrong approach and a right approach to get your ex-girlfriend back by text.
The wrong approach is making the negative aspect of your relationship (experiences that probably led to the breakup) the subject of your texts.
In other words, your texts shouldn’t come off as an apology.
“Your old relationship is dead and it is never coming back. Making it the subject of your texts is a big mistake. Your goal now is to create a NEW relationship from scratch, hopefully an even BETTER one than you had before”, says Michael Fiore in his award winning program “Text Your Ex Back 2.0”.
Texting your ex-girlfriend, reminding her of something that contributed to the breakup just because you want a conversation starter can bring back bad memories.
And that will not help make your ex-girlfriend come back to you.
Seduce her with texts that brightens her day.
Let me give you an example of a wrong text to send:
Sending a text like…
“Hi, I’m just burning with curiosity… how’s the new job going?”
Now, let’s assume her work situation was part of the reason you guys broke up.
So this isn’t a great starter.
This is the right approach to use…
Think of the future you will want to have with your ex-girlfriend when you guys makeup, instead of the past.
As Michael Fiore as written, “Your goal now is to create a NEW relationship from scratch.”
This’s the right type of text to send. This’s an excerpt from “Text Your Ex Back 2.0”:
“Hey Lorelle, I’m just sitting here looking at the ocean and smiling thinking about the time you tried to teach me to surf. I’ll love to try that again someday. =-)”
You see, this kind of text brightens her day, instead of reminding her of the not-so-perfect past.
And with a text like this, you are not giving the impression you want to get back together. You just want her to teach you how to surf.
How bad is that!
If she responds in the positive, it probably means she still loves you.
Here’s another example:
“Jenny invited me to the new Resident Evil movie and I remember how I jumped and dumped my drink on you when we saw the first one… you were so funny and nice about it. We never did see the rest of it!”
This’s another perfect text to send to seduce your ex-girlfriend back into your life.
What I like about this second text is that, it communicates to her that you have a social life and you are not sitting around moping.
Plus you’re having positive thoughts about her.
What to text to get your ex-girlfriend back
As I said, texting is an effective and the best way to get back with your ex-girlfriend.
To text your ex-girlfriend to get her back, you need pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
What made your relationship great, and what brought you together as a couple. The outdoors, movies, trips… the hobbies you shared.
“If these things brings a little smile to your face and causes you to daydream a little bit, that’s totally great” says Michael Fiore.
Here, you want to plant positive thoughts and emotions about you and the relationship in your ex-girlfriend’s mind so she starts thinking about you in a positive way.
And consequently, make her desire you again.
Use pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
Now, as you text your ex to get her back, here’re a few things to take note:
- Don’t bring up the past negative experiences that caused your relationship to end.
- Don’t ask your ex-girlfriend to get back together. Don’t create the impression you desperately want her back.
- Don’t be sending multiple texts a day. If you guys end up visiting memory lane and get kind of chatty, that’s cool
- Wait like 7 days before sending another text.
- Try to be the one who ends the conversation.
- If you don’t get a response, don’t worry about it.
If you play your cards right, it will move from texting to actually meeting up, dating again, and finally getting back with your ex-girlfriend.
Now, that’s how to get your ex-girlfriend back when she was the one who dumped you.
Next, we look at how to get your ex-girlfriend back if YOU dumped her.
How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back If You Were the One Who Dumped Her
You dumped your girlfriend but now you want her back.
Well, if this is the case then it should be easy to really get your ex-girlfriend back.
All you have to do is to apologize.
Here is a good example of what to say to your ex to get her back:
Tell her you have realized how wrong you were, and that you were thoughtless and insensitive. And you understand how much hurt and pain she might have gone through because of you.
Tell her you want her to know that you were wrong and you want to apologize for being a jerk. And that you are sorry.
And you love her.
Now, that’s a good example of what to say to get back with your ex-girlfriend.
And do it in person… not on the phone, or with the help of your friends.
Here’s a possibility…
You truly want her back, but she might not necessarily want you.
She is heartbroken and hurting. You might not even realize this but in her world you might be the most annoying person at the moment.
So now, you may have to work hard to get her back.
Before you ask her to forgive you and take you back, you must look at things from her perspective.
The wounds might be fresh.
Give her the space to recover from the hurt.
And wait till the time she is in the right emotional state. And trust me; it might not be within the next few days.
Once enough time as pass, text her back into your life using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories. (Read “how to get your ex-girlfriend back by texts” section above.)
Apologizing should be enough to get your ex-girlfriend to like you again. But if she won’t respond to something like this, then she has read this article too, and she’s playing hard to get.
So that’s how to get your ex-girlfriend back if YOU were the one who dumped her.
Again, here’s the step-by-step guidance and tips on how to get your ex-girlfriend back after she has dumped you:
- Don’t let the breakup get the better of you… you must act with self-control to avoid pushing her farther away from you.
- Cease all contact with her for at least 30 days.
- During the 30-day ‘no contact’, better yourself and give yourself a total makeover in order to attract your ex-girlfriend back.
- Hang out with your friends during this 30-day ‘no contact’ to keep your mind off your ex-girlfriend.
- Date other people to get your ex-girlfriend insecure and jealous, and have her running back to you.
- Be in a position of control. Don’t chase or beg her to take you back.
- Showcase your new self on social media to get her attention
- Let her know you still care, but don’t show any neediness
- If she has not contacted you for a very long time, use text messages to seduce her back into your life
- If she suggests you remain friends for the time being, don’t go along with it.
That’s the recap of how to get your ex-girlfriend back when she was the one who dumped you.
Here’s how to get your ex-girlfriend back if YOU dumped her:
If you were the one who dumped her, see her in person and apologize. But if she don’t respond, give her some space to recover from the hurt, and wait till the time she is in the right emotional state, then seduce her back with text messages, using pieces of your relationship that brings back good memories.
So there you have it – how to get your ex-girlfriend back.
So now that you know how to get your ex-girlfriend back, all the things to avoid and the steps to take, it is important that you take action right now.
It is one thing learning how to get your ex-girlfriend back, and it is another, successfully getting back with an ex.
Following everything I’ve taught you so far, you should be able to get her attention, and get her to desire you again.
If you do this, and if she has any interest in rekindling the relationship, you should be able to makeup and have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.
To your success!