“This is how to become an alpha male… not muscles, not intimidation, not manipulation, not ridiculing… but by your attitude and mannerism. Because that’s what makes people look up to you and follow you”
When you think of the term “alpha male”, what comes to mind is dominance or authority (a manly trait women find attractive).
It is used largely to refer to the more dominant and aggressive males in the animal kingdom. Otherwise known as the leaders of the pack.
The alpha male in the animal kingdom uses certain cues and behaviors to dominate the other (lesser) males or cause them to follow it.
Now, as humans, we too can demonstrate our alpha male characteristics or traits and get people to look up to us and follow us… or for the specific purpose of this article, MAKE WOMEN WANT YOU.
So, here in this article, I teach you how to become an alpha male… or how to become an ALPHA MAN (or how to be perceived as an alpha man, same thing) and get any woman attracted to you.
I share with you how to be an alpha male not just necessarily in life, but specifically with women. And how to exhibit those alpha male personality traits around women to get them attracted to you.
You will also learn the mistakes to avoid if you really want to be perceived as an alpha man.
So before we begin, let’s look at how the alpha male or alpha man stands out from other men.
After that, we get to the meat of this article – ‘How to Be an Alpha Man’.
The alpha male…
Without a doubt, there are more than one kind of man. There is the alpha man and there is the rest.
Unlike the other kind of men, the alpha man is a man of high status. He has leadership characteristics and he is confident (traits women find attractive).
His self-worth comes from within. Thus, he doesn’t look to people, especially women for validation or seek their approval. This includes, bragging and showing off to get women’s attention.
Truth is, he is not needy and he doesn’t put women on pedestal or waste his time trying to impress a woman. Because he’s the prize, and women should be the ones to work for his approval.
In fact, he is the man every man wants to BE and every woman wants to BE WITH.
And surprisingly, he doesn’t plead for s*x as well.
Yes… he has desires like any other man. He is se*ual and he is not ashamed of it. But he doesn’t chase women. After all, if he wants ‘some’, he can easily get it.
He doesn’t spend too much money on a woman he has a crush on (such as buying her expensive stuffs and taking her out to expensive or fancy restaurants) to get her to like him in return or impress her.
Heck! he’s an alpha man. Women do such stuff to seek his approval.
(If he’s going to spend tons of money at all, he spends it on the woman he’s already in a relationship with.)
The alpha man is also not concerned with what people think of him. And he also doesn’t feel threatened by other men over the woman he’s interested in. Because surely, he knows what he’s made up of. He knows he’s superior and a good catch. And not only can he get any woman he wants, but women rather clamour for his attention.
Now, aside from his attractive mannerism and alpha male traits, he also knows how to make people, especially women, feel good and comfortable around him.
So with this in mind, let’s begin… on how to become an alpha male (or how to be perceived as an alpha male) and get any woman attracted to you.
How to Be an Alpha Male – What Really Makes You Alpha
To become an alpha man, or display the alpha personality traits, we’re going to look at the important and main elements you should work on.
I’ve grouped them into five (5) categories. And they are:
- Your mindset
- Your body language, specifically your posture
- Your eye contact
- The behaviour, mannerism and attitude to exhibit when out and about, or around people
- Then finally, how you talk to people
With that said, let’s begin…
How to Become an Alpha Male and Make Women Want You
Now, I break these categories down.
I’m going to teach you how to become an alpha male by mastering each of the 5 categories.
Let’s get started…
Alpha Male Personality #1 – Your mindset
Being an alpha man begins with adopting the right mindset and having a positive and optimistic foresight… and an inner confidence.
…both in your personal lifestyle and in the dating world.
Have a mental picture of yourself as a man of high status, a man people will respect and admire, and a man women will be attracted to.
Leave life to its fullest, and don’t be concerned with what people think of you. Keep in mind, you’re in charge of your life. So be self-assured, focus on yourself and pursue what you want in life.
Be your own boss. See things from the ‘I can do’ perspective. Be optimistic and believe in yourself and your ability to succeed. And this includes the ability to attract hot women.
In the same breath, don’t look to others, especially women, for validation or self-esteem. Don’t be preoccupied with what a woman thinks of you. Instead, focus on yourself and try and be the best.
Like I mentioned earlier, the alpha man doesn’t look to women for validation or seek their approval. So if you want to become an alpha man and make women want you, you SHOULDN’T seek their approval either. Instead, have the mindset that you are irresistible to women and a good catch, and that every woman will be lucky to be with you.
As you see, what you’re doing here is having the mindset that you’re superior, and people will treat you with great respect and admiration. And the end result, it will reflect in everything you do, including your body language. And people will pick up on it and perceive you to be an alpha.
And this takes us to the next lifestyle element on how to be an alpha male… what your posture or body language should be.
Make sure you have the mindset of an alpha man, or you will come across as a fake.
Alpha Male Personality #2 – Your posture
The next step to be perceived as an alpha man is to monitor what your body language, specifically your posture, communicates to people.
In short, display confident body language (in addition to your mindset and other traits of an alpha male yet to be mentioned.)
Hold your chest and head high with your shoulders back when standing and walking (not hunched over or in a slouching posture.)
When you sit, lounge and lean back. And keep your legs and arms UNCROSSED, and expose your crotch.
Also, have a relaxed and spread-out posture when standing. Thus, spread your arms and legs out (feet apart) and take up space around you.
When walking, walk a little slower and unhurriedly (unless you’re in a hurry to get somewhere.)
Plus, when giving your attention to someone, turn your head slowly – don’t do it in a hasty manner. Remember, you’re an alpha (or an alpha to be)… you’re not in this world to impress or please anyone.
In the words of dating expert David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: “This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE details make all the difference when dealing with a woman.”
In simple words, you will stand out and people, especially women, will see you different… in this case, ALPHA. [Read 5 body language of an alpha male that instantly gets women attention]
Next is how you use your eye contact to demonstrate you’re an alpha man…
The first impression you give people is based on your body language. Without saying a word, a woman will quickly figure out what type of person you are.
Alpha Male Personality #3 – Your eye contact
Making strong eye contact demonstrates (or is an indication of) dominance. Thus, it communicates to people you’re an alpha man.
When you maintain strong eye contact when talking to people, it conveys to them you’re a man of high status, and you’re confident. But when you look down, or avert your gaze, you communicate submissiveness, a sense of low status and self-consciousness.
So look people in the eye when talking to them.
Now, to demonstrate to women you’re an alpha man, seductively gaze directly at them and don’t let your eyes dart around. This, she will see you as a dominant male. And dominance equals alpha.
Maintain consistent eye contact when you are doing the talking. But when you’re the one doing the listening glance away a few times. Because the less you look at the other person while they’re talking, the more dominant you’re perceived to be.
Hint: If you see a girl or a woman you find attractive, and she notices you staring at her, don’t look away. Instead, hold her gaze until she looks away. Not only do you signal to her you find her attractive and probably interested, but it also conveys to her you’re a dominant male and you’re not afraid of women (traits of a confident man.)
Alpha Male Personality #4 – The behaviour and mannerism to exhibit
Demonstrate dominance and make people follow your lead.
Dominance is the utmost trait to display when out and about. Because without it, you’re just like any other man – without superiority.
There are many ways to go about demonstrating your dominance and coming across as an alpha man. And they are:
a. Take charge and make the decisions
In other words, be the leader in your social circle (a.k.a. be in charge).
The alpha man is a leader. Not only does he commands respect and get people to follow his lead, he also creates fun and excitement to those in his circle.
To be perceived as an alpha man, don’t rely on others to make decisions. Instead, take charge and be the guy everyone looks to.
Make firm decisions and don’t hesitate in its execution. In other words, don’t be afraid to take risks. That’s what leaders do – they take risks and don’t back down from a problem.
Don’t offensively boss people around. You want to demonstrate dominance and display your authority, but it doesn’t mean you should manipulate or intimidate people. Don’t ridicule people and prove that you’re smarter than them. Instead, be an inspiration to them, guide them.
Plan events and make sure everyone involved have fun.
When dealing with women, instead of allowing them to make decisions, be the one to decide what to do for the night, pick the restaurant, decide what to do for the weekend, etc.
Don’t ask them permission to do something with you. Instead, command: “I’m off to get some lunch, come along with me”. You’re an alpha (or you want to be one), so have the mindset that people will follow.
Truth is, women look to men to make decisions for them. So, to be perceived as an alpha man in the eyes women, take charge and lead.
The next way to demonstrate dominance is to…
…have standards in life and don’t accept anything mediocre (tip b.)
What does this mean?
Have principles and stick to them.
Don’t allow anybody to disrespect you or take advantage of your good nature.
Don’t allow people to talk down to you or walk all over you.
When somebody disrespects you, let them know you don’t put up with such behaviour.
By the same token, control your emotions. Don’t lose your temper when offended.
Without standards, everyone will see you as an equal and treat you anyhow.
When it comes to dating, tread carefully. Because women will try to manipulate you, play games with you to test your ALPHA-NESS. Including using drama.
Let them know you have standards in your life by passing their test. As an alpha man to be, be a challenge.
As I mentioned earlier, the alpha man is not needy and he doesn’t put women on pedestal or waste his time trying to impress a woman (even the most beautiful women). Because he’s the prize, and women should be the ones to work for his approval.
When you communicate to a woman you’re not like the other guys she meets who try hard to impress her, she will see you as an alpha, and consequently, you’ll increase her attraction for you.
Similar to having standards in life to demonstrate your dominance is to express your views without fear. And this takes us to the next tip on how to become an alpha male…
Without standards, everyone will see you as an equal and treat you anyhow.
c. Express your views in an intelligent manner and without fear
Disagree with people when they’re in the wrong. And don’t be afraid to speak your mind.
But of course, do it reasonably and know what you’re talking about. Don’t display too much intelligence, especially when a person you’re talking to is trying to display HIS intelligence – don’t let them suck you into their reality.
Don’t prove yourself to anyone.
The alpha man doesn’t seek approval from others, including the woman he finds attractive. And you SHOULDN’T either if you want to be perceived as an alpha man.
Sure, you have respect for others, but it doesn’t mean you should agree with everything they say. And sure, you might feel attracted to a woman, but it also doesn’t mean you should wimpishly agree with everything she says.
When you always agree to everything a woman says, you come across as a weak-willed man. And she can easily manipulate you.
“The ‘Yes Man’ isn’t attractive to women. He’s the guy who agrees with everything a girl says. Secretly he has an opinion, but is afraid to voice it. That’s because he’s afraid that women won’t like him if he is disagreeable”, says dating expert Steve Scott.
When you voice your opinion, it communicates to people you’re NOT afraid of them. Thus, it communicates your self-confidence.
To the next tip on how to be an alpha male by demonstrating your dominance…
…make physical contact with people (tip d.)
In addition to other traits of the alpha male, make occasional physical contact as you engage people in conversation.
This is a must do alpha male behaviour. Because it communicates to them you’re confident and secure in yourself.
Most especially, with a woman you’re interested in, touch or make physical contact with her any opportunity you get. Lightly touch her arm or shoulder to emphasize a point. Offer your hand when crossing the street or guiding her through a crowd of people.
When you make physical contact with the woman you like, it not only sends a strong signal you’re confident and not afraid of women, but it also strengthens the connection you’re building with her.
As dating expert John Alexander has written in his book, ‘How to Become an Alpha Male: Attract Women and Become Successful at Seduction’ (Grab a copy here): “It is also a hallmark of alpha males that they feel free to touch others. So by being free with your touching, you are non-verbally communicating that you are an alpha male and a man who has confidence with women”.
The next tip on how to be an alpha male with your dominance is to…
e. Remove any jealousy
The alpha man doesn’t rely on women for his happiness. Because if he loses a woman today, he knows he can easily get another to replace her tomorrow.
So if you see your woman talking to another dude, be cool with it. Have the mindset that the other guy is not on the same level with you.
BELIEVE you’re better and superior than other men. Because, not only do you know what women want and how to make them feel good in many ways, you’ve also got the qualities they find attractive in a man. [If you don’t know the qualities am talking about, read the personality traits women find most attractive in a guy and work on those you fall short. Then bookmark my blog and come back to it when you need some dating tips and relationship advice]
As dating expert John Alexander has written in his book, ‘How to Become an Alpha Male’: “If you knew that you were the shit and that you can attract hot babes and get la!d easily, would you care that your girl is going off and talking with some other guys? Of course not, because that would be her loss (and you could just get la!d from some other chick)”.
So as an alpha man to be, don’t intervene or stop your woman from talking to other men. Because, you don’t want her to see you as needy and insecure.
Let he know seeing her talking to other dudes doesn’t faze you at all. Not only will this make you alpha, she will also find you unique and superior. (And trust me, she will make up for it)
The next tip on how to be an alpha male with your dominance is to…
…learn to disappoint and say “No” (tip f.)
Do things for people because you want to and not because they ask you to. If someone wants you to do something and you can’t, don’t.
With women, not only do they try to manipulate men, but they also test men’s dominance.
Now, here’s how to be an alpha male in a relationship… just because your woman wants you to accompany her to the mall, doesn’t mean you should set aside your busy schedule and wimpishly do as she says.
If your girl wants you to do something with her, and you’re kinda busy, let her know you’re busy. And reschedule to a time you think works for you. Thus, make a counteroffer.
As dating expert John Alexander has written in his book ‘How to Become an Alpha Male: “By saying no, you establish your authority and set yourself up as a challenge for the woman. If she views you as a challenge, then she will be excited by you instead of bored. If you say YES to everything your woman suggests, then she will soon be saying NO to you, and in the worst place of all… the bedroom”.
It’s irrelevant to the alpha man what a woman thinks of him. So don’t care how your woman will react after rejecting her offer. Because you know that you’re adventurous, a fun and interesting guy, and she’s fortunate to be with you.
Don’t overdo this though. Because you don’t want to come across as too self-absorbed.
And the last but not least on how to be an alpha male with your dominance is to…
g. take the lead role with women
You see, women always expect men to make the first move and take the lead. Including leading her to the bedroom.
Unlike the lower status man who plays it safe with a woman he likes and is afraid to do or say something that will offend her, the alpha man makes his move and is not afraid to take risk with women he finds attractive.
So if you want to be perceived as an alpha man in the eyes of a woman, act in a way that will make you stand out from other men in an attractive and positive way.
For example, when you talk to a woman, don’t be afraid to talk about se*ual topics or make se*ual innuendos.
Give her the impression you’re comfortable talking about s*x.
Plus, after building attraction with her, push your encounter and interaction steadily towards s*x. Thus, make your move when the opportunity presents itself. Don’t expect her to initiate it, because she won’t. She doesn’t want to come across as the ‘S’ word.
(If you don’t make the move and take the lead with a woman, you risk winding up in the friend zone.)
The alpha man makes his move and is not afraid to take risk with women he finds attractive.
Alpha Male Personality #5 – How you talk to people
The last but not least alpha man traits is to learn to speak with a deeper voice (if you aren’t already). Not only is it pleasing to the ear, but it communicates to the listener you’re confident. So instead of speaking in a monotonous pitch, speak from your diaphragm and make your voice deeper.
Also, don’t hurry through your conversation. Slow down your speech and pause to recollect your thoughts if you have to. Unlike the average guy who talks too fast and feels like he needs to communicate his message in one go, speak slower. Lean back, relax, and captivates your listener’s attention with your conversational skill. (And speaking of conversational skill, learn how to talk to women.)
By the same token, control the conversation towards subject you’re interested in talking about to demonstrate your leadership characteristics. And don’t be afraid to interrupt the other person talking. Nevertheless, be a good listener and let people feel they’ve earned your attention.
Plus, make hand gestures when talking. And as previously mentioned, look people in the eye when talking to them.
The right mindset, good body language, strong eye contact, attractive mannerism coupled with good tonality, will make you stand out and naturally attract people to you.
Other alpha male tips…
- Be knowledgeable and hone your skills.
- Don’t be smiling excessively. Smile only when there’s something to smile about.
- Love people but trust no one.
- Be persistent with women, don’t give up that easily. When you meet a woman you’re interested in, don’t be afraid to make a move. Plus, don’t be afraid of rejection. Truth is, a girl might say “no” to you, yet her body language will show signs of interest.
- Don’t quivered when speaking to a girl. Have the mindset that you’re a man of high status and any woman or girl will be lucky to be with you.
- Don’t argue with your girlfriend. And never insult her.
The mistakes to avoid…
Just like with everything, there are some things you should definitely NOT do if you want to be perceived as an alpha male.
So as you learn how to become an alpha male, it is just as important to know the mistakes to avoid.
- Never spend money on a woman to win her affection. Because, it communicates to her, her value is higher than yours and that, you’re trying to earn her approval by buying her things. The alpha man is a man of high value or status.
- Don’t intentionally do things to impress her. The alpha man doesn’t look to women for validation.
- Don’t brag or show off either. The alpha man doesn’t need people’s approval.
- Don’t bully or force others into doing what you want.
- Avoid fidgeting and nervous facial gestures such as biting your lips, licking your lips, pursing your lips, and twitching your nose. Instead, be relaxed knowing that you’re irresistible to women.
- One of the mistakes you could also make with a woman you’re interested in is playing it safe. The alpha man is not afraid to express his intentions and make his move at the opportune time. Of course, you don’t want to rush things when you meet a woman for the first time. But you need to convey to her your interest is not solely in friendship. And this is achieved via your conversational style (se*ual innuendos) and mannerism (flirting with her).
Conclusion: How to Become the Alpha Male
As you can see, there are a lot of traits and qualities that capture the essence of an alpha man. And none is about intimidating and bossing people around.
It is your optimism, courage, decisiveness, dominant behavior, having standards in life, showing confidence, having a strong body language and other related traits that shows you are an Alpha Man.
Even when you’re an employee in a firm you can still be perceived as an alpha man and make people respect you (including your boss).
It might be absurd to be an alpha yet work under a leader. But keep this in mind… even the CEOs reports to a board of directors. So, it goes without saying, though you may report to a superior, you can still become an alpha.
All you need to remember is act in a high-status manner. Have the mindset that you are a man of high value, and don’t allow anyone to belittle you or treat you less. Focus on yourself, be your own boss, do your own thing, be the best you can be, and live life to its fullest.
Be self-sufficient and self-assured. Don’t care about what people think of you. And you shouldn’t waste your time trying to impress or please anyone.
So, there you have it – how to become an alpha male (or how to be perceived as an alpha male or man).