“If you want to attract a girl, you have to find some way of intriguing her. You cannot simply walk up to a girl, introduce yourself, and expect her to fall head-over-heels for you.” – Steve Scott.
Girls are attracted to certain types of guys (and for certain reasons). There’re certain traits or qualities a guy exhibits that girls find attractive, and are therefore drawn to. And when you display those attractive qualities, any girl you meet will find you attractive.
In this article, I teach you how to attract girls by displaying those attractive qualities around them.
I first share with you how to attract a girl without talking to her. Here, you’ll learn how to attract girls the moment they lay eyes on you.
After that, I teach you how to attract the girl you want (or how to attract a girl when you’re getting to know each other). Here, you’ll learn how to make a girl attracted to you with your attractive qualities.
Then finally, I give you an important ingredient in dating that is essential in getting any girl attracted to you.
Now, what I share in this article boils down to one principle and one principle only… to attract girls, you need to be different in an attractive way. You need to be unique and superior. Whenever a girl sees you, or in your presence, she has to have the impression that you’re more important than the other guys she’s met. That’s how to attract a girl to you… and that’s what I teach you in this article.
Before we begin, let’s debunk the common misconception
Just like most guys, you probably have the misconception that you have to be good-looking to attract girls. Or you have to have more money to get a girl interested in you.
Sure, some girls prefer guys with lots of money – the gold-diggers. But what makes a girl attracted to a guy or what attracts a girl to a man is his attractive personality traits. [Read the 10 personality traits girls find attractive in a guy]
So when you display the personality traits and mannerisms I share in this article around girls, you’re sure to get any girl attracted to you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re bald, poor, or obese. Girls will find you attractive when you display these traits and mannerisms.
Even if she goes for the good-looking guys, she will choose you over good-looks when you follow what I teach in this article.
With that said, let’s begin…
How to attract girls without saying a word or talking to them
When a girl sees you for the first time, here’s how to attract her – how to attract a girl at first sight:
Improve your outward appearance
Dress neatly or properly whenever you’re out in public. (Either to meet girls or just going out.)
Get a nice haircut if you need one. Shave or trim any excess body hair.
Keep your teeth clean, floss and use mouthwash. Keep your nails short, trimmed and clean.
Shower regularly and ALWAYS put on deodorant.
As the saying goes, “first impression counts”. And the same is true when it comes to dating girls.
Girls pay close attention to the way we (guys) dress and our physical appearance.
They notice if our belt and shoes match, etc. So make sure you’re well-groomed when out in public.
The first step to attracting girls is to look your best at all times.
When this aspect is covered, any girl who sees you will be checking you out. And will want to know you more.
Now, after you’ve worked on your appearance and whatnot, the next tip is to be cognisant of the way you behave and act around girls.
So next, we look at how to attract girls with the way you behave and act around them.
Girls pay close attention to the way we dress and our physical appearance
The behaviour and mannerisms to demonstrate when out and about
What attracts a girl the most or what girls are attracted to is your behaviour and mannerism. (Not necessarily good looks.)
To get girls attracted to you, you’d want to stand out from other guys. You’d want to attract a girl’s attention and let her see you unique. You’d want a girl to see you fun and interesting when in your presence.
And to accomplish this, you have to exhibit the personality traits girls find most attractive in a guy.
And most especially, now that you’re looking to attract any girl (probably someone you haven’t met or talked to yet), here’re the three (3) personality traits to exhibit when out and about:
- Confident body language, specifically your posture
- Sense of Humor
Other traits to exhibit when you’re getting to know each other (to get her attracted to you) will be mentioned as you read along.
Now, when you specifically exhibit the above three (3) traits when out and about, you’ll notice girls will be drawn to you.
Let’s get into detail.
…how to attract a girl with your posture
Posture is an essential body language to attract a girl. It communicates to her you are an alpha male. And interestingly, it also communicates you’re confident in yourself.
So when you’re standing, have a broad posture with shoulders back (not hunched over). With your head held high and back, with feet apart. And with your hands on your hips or with your thumbs hooked in your pockets.
…the next traits to demonstrate is humor
Be funny or have a sense of humor.
Now supposedly your potential girlfriend is among a group. Make witty comments when talking to a group. And ‘communicate’ to your potential girlfriend you’re a fun person to be around with. Because here, when you get her laughing, she will feel attracted to you. (Before you even start getting to know each other).
…the next traits to demonstrate is dominance
In other words, show leadership characteristics.
What do I mean by this?
…don’t let people belittle you.
Be in control, and don’t be afraid to voice your opinion.
…these traits outweigh any flaws
They overcome looks and riches. And it gets girls purportedly out of your league attracted to you.
From the way you carry yourself, to how you make people feel around you, will naturally get any girl attracted to you.
So that’s how to attract girls the moment they lay eyes on you. And in the first few minutes of noticing you.
Now, let’s move on to how to get any girl attracted to you, or how to attract the girl you like. Thus, when you’ve met a girl and you’re getting to know each other.
Girls are not attracted to looks. But to your attitude and mannerism
How to Be Attractive to Girls You’ve Just Met
From here onward, I teach you how to make girls attracted to you or how to attract a girl you like when you’ve just met.
Let’s go on:
The average guy puts a girl on a pedestal, because he is afraid the girl won’t like him.
He is too nice and agrees with everything a girl says. Because he wants to please her. And he wants the girl to like him.
But acting this way will make a girl manipulate you.
To attract a girl, you need to be different.
Don’t put girls on a pedestal. Don’t do things to please or impress a girl.
Sure… respect girls and don’t be arrogant. But don’t let them walk over you.
“If a woman can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then why the hell do guys think that they’re going to be interesting by doing the same thing that every other guy has done?” – says dating expert, David DeAngelo in his book, ‘Double Your Dating’.
So stand out from other guys.
Demonstrate that you have standards, and you’re a high status guy. And you’re not going to allow her to treat you like the wimpy a$$ kissers.
Next on how to attract a girl is to…
Show no interest in her
The best way to attract girls, or the best way to attract a girl you like is to pretend you’re not interested in her. Yet demonstrating attractive personality traits that will get her attracted to you.
A proven tactic that really attracts girls to guy, most especially now that you’re getting to know each other, is to show no interest in her at the beginning of meeting her.
In simple words… send mixed signals or play hard to get.
Movies have led us to believe that to get a girl interested in you, you need to be the one to chase or pursue her. But that SHOULD NOT be the case.
In fact, excessively showing interest can hurt your chances of winning a girl over.
If she knows you’re already attracted or interested in her, it gives her the upper hand.
As dating expert David DeAngelo has written in his book, “It’s far better to ATTRACT a woman than to CHASE one”.
So instead of being the pursuer, be the one BEING chased or pursued.
Gone are the days when you childishly do things to get girls attention. Or foolishly (misguidedly) try to score with a girl. And telegraph your intentions or ulterior motive.
This time around, show maturity and make girls chase you instead.
Of course, don’t be a stand-offish
Just try not to show signs of interest at the beginning of meeting her.
Don’t be smiling excessively. Don’t do too much nice things for her. Even if she asks, say “NO”.
In fact, give the impression you don’t care if she is the prettiest girl around. What attracts girls to boys or what girls find attractive in a guy, is the “I don’t care” personality.
Remember, girls are used to guys always hitting on them on a regular basis…
…so this not only communicate to a girl you’re not looking to score, but interestingly, it drives her nut. And thus, intensifies her attraction for you.
Plus, it communicates to her you have standards.
When you demonstrate this attitude around girls, you will stand out. And they will find you attractive. [Read how to make any girl want you so bad]
It’s far better to attract a girl than to chase one
Hone your communication skills
As you learn how to attract a girl towards you, it also behoves you to know how to talk to girls. [Read how to talk to a girl]
Engage the girl you like in an emotional and fun conversation.
Emotional and fun conversation in the sense that it has to be about her and her interests.
So talk about things or topics that interests her.
The best way to do this is to ask her questions about herself, then follow up her responses.
What attracts girls the most is the “I want to know you” personality.
So gear the conversation towards getting to know her, instead of talking about boring topics.
…engage her in an inspiring and exciting conversation and make her have fun around you
Talk and share a commonality. Describe the hobbies you both enjoy. This is how to get a girl emotionally attracted to you.
Ask superficial questions about who she is, then move into deeper emotional questions about her goals and her future plans. [Read things to talk about with a girl]
Talk about your favourite celebrities too.
Always talk about engaging topics and avoid the negative and controversial ones.
If you’ve got an interesting, amusing to passionate stories in connection with what you’re discussing, tell them.
“Being able to tell a good story is IMPERATIVE in not only keeping the conversation going, but also in helping you to attract your target and create a sense of comfort and connection with them”, says dating expert and pick up artist, Joseph Matthews, in his book ‘The Art of Approaching’.
If you can connect with the girl you like on a deeper emotional level, you will increase your chances of attracting her dramatically.
And while at it…
…show your humorous side and get her laughing uncontrollably
Make humorous statements when conversing with the girl you like.
Teasing a girl is also a great way to show your humorous side. Tease her in a playfully manner any chance you get.
Do you have some funny jokes you can tell? Then tell them.
Let her see you as a fun guy to be around with. And you will stand out in an attractive way.
Don’t try too hard to be funny. Just make witty comments. And no mean jokes either.
The way you speak is also an effective way to get a girl attracted to you
Speak in a deep voice and with energy. And use gestures, facial expressions, and even different voices to emphasis your points.
This will make you interesting in the eyes of a girl. And as I mentioned earlier, you’d want girls to see you different in an attractive way.
In addition to speaking in a deep voice, is to speak slow and clear.
In other words, don’t be talking too fast. Take your time to convey your message.
Next on how to be attractive to a girl is to also…
Show her you’re a fun person to be with
How do you attract a girl with this?
Mini-date with her.
Again, if you want to attract a girl, you’d want to come across as an exciting and interesting guy. And in order to do this, you have to mini-date with her when the opportunity presents itself.
This means maximising the time you spend together. Go for a walk on the park, go to fairs.
Spend quality time together getting to know each other while having fun.
This makes you stand out. Because she probably hasn’t experienced this before.
So in addition to your sense of humor and engaging her in an exciting conversation, mini-date with a girl to show her you’re a fun person to be with.
Pass her tests
Disagree with a girl when she’s in the wrong. Voice your opinion. And do not give in to her drama.
In short, stand your grounds.
This will communicate to her you’re different from the other guys she’s met.
A girl will always test you to see if you’re weak, inferior and whatnot.
She will try to manipulate you. If you give in, not only will she walk all over you, but she will see you as the type of guy she doesn’t feel any attraction for.
Similar to being different, you have to be able to pass her tests. Let her know you have standards. And you will not allow her to treat you anyhow.
Yes, you’ve probably shown some interest. But you have to ‘communicate’ to her you’re ready to walk away.
Be mysterious and UNPREDICTABLE
Here’s also how to attract girls.
“Don’t be predictable. Do the unexpected when they LEAST expect it,” says dating expert David DeAngelo.
In other words, do things or act contrary to her expectations.
If she calls you to hang out, say you’re busy and reschedule. If she asks you to do something for her, tell her “No”. But do it later when she least expects it.
Be mysterious as well.
Don’t tell a girl everything about yourself. Even when she asks, hold back some of the details or try to change the subject. And let her discover them on her own.
Other tips to attract a girl towards you (what to do and what to avoid)
- Don’t be preoccupied with any physical flaws you may have. Instead, be attractive to yourself and your ability to attract girls. In the words of dating expert Steve Scott, “fix what you can, then learn to accept the things beyond your control.”
- Be knowledgeable or demonstrate intelligence. Thus, if you’re going to say something, make sure you know what you’re talking about.
- Don’t be complimenting her too much just about anything. Just notice the littles things the ordinary guy wouldn’t notice, then compliment her on it. Here, when other guys are complimenting her on her looks and physique, you’re doing something different. You’re complimenting her on the little details the other guys failed to notice. Like the new hairdo or the new shoe she’s wearing.
- Demonstrate positivity. Talk about problems and bad situations in a positive light. This also includes showing friendliness towards other people.
- Be romantic. Sure, don’t show interest at the beginning. But there’re some instances when you have to let her know you find her attractive too.
As you know what to do to attract girls, it is equally important you know what NOT to do:
- Don’t buy a girl gifts with the hopes that she will like you. Because it telegraphs to her what your intentions are. And she will rather find you unattractive.
- Don’t INTENTIONALLY do things to get a girl’s attention. It communicates to her you’re needy (and it’s unattractive).
- Never brag or show off.
So that’s how to attract a girl you like (or how to attract girls).
An important stuff to know
Always demonstrate confidence.
Develop a positive mindset and believe in your abilities to succeed with girls.
Believe you have what it takes to get girls to like you. And that every girl will be lucky to be with you.
Even if you’re short or poor… have the belief that you can attract or get any girl you want with your personality.
When you’re thinking like this, your confidence will grow.
And this will manifest in everything you do. And girls will pick up on it, and will find you attractive.
You now know how to attract a stranger girl (or how to attract females you’re not acquainted with). And you also know how to get the girl you want to be attracted to you.
Any man can learn how to attract girls, if he is willing to learn how and put it into action.
There are other things to do to attract a girl (or things that attract girls) that probably haven’t been mentioned in this article. You may already know some of them from other dating sites.
Now, you’ve learned a few more from this article. Combine them, and let it be a natural part of you. And you’re guaranteed to attract any girl you want.
So there you have it – how to attract a girl you like (or how to attract girls)